johnmcclane386 Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 We were going out for 3 and a half months. One of the best relationship times I've ever had. She then broke up with me, explaining that her current life leaves her with no time to have a bf (and this is a truth I believe). I did NC not because some "guru" said so, but because I had a lot of other personal stuff happening at the same time of the breakup, so I decided to focus in my things, and also stay away to avoid further complications. After a bit more than 3 weeks I wrote her "I hope you're doing fine", and got no response. I am sure now that it was not the best approach to break the ice. I know that her personal situations will take a while to change, but I still want to be present. I've been reading all around the blog that silence is the worst thing you can do. Read similar concepts in a blog from some guru called Yangki. It totally makes sense for me. Was my radio silence too long? (3 initial weeks + almost 2 extra after initial attempt). Did I blow my chances? (our relationship barely doubles that time). Are there any suggestions on how to make the conversation start flowing again in cases like this?
d0nnivain Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 NC is about healing & getting over somebody. Reconciliation requires communications. Yours was a short-lived encounter. Her reason for breaking up, that now is not a good time, is a euphemism, said to spare your feelings. If she was interested, she would have found the time. There was never anything you could have done to hold this together. She wasn't interested & that was just one of those things. Sorry.
PegNosePete Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 Dude she's just not interested. Occam's razor. The simplest explanation is usually the correct one.
Zahara Posted September 1, 2017 Posted September 1, 2017 Was my radio silence too long? (3 initial weeks + almost 2 extra after initial attempt). It was too short. You should have stayed complete NC. She is the dumper -- it's her responsibility to win you over if she wants reconciliation. You shouldn't have to sniff around every few weeks. Did I blow my chances? (our relationship barely doubles that time). There were no chances. She is not interested. Are there any suggestions on how to make the conversation start flowing again in cases like this? She ignored you. Take that as a response and keep moving on. Stay NC.
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