my_manda Posted August 12, 2005 Posted August 12, 2005 OK....I have a question. Last night, I was with a group of my friends having a girl's night and we were talking about something we could all use some advice on! One of my close friends mentioned this. She is dating a guy who would call a day or two in advance before he wanted for her to go out with him again initially. Now they are a few weeks in, and he has started calling the day of wanting to take her out. Now, he calls and says "come over". While the relationship is progressing, and of course the comfort level is nice, she made a valid point. No one wants to move so quickly into the "come over" stage that things fizzle and die. What she and all of us at the table are wondering is the following.....IS THERE A WAY TO APPROACH ASKING A GUY TO CALL IN ADVANCE/TAKE YOU OUT, ETC. WITHOUT SEEMING TOO HIGH MAINTENANCE, INFLEXIBLE, OR PUSHY?" I think her concern is that she does not mind going over to his place, or him coming to hers, nor does she mind him calling her the day of wanting to hang out once in awhile, but if he does not call in advance and stops taking her on dates the relationship enters a comfort zone too quickly and everyone knows the outcome of that.
whichwayisup Posted August 12, 2005 Posted August 12, 2005 Yup I agree, she can ask him out. Tell her to call him and say "keep Sat. night open for a date." Take the bull by the horns! Women can ask men out too, doesn't always have to be the guy doing the work. In the past I asked guys out and took them out on a date. (And yes Alpha, if you're reading this, I footed the bill.)
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