Mjm1014 Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 I've been talking to a girl from an OLD site for about three weeks..anyways we had our first date a few days ago which I personally thought went very well. At the end of the night she said she had fun and would like to meet up again soon.. Since our date, she still texts me a ton, but I've asked her when she's free next twice both through text message, and each time she changed the subject and never answered my question. I figured that she isn't interested so I didn't text her at all today-well she just texted asking how my day is going and I asked her again if she's free soon (not trying to be pushy but I'm going away for a few days for work and I'm a busy guy and like to plan things in advance)...now that I asked her, radio silence as I predicted. Just don't understand what her motive is to talk to me constantly, but doesn't seem interested in seeing me again. I get it, she's prob just bored and looking for attention or maybe I'm a back up guy, but I dont want to hold hope if she's wasting my time. So do I ask her straight up what her deal is or just ignore and hope she comes around to asking me out since I'm done asking. I'm trying to come up with something to say to her without coming off pushy or rude...I just hate games, and am not looking for a girl to be text message buddies.
Methodical Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 She is feeding you breadcrumbs, most likely as the fallback guy. You have asked three times with no response each time. Move on. I don't know why ppl feel the need to play games and lead ppl on. Silly, childish, and a waste of time. 5
Redhead14 Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 I've been talking to a girl from an OLD site for about three weeks..anyways we had our first date a few days ago which I personally thought went very well. At the end of the night she said she had fun and would like to meet up again soon.. Since our date, she still texts me a ton, but I've asked her when she's free next twice both through text message, and each time she changed the subject and never answered my question. I figured that she isn't interested so I didn't text her at all today-well she just texted asking how my day is going and I asked her again if she's free soon (not trying to be pushy but I'm going away for a few days for work and I'm a busy guy and like to plan things in advance)...now that I asked her, radio silence as I predicted. Just don't understand what her motive is to talk to me constantly, but doesn't seem interested in seeing me again. I get it, she's prob just bored and looking for attention or maybe I'm a back up guy, but I dont want to hold hope if she's wasting my time. So do I ask her straight up what her deal is or just ignore and hope she comes around to asking me out since I'm done asking. I'm trying to come up with something to say to her without coming off pushy or rude...I just hate games, and am not looking for a girl to be text message buddies. I just hate games -- If the pieces are moving, it's a game. Take your board and go home 1
Lobouspo Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 I would just back off. You've put it out there you would like to meet again. Try not to get your hopes up with anyone you meet online. Chances are she may have another date or dates lined up, and keeping you in orbit or as a backup depending what happens with other guys she meets
GemmaUK Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 Why don't you call her? You've met in person so why go back to texts? She's ignoring your text asks because: 1. She may just want a text buddy for attention - more likely if she dates a fair bit and 'needs' that attention. 2. She would rather you call to aske her out. 3. She isn't that interested and texting is something to do and a male to be in contact with. 4. She isn't a good listener/reader and if your texts are wordy she misses that you're asking to meet again. 5. She is simply addicted to texting. 1
Author Mjm1014 Posted September 1, 2017 Author Posted September 1, 2017 Well once again after I asked I got radio silence for a few hours...she's back to texting me random stuff about her day but completely dodged the question about getting together. Basically told her I can't talk and plan to ignore at this point so I don't waste my time.
Miss Spider Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 She's stringing you along....don't waste your time. Move on. 1
No_Go Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 How long has it been after date 1? Are you long distance by any chance?
Author Mjm1014 Posted September 3, 2017 Author Posted September 3, 2017 How long has it been after date 1? Are you long distance by any chance? About 5 days since our last date. No, not long distance really...I work in an industry that requires me to travel though, so I like to plan things in advance when I'm home since I'm gone a decent amount. She once again randomly texted me yesterday about all the random stuff going on in her life, and I basically gave her the cold shoulder since she's been blowing off my request to make plans (asked 3 time with no luck)...after I told her I had to go (an excuse just tired of figuring out where I stand) she texted me saying we should make plans when I'm free...I texted back when I was free and haven't heard from her since..it's now been over 30 hours and no word from her. No idea why she's doing this to me if she isn't interested. She sounds like a basket case. Not going to bother with her at this point.
SevenCity Posted September 3, 2017 Posted September 3, 2017 About 5 days since our last date. No, not long distance really...I work in an industry that requires me to travel though, so I like to plan things in advance when I'm home since I'm gone a decent amount. She once again randomly texted me yesterday about all the random stuff going on in her life, and I basically gave her the cold shoulder since she's been blowing off my request to make plans (asked 3 time with no luck)...after I told her I had to go (an excuse just tired of figuring out where I stand) she texted me saying we should make plans when I'm free...I texted back when I was free and haven't heard from her since..it's now been over 30 hours and no word from her. No idea why she's doing this to me if she isn't interested. She sounds like a basket case. Not going to bother with her at this point. Good plan. She sounds like she felt you were loosing interest so she decided to give you better bait. If you are looking for something serious you don't want it with her. It's flat out rude that she won't answer. I would flip it around and shoot her down next time she asks. Or just ignore her.
smackie9 Posted September 3, 2017 Posted September 3, 2017 She only sees you as a friend. If you are not getting a YES out of her, then it's a NO. Ditch her..... you are losing anything by doing this.
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