CasualDude10 Posted September 2, 2017 Posted September 2, 2017 Im going to be very brief on the situation because I can go into a huge amount of detail, but I do not want to do that, so here's what is going on. I met a girl over the summer through work. She asked me for my number, and added me on all social media. We hung out twice and each time she told me how much she likes me and is attracted to me. Problem is, she has a bf. One night she even hmu to have sex with her, but then as I was on my way she said that she does not want to cheat and even though she badly wants to, she wants to be able to give her all to me. We would also talk every day and she would be the first to hit me up. This all carried on for about 9-10 weeks while she was at home for the summer. She went back to college (3hrs away) and immediately things slowed down. I went a full week without hearing from her until Wednesday. Wednesday night hit and around midnight I got a text from her saying "I miss you, I hope everything is going well for you" The next day we got to talking and she told me that she broke it off with her boyfriend, telling him that she needs a "break" because of the way he treated her. She said her life is already 100% better and hasnt talked to hiim since it had happened. (I know the dude, he is an *******) After we got done talking she told me "it was nice catching up with you, im tired, im going to bed goodnight:) " Then the next night she snap chatted me, I responded, she sent a response, then I told her to have a good night. I havent talked to her sense. So basically, since she has been back to school, she did get distant. She also thought felt the need for some reason to tell me that shes on a break with her boyfriend. So what do you guys think I should do? I clearly am into this girl, but do not want to come off as clingy or needy and turn her off. Should I wait for her to hmu about hanging out the next time she is in town or should I on Sunday give her a text and bring up the idea? Or just cut her off period.
Author CasualDude10 Posted September 3, 2017 Author Posted September 3, 2017 Ask her on a real date? lol why are you asking a question?
Author CasualDude10 Posted September 3, 2017 Author Posted September 3, 2017 Live up to your namesake and keep it casual, dude. Hit her up for a bootycall one night and see if you wanna take it further from there. so do you think i should wait for her to be back in town or shoot and see when shell be back
smackie9 Posted September 3, 2017 Posted September 3, 2017 Just send her a text telling her you want to hang out, before she has second thoughts about getting back with her BF.
d0nnivain Posted September 3, 2017 Posted September 3, 2017 This woman is back at college -- 3 hours away from you. She has few boundaries & limited self discipline. Even though she had a BF, she flirted with you all summer while she was home. She even proposed cheating sex but backed out at the last minute. She's an out-of-sight, out-of-mind girl who is not above cheating. She likes the guy who is right in front of her & paying attention to her at that moment. Now she's 3 hours away surrounded by guys at college. She's also fresh out of a relationship. She seems like the type who can't function without a BF. You'd be a rebound in the sense that she can't handle being single & needs somebody, anybody there so she is not required to deal with any introspection. You have no idea who will be filing the voids in her week while you are three hours away. If you want to casually date her when she's home, fine, do that. But do not think you will be able to have a successful exclusive relationship with this chick while she's at school.
Miss Spider Posted September 3, 2017 Posted September 3, 2017 Username doesn't check out. XD too much thinking. Just ask her out and if she says no move on 1
smackie9 Posted September 3, 2017 Posted September 3, 2017 This is what you do....not care. Ask her out because YOU want to, not because she is sending you signals or whatever. Just ask her out.
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