Nogan Posted September 3, 2017 Posted September 3, 2017 She was certainly not as interested as they led me to believe. Apparently overheard her and some other coworkers talking about finding me attractive, with her being the most blatant, which wasn't really the picture they painted when they told me. Another friend said it made sense as she had been asking a lot of questions about me. Liked talking to her, so I said "**** it" and went for it, and she gave me the most evasive and conditional yes I've ever received, and it's pretty obvious she isn't into me. Bleh, I'm a little mad because I didn't bring it up in the first place and feel like I was lied to. There's a difference between saying I'm attractive and actually conveying interest.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted September 3, 2017 Posted September 3, 2017 (edited) She was certainly not as interested as they led me to believe. Apparently overheard her and some other coworkers talking about finding me attractive, with her being the most blatant, which wasn't really the picture they painted when they told me. Another friend said it made sense as she had been asking a lot of questions about me. Liked talking to her, so I said "**** it" and went for it, and she gave me the most evasive and conditional yes I've ever received, and it's pretty obvious she isn't into me. Bleh, I'm a little mad because I didn't bring it up in the first place and feel like I was lied to. There's a difference between saying I'm attractive and actually conveying interest. Don't know what all went down, but what do you mean 'evasive and conditional?' She did say YES, no? Is there any possibility that she may have been surprised or embarrassed to be asked so soon, in the work place? Taken off-guard, perhaps? Sometimes, people react awkwardly when placed in a compromising position. Edited September 3, 2017 by simpleNfit 1
smackie9 Posted September 3, 2017 Posted September 3, 2017 Dude you have it all wrong....you ask someone out that YOU like.....that's it. That is how you find out if they have any interest in you. If they don't oh well you move on, and just don't care about it. You don't stand around looking for signals, or what they say about you or what others tell you. That will make things frustrating. A confident man don't care about any of that crap. He just goes for what he is interested in. You will have more success being bold and forward.
Author Nogan Posted September 3, 2017 Author Posted September 3, 2017 Dude you have it all wrong....you ask someone out that YOU like.....that's it. That is how you find out if they have any interest in you. If they don't oh well you move on, and just don't care about it. You don't stand around looking for signals, or what they say about you or what others tell you. That will make things frustrating. A confident man don't care about any of that crap. He just goes for what he is interested in. You will have more success being bold and forward. That's a whole lot of macho gibberish. I was chilling with some coworkers and they brought her up and said she was interested in me. I liked her, so I asked her out. She was decidedly less interested than they led me to believe, which put me in an awkward spot because I don't like to **** where I eat. And I don't know her well enough to pursue her more than that. I made the first move, experience has taught me that having to make the second, third, and fourth is sign that you should leave well enough alone. That's zero to do with confidence and posturing and everything to do with not wasting the energy on someone who isn't interested.
rushed Posted September 3, 2017 Posted September 3, 2017 and she gave me the most evasive and conditional yes I've ever received, and it's pretty obvious she isn't into me. What exactly did she say? Any kind of yes is better than a no, right?
Author Nogan Posted September 3, 2017 Author Posted September 3, 2017 What exactly did she say? Any kind of yes is better than a no, right? She seemed a little flustered and maybe surprised. She basically said she wasn't looking to date, particularly in an exclusive fashion, and didn't want to wind up breaking my heart. Initially confused about what I meant by "take her out". I just told her I was interested in her but wasn't in the mood for just casually hooking up with a coworker. She thought about it and said it might be fun to hang out as friends and see what happens. I was thinking to myself the whole conversation "damn, girl, I'm just interested, I'm not asking you to be my girlfriend" I could rationalize it as a product of some of the relationship crap she's been through, recently, but I don't think it's worth the energy. She gave me her number, but I've been through enough song and dances to know when you're just going to get ignored, and I'm not going to put myself in that situation with a person I work with. She knows I'm interested. If that endears me to her after sitting with it, maybe something will happen, but I'm not the desperate sort.
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