Author CaringGuy Posted September 4, 2017 Author Posted September 4, 2017 I agree with you, Marc. I'm going to try and focus on myself from here on out. Regardless of what some tasteless and immature people post on here, I still standby by my actions despite what one opinion may say about me. I'm practing the laws of attraction. 1
Marc878 Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 You can only control you. Trying to nice them back never works. Ever!!! Being friends with an X will get you nothing either. It seems your attention while you may think is thoughtful has pushed her from not having any feelings towards you to getting annoyed. You chase they run farther away from you. You cant make some one love you or make them do anything. What are your feelings when someone tries to maske you do something you don't want to? Very same thing 2
Author CaringGuy Posted September 4, 2017 Author Posted September 4, 2017 Well, Marc. I tried what I thought would work. Everyone has fed me different opinions on what I should do. I was always told that anything ever done out of compassion is never wrong, but I guess it isn't true in every situation. Perhaps once I change myself for the better, she'll take a look at me again someday.
Marc878 Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 Well, Marc. I tried what I thought would work. Everyone has fed me different opinions on what I should do. I was always told that anything ever done out of compassion is never wrong, but I guess it isn't true in every situation. Perhaps once I change myself for the better, she'll take a look at me again someday. Don't do it for her. You can't manipulate people either. Do it for yourself. One thing you should read is "No More Mr Nice Guy" free PDF download. It's helped many Forge ahead in your own life. The world is full of great girls. Look at this as experience to help you become who you want to be. Your X is only one of many. She's not some special snowflake and the world won't end because this didn't work out. Prepare yourself for the right one.
Author CaringGuy Posted September 4, 2017 Author Posted September 4, 2017 Marc, it might come as a shocker, but I'm 32 years old and I've had my fair share of relationships. To say this woman isn't special is inaccurate. I understand where you're trying to get at but, brother, I've never met a woman like in her my life. Have you ever had a connection with somebody that you can feel their energy and emotions without even saying a word to them? This is the first time in my life that I felt connected to at all times, even when we weren't around each other. Sure, there are "plenty of fish in the sea", but dude, only once in your life do you catch that best fish you'll ever hook. The rest that come after that may never best that one. I won't do it for her, I'm doing it for me, because I need this. Whatever it was that I was before, I can't allow myself to be anymore. I appreciate your advice, man, I truly do, but I'm not giving up on her just because it didn't work this go around. I'm going to live my life and achieve what I need to. If she comes around again, I'll make the best of it, if not then at least I lived.
Been Posted September 4, 2017 Posted September 4, 2017 I understand where your coming from but honestly you should block her. NC. She is accusing you of following her and making you explain everything when you shouldn't have to. 1
Author CaringGuy Posted September 4, 2017 Author Posted September 4, 2017 Been, you are absolutely right. She's just as much in the wrong for her behavior as I am for mine. 1
Been Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 It just seems like anger on her side. No matter what you do she is going to rush to a judgement no matter what you say.
Chi townD Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 I understand where your coming from but honestly you should block her. NC. She is accusing you of following her and making you explain everything when you shouldn't have to. I agree with this. If she's accusing you of stalking her, then it's only a matter of time before she gets a R/O out on you. And you don't want that on your record. Dude, you're not going to like what I have to say, but this is over. I guarantee you that she is out dating now. Hell, one of the reasons you probably couldn't get a hold of her when she went out of town and you were dog sitting is because she didn't go out of town alone. Look, I'm not trying to make you out as the bad guy here. But, you need to let her go. You need to start NC on her and start focusing on you! You admitted that you have PTSD and a lot of anger issues. You need to fix YOU. You need to focus on YOU and your healing.
Chi townD Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 I understand where your coming from but honestly you should block her. NC. She is accusing you of following her and making you explain everything when you shouldn't have to. I agree with this. If she's accusing you of stalking her, then it's only a matter of time before she gets a R/O out on you. And you don't want that on your record. Dude, you're not going to like what I have to say, but this is over. I guarantee you that she is out dating now. Hell, one of the reasons you probably couldn't get a hold of her when she went out of town and you were dog sitting is because she didn't go out of town alone. Look, I'm not trying to make you out as the bad guy here. But, you need to let her go. You need to start NC on her and start focusing on you! You admitted that you have PTSD and a lot of anger issues. You need to fix YOU. You need to focus on YOU and your healing.
Author CaringGuy Posted September 5, 2017 Author Posted September 5, 2017 Chi, I've been changing and improving myself since the day she left. She's even come to notice my improvements as she mentioned it before. PTSD isn't something that can be cured, but I've been managing it for years. Every time I had an episode, I worked to correct it. This was even when she was with me. I understand she's probably dating other people, but I highly, highly doubt she went out of town with some other guy. I'm very confident in that much. There's a chance in the future that she might, but as of now, with her dealing with the suicide of her grandfather, her father's recent cancer and our breakup, my belief is that she isn't seeing one person exclusively. I will however, take your advice. I will do no contact from here on out and I will continue to better myself. That's the only thing I have control of. 1
d0nnivain Posted September 5, 2017 Posted September 5, 2017 I'm sorry my card suggestion didn't get you the outcome you desired. Look at it this way, you tried. Had you asked, I would have cautioned against sending it certified. That is a passive aggressive way of sending what should have been a nice card to a grieving person. It was you announcing that you were going to get proof that she received it so she couldn't lie to you about not getting it. The certified mail probably ticked her off. Her reaction when she saw you & the accusations that you are stalking her tell me this is about something more then your PTSD & her grandfather. Whatever it is, she has had enough. It's unlikely that she will come back. You need to find a way to make peace with this break up. No it's not a switch you can just turn off but you have to let the feelings ebb away, not try to hold on to them. 2
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