Ask women out at a grocery store?

[Steve51]

The place does not matter at all, how you ask does. Just a few places I have asked out girls:

 

- a train where I met my wife of 45 years.

- a bank

- swimming pool

- bus

- school dance

- workplace

- airplane

- bar

- club

- restaurant

- movie theater

- by snail mail

- by phone never have met yet

- on a football and baseball field

- in a bathroom

- on a roller coaster

- Tunnel of love

- Ferris wheel

- in a classroom

- on a street corner

- Hotel lobby

- Hotel bar

- at a seminar

- at a Mensa meeting

- at plenty of parties

- standing in back of a building smoking cigarettes with a group of others during my smoking days.

- after having sex with them

 

That is all I can remember for now. Most times it was not much of a date, just something to do before we went to my place, hotel or her place for sex. I rarely dated girls for long, maybe a month at most.

[LivingWaterPlease]

I've never taken offense by a respectful compliment I've received by any stranger, man, woman or child! Am sure I didn't deserve many of them but I've loved them all! Lol! Don't we all?

 

So, yes, do give her a compliment to begin the conversation if you like. I'm a person who is very comfortable talking with strangers and I wouldn't hesitate (were I a man) to tell a woman she was gorgeous...she'll most likely smile and then you can say something like, "Just looking at your beautiful smile (blue eyes, brown eyes, sparkling eyes, whatever, just don't choose a body part, lol!) makes my day! You can gage her level of interest by how she reacts. If she smacks you with her purse, better not ask her out! Just kidding! She won't do that. But, if she stops and seems open to you, then you can segue into whatever it is you've decided to talk about and then if she hangs around a little or seems otherwise interested you can ask her for coffee or a coke nearby.

[Chilli]

Well , yeah she might look good but you also see a personality in her looks and mannerisms too, well l do anyway.

And that's what l look for in someone. if she looks good but l feel no personality or the wrong personality for me then no point.

But yeah ,l would have thought it would be weird to say you look lovely or you look beautiful today or whatever too.

But when l think about lots of stories l've heard , that's usually what he's said soooo, seems to be ok.

Edited August 31, 2017 by Chilli

[Robratory]

How many people do you see standing around chatting in the grocery store? In my area, hardly none. It's somewhat crowded When I go and people are trying to keep it moving and get out of there.

 

That's probably why it works. People aren't expecting it, yet it's not an inappropriate setting.

[coolheadal]

Basically the only place I've ever run into women that are around my age and that at least physically looking like what I'm after are at the grocery store and at restaurants. Just today I saw someone shopping that was absolutely gorgeous and I didn't see any ring. I'm trying OLD, but not having much luck.

 

Obviously it would make sense to ask about something she's looking at or in her cart, but I couldn't come up with anything. She wasn't buying some kind of exotic food where I could ask an obvious question. If she's buying things like meat, eggs, milk etc what am I supposed to say? How do you like your eggs cooked, scrambled or poached?

 

The only time I've talked to someone attractive at the store was when I was waiting at the deli and she tried something I'd never had before. I asked her how it was and the kinds of sandwiches she likes, but then her friend came and said "nice talking to you" before walking away.

 

Maybe it's looking ahead here, but even if I were able to strike up a conversation, what do I say to keep the conversation going and get her # or ask her out? Another issue is that in my mid 30's already and a lot of the people shopping are college students. I look like I could be 20, but if I ask someone out and she's 22 it would be pretty awkward. I'm also terrible at figuring out how old people are.

 

You didn't see a ring on the finger could be the guy hasn't given her a friendship ring or engagement other than the wedding bad. Sometimes ring chains around the neck or bracelet too. No matter what your a stranger to her. Unless you can bump your cart into her by mistake, well that could work, an say "Oh sorry I've noticed your beauty got distracted I was wondering if by chance your single, if your boyfriend was nearby in the store today" This another line of approchement.

 

If she's smiling at you already that's a good sign.. I see that happens to me a few times.. Or maybe she'll say can you reach that for me? Late night women in the market some seem confused, some seem rude also.

 

Should you ask a woman out if her car is broken down? Do you stop to help her. How about waiting in line at the USPS, FedEx, UPS, you can say wow this line is that long, how long have you been standing hear waiting..

 

I was in the waiting room last week getting tires for my SUV, again two women in t here with me. I started up talking about tires and they got into it with me. One of them offered me a glass of coke, I say that's mighty nice of you my dear. The other woman was younger she had a child, but she was single. No man she wanted to loose some weight. I told her what I drank to keep it off and to live healthy. I whip out my cell phone and shown both of them pictures of what you can drink. Again I got their attention. Asking them out not hard either. I found out the older woman was widower she lived on her own.

 

So not hard to get women to talk with you just have to be in the right area. Walmart, Target, even Home Depot. Lots of choices today..

[Popsicle]

That's probably why it works. People aren't expecting it, yet it's not an inappropriate setting.

 

I beg to differ.

[hercules22]

try a liquor store maybe better chances ? lol

[max3732]

I've never taken offense by a respectful compliment I've received by any stranger, man, woman or child! Am sure I didn't deserve many of them but I've loved them all! Lol! Don't we all?

 

So, yes, do give her a compliment to begin the conversation if you like. I'm a person who is very comfortable talking with strangers and I wouldn't hesitate (were I a man) to tell a woman she was gorgeous...she'll most likely smile and then you can say something like, "Just looking at your beautiful smile (blue eyes, brown eyes, sparkling eyes, whatever, just don't choose a body part, lol!) makes my day! You can gage her level of interest by how she reacts. If she smacks you with her purse, better not ask her out! Just kidding! She won't do that. But, if she stops and seems open to you, then you can segue into whatever it is you've decided to talk about and then if she hangs around a little or seems otherwise interested you can ask her for coffee or a coke nearby.

 

Good to hear she won't smack me with her purse! It is so rare for me to find someone around my age that I find attractive that when it does happen the thought of going up to her makes my heart pound and I feel like my body gets into the "fight or flight" mode and I can't think straight since I'm so nervous. I thought as I got older I'd get better at it, but no such luck.

 

I guess the worst that could happen is she takes offense and walks away and I'm not really worse off. I know it isn't logical, but going up to a stranger I'm attracted to and trying to talk to her creates this feeling of panic.

[max3732]

Well , yeah she might look good but you also see a personality in her looks and mannerisms too, well l do anyway.

And that's what l look for in someone. if she looks good but l feel no personality or the wrong personality for me then no point.

But yeah ,l would have thought it would be weird to say you look lovely or you look beautiful today or whatever too.

But when l think about lots of stories l've heard , that's usually what he's said soooo, seems to be ok.

 

Obviously her personality is even more important, but that's why I want to get to talk to her and know her better.

[smackie9]

Come to think of it, of all the times I was hit on in the store, there wasn't one I was remotely attracted to.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I have been cold approached in grocery stores, food courts in shopping malls and just walking down the street. Not often but it happens. I wasn't attracted to any of them and ended up giving them a fake number to end the interaction

 

But.....if it was someone I felt a "vibe" with, I would be open to it.

[SolG]

[Popsicle]

In thinking about this more, the grocery store is, theoretically, one of the best places to find someone, as everyone goes there. Find one of those stores that have a little cafe out in front so you can sit and people watch and spot your targets.

[smackie9]

A friend who worked in a grocery store told me that when they see a hot chick come into the store they use a code word over the PA to alert the other male staff members to check her out. lol guys I tell ya.

[anika99]

I have been cold approached in grocery stores, food courts in shopping malls and just walking down the street. Not often but it happens. I wasn't attracted to any of them and ended up giving them a fake number to end the interaction

 

But.....if it was someone I felt a "vibe" with, I would be open to it.

 

I always thought the fake number thing was so mean. When I wasn't attracted I would just tell the guy I had a boyfriend.

[CptInsano]

I had to think about this thread. I was looking at something that looked like a pickle in a single-serving bag at a food court, but I wasn't quite sure. So I asked the woman right next to me for input, and a lengthy discussion about pickles and pickling all kinds of things at home ensued. She seemed rather enthusiastic, touched my arm to make her points when she spoke, was in a good mood and waved when we parted. (Maybe she just really liked pickles.)

 

So yeah, I think the grocery scenario is definitely possible.

[CryForNoOne]

I think it's a bad idea. Times have changed, and approaching women in the store, (and I include hitting on those poor cashiers who are polite because it's their job), I feel is intrusive. Most people use social media or dating sites nowdays to find singles - following women around in the store trying to start a conversation just so you can try and get a phone number or a date, is pathetic and at times, creepy.

 

When I was a kid, picking up girls was exactly the way you did it. You'd follow them in the mall, usually groups of girls, and if they kept turning around and smiling, you knew it was ok to approach them. That is not how things are done today... with all the awareness about keeping safe, it's not really the best way to meet someone. Although, if opportunity knocks - for example you're in the store and for whatever reason a conversation happens, while waiting in line, or whatever, and a natural procession of events takes place and you become acquainted - (black friday comes to mind and that kind of opportunity) then maybe it's possible.

 

Some jackass tried to pick up my girlfriend while we were shopping at walmart. I left her for a few minutes to go to another isle to grab some cheese and other ingredients we forgot to get when we went passed there - as I was walking towards her, I could tell she was uncomfortable, and looked relieved to see me. The guy must have seen her looking elsewhere, turned around and saw me walking purposefully and I made eye contact with him. He disappeared quickly. I've warned her a few times when she shared about stuff like that happening at the store...these "nice guys" helping her. I asked her, how many women have been helpful and that attentive? Nope, all men lol.

 

This isn't the 70's anymore...hell I think even that was ok in the 80's. Society is different now though. I'm old fashioned though, and feel women are more vulnerable than men when it comes to being hit on. How many women have hit on me in the last year at the store? Yep, none.

 

I suspect your attitude has something to do with it...

 

What kind of depressing world do you live in in which people are not allowed to compliment strangers for fear of being creeps...

[act00]

I can't really think of any "pickup lines" to use in the grocery store, but I have met a couple people that way...unfortunately no dates came about (numbers were exchanged with one)...but the conversation just sort of happened. I can't say anyone was deliberately hitting on me. I wasn't hitting on them. As a girl, I can't think of any "lines." What happened, though, was conversation just seemed to happen naturally, and I was open to this person talking to me, attracted, and it wasn't at all creepy to me. If I wasn't interested, I would have excused myself, need to get home with dinner or something, and been on my way.

 

The only thing I would think to warn you about is that commenting on items inside the cart can be a slippery slope, as some women (men?) get quite offended or maybe embarrassed because <gasp> she's buying tampons or toilet paper, or worse, a bag of chocolate with the tampons. It's like the cart is this privacy zone people just politely ignore and pretend the contents don't exist. I guess take your chances on that one if you see an item and inquire about it as an opener...it can go either way. Cold approaching women in the store, which is not a place to expect to meet men/women, like a bar or single's event, is going to incite the creep-o-meter for some and not for others. Also, I don't think you should linger and use this store as a source to meet women with any large regularity lest you develop a reputation, women complain to management about the creepy guy, and they ask you to not shop there anymore.

[Imajerk17]

I have met women in the grocery store. As CaptInsano and CryForNoOne went about it has generally been my approach.

 

Yes some women will be receptive and some women will not be. You can't worry about the women who are not receptive, you wouldn't have dated them anyway so who cares what they think of you. As long as you aren't rude or pushy you are fine.

[rightondude]

For me ... I just never want to bother someone or make them uncomfortable. Bars, parties, I'm golden ... but out in public approaching someone I've never met? To engage in some BS conversation that even dead Ray Charles could see through? If I'm a hot woman, I'd hate if some creep came up talking to me and obviously wanted to bone me; even if they were "nice" or offering "compliments." In fact as a maybe above average looking guy, I hate it when some random mouth breather tries to starts up a conversation when I'm just looking to get something bought or done. If a hot chick just started talking to me, I'd probably think she had issues or was trying to scam me in some way.

 

I'm probably not a very good human, btw.

Edited September 22, 2017 by rightondude

[coolheadal]

Basically the only place I've ever run into women that are around my age and that at least physically looking like what I'm after are at the grocery store and at restaurants. Just today I saw someone shopping that was absolutely gorgeous and I didn't see any ring. I'm trying OLD, but not having much luck.

 

Obviously it would make sense to ask about something she's looking at or in her cart, but I couldn't come up with anything. She wasn't buying some kind of exotic food where I could ask an obvious question. If she's buying things like meat, eggs, milk etc what am I supposed to say? How do you like your eggs cooked, scrambled or poached?

 

The only time I've talked to someone attractive at the store was when I was waiting at the deli and she tried something I'd never had before. I asked her how it was and the kinds of sandwiches she likes, but then her friend came and said "nice talking to you" before walking away.

 

Maybe it's looking ahead here, but even if I were able to strike up a conversation, what do I say to keep the conversation going and get her # or ask her out? Another issue is that in my mid 30's already and a lot of the people shopping are college students. I look like I could be 20, but if I ask someone out and she's 22 it would be pretty awkward. I'm also terrible at figuring out how old people are.

 

Good question here I like what your asking us.. I had one once last year who was buying something I never heard of. She told me what she was using it for. Then she was on the same checkout line. I got her number, of course I didn't have my pen on me, but the store personal got me pen and paper to right her number on. She' was on FB and then I found out she was married. I said OH sorry I didn't know you were married, she said it was OK. Never talk to her again.

 

But you can ask anything you want and to keep them talking only if they're smiling back at you. If their with their friends then kind of harder to get their attention at you. Just be yourself and strike up the chat. Oh to tell how old they are, is easy look at their elbows. Younger women won't have so much wriggles. At age 30, 40 they're more apparent than at age 20. This is something had learn from a doctor.

 

Good luck, but you can do it.. Try work also I have better luck asking someone I work with out then anything on OLD which have not much luck either gave up on that adventure. Also avoid women hitch hikers on the road or those who's cars won't start.

Edited September 22, 2017 by coolheadal