knight192 Posted August 30, 2017 Posted August 30, 2017 I met that girl at work a year ago. We dated 2 times, it was going well, but finally she decided to not carry on and to stop the contact. A year later I contacted her again and she replied back saying she would like to see me again but that she was away all the summer. I said I'd be happy and try to get some more news by text but she never replied. 2 months later I asked her if she was back, she quickly replied to me saying she was still away but will be back in several weeks and asked me some news and what I have been up to. I feel like I my reply was the most boring answer EVER. That was 4 days ago. She never replied. Did I bore her to death with 1 text? Did I screw it up?
normal person Posted August 30, 2017 Posted August 30, 2017 You don't know the exact reason, but you're never doing yourself any favors by sending boring texts. You've got think there are a dozen guys texting her things like "hey" "whats up" "are u back from vacation" If you want to set yourself apart, you should try and engage and excite her a bit. Have fun with it and make it fun for her. Give her a reason to want to answer you. Something like "So how was (joke about something related to wherever she was on vacation? Did you (something funny/embarrassing related to the experience)" would be infinitely better than "are u back." That being said, if she really wants to go out with you, she's not going to care as much about what you say to her.
Miss Spider Posted August 30, 2017 Posted August 30, 2017 (edited) Was your text a question? Either way, sorry to say, but you sound like back up to this girl. She comes around when nothing (or no one )better is going on. She sounds… as LS would say, "Luke warm". So she's like 'eh I get around to it' Sorry Edited August 30, 2017 by Cookiesandough
act00 Posted August 31, 2017 Posted August 31, 2017 You dated a couple of times and she called it off. Okay...not working for her. A year later you contact her. She responds to a minimum and polite degree. She states she's busy/unavailable. The fact she stated she would be interested in seeing you again is promising, but it seems you're really not high on the priority list, as she isn't really putting in much effort. Again, you attempt conversation, but she doesn't respond...she has nothing to say...there's nothing there. She can't think of anything to say, and it isn't so much that you sent a boring text, but that she is simply not interested in engaging in any conversation or has nothing to say to you. I have had text conversations where I simply can't think of anything to say or ask to continue the correspondence. Maybe text isn't the way to go. Maybe you should attempt a real, live phone conversation with a written list of things to talk about in case your mind goes blank. If you find you're the one carrying the entire conversation, end the call with a "nice talking to you again. I need to get to the feed store before they close, <have an exit excuse>" and call it a day. You tried...a lot...and without reciprocation, even if she is interested, there's only so much you can do.
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