My boyfriend kissed another girl and I just found out. ?

[Kels__015]

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. Somehow I recently found out that he kissed this girl at a party, while he was drunk, 3 days before we actually started dating, while I was on vacation and couldn't go. I was thinking there is no way, because we were pretty much dating then, and everyone knew we were together. He was always telling me I could trust him and what not.

Of course I ask him, and he tells me he didn't kiss a girl at that party. I asked him if he was sure and he said he was sure. Then I told him to promise me he didn't, and he was very hesitant, but then he promised me. I said "You just lied to me." He then started freaking out and was telling me he was sorry and it won't happen again, and I was just shocked because he just lied to me about that. I asked him who it was and it was this girl that is always hanging out with him and his friends. He was always at parties after the fact, always talking to her, but I didn't care because they were just friends, but little did I know. I look so stupid.

So then I was interested if they texted afterwards, and I asked him. And he showed me texts and dms, but I clicked on this conversation with this girl. This was 3 months after we've been dating, and we've been together for a year. They were over here flirting, sending all these emojis. I just sat there and was like damn, I'm really stupid.

He was like "No, I was just messing with her. I promise it's nothing. Please don't break up with me. I love you and only want you. I was dumb back then, please don't break up with me. I'll prove it to you that you can trust me again. I haven't talked to that girl in so long. I love you so much and I can't lose you"

I used to trust him with everything, but now I don't.

What do I do?

[elaine567]

Dump him.

He cheated on you and lied to you and spent 3 months flirting(at least) with this girl whilst he was dating you.

People who do that, rarely change.

The board is full of people who gave cheaters a chance to find that they just cheat again and again and again...

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/marriage-life-partnerships/infidelity/281882-once-cheat-always-cheat-i-should-have-listened-update

 

(BTW -"He was always telling me I could trust him" - a RED flag)

[Kels__015]

Yeah I want to believe he will change, but it probably won't happen. That's exactly what I needed to hear, thank you.