Tromboneman Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 This forum helped me a lot some years back, but visiting it was becoming obsessive. So quit the forum. Was posting a lot but can't seem to recollect the username and password anymore. Bulleting as I find paragraphs overbearing. 2008: move cities and have a long distance relationship. 2008 (mid) : get bullied and what not at university. 2008 (end) : fall for a girl in university. In 2 relationships now. I know really despicable but was young and desperate. 2009: things go on 2010: Break up with girl 1. Relationship with girl 2 only 2010 : multiple things happen. Girl 2 cheats on me (emotional cheating) we make up Later I think girl 1 is true love. Continue miserable relationship with girl 2 and keep pining for girl 1. graduate 2011: move to a different city. Almost no friends and a dead end kinda job. Still the pining going on 2011 mid: miserable couple of months. Girl 2 emotional cheating again. Cop out on the cheating by me in the past. Now I am pining for girl 2 miserable 2012 and 2013. Did almost everything advised not to be done. Pathetic behavior to get back girl 2. Ofc not possible any more Wisen up and go NC. An year with no relationships 2014: begin new relationship. NC with exes. 2015: email from girl 2. Don't read it. 2017: girl 2 writes saying how she wants to apologize. Is married to that guy and a mother. Ignored first couple of mails. But she kept on incessant mailing. She has moved to the States and has been abused. Writes begging to talk and wants to apologize. Is literally on the same mode I was before. Just says don't want anything back but just wanna apologize. I am in a relationship and have wisened up. Have no interest in talking to her but all this mailing coupled with begging literally makes me a little sad. Should I mail and apology accepted and move on or just remain indifferent. I empathize with this misery that's why I ask. I Nothing her now. No love no hate. She isn't a bad person neither am I.. It just wasn't our time.
Maldives Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 there must be a reason ur hesitating sending a mail or being indecisive about sending the mail there in lies your answer what to do
Author Tromboneman Posted September 9, 2017 Author Posted September 9, 2017 She mailed 2 days ago.. They are in one of the areas getting impacted by Irma.. And her words you won't speak to me if this was the last time.. I am still not sure.. I think if I speak to her it will do her more damage than good.. Long time people on this site said closure needs to come from within .. Although I did not agree as a pining ex over time I realized they were right.. Any thoughts anyone?
bummer Posted September 9, 2017 Posted September 9, 2017 I am still not sure.. I think if I speak to her it will do her more damage than good.. Then don't! You know what's best. We don't. In my view, 4 years is sufficient for both of you especially if she's married with kids. Just mail back apology accepted and state, "I am in a relationship now and think it best to let things go. Good luck and Goodbye." Maybe you will speed her closure by at least acknowledging her? 1
Author Tromboneman Posted September 9, 2017 Author Posted September 9, 2017 Then don't! You know what's best. We don't. In my view, 4 years is sufficient for both of you especially if she's married with kids. Just mail back apology accepted and state, "I am in a relationship now and think it best to let things go. Good luck and Goodbye." Maybe you will speed her closure by at least acknowledging her? Agreed and appreciate.. Will do in the coming week.. Once Irma passes.. I am not in the States but I hear it is a level 5 storm.. Survival rather than a 7 year old ex should take priority..
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