amazonrambo Posted August 30, 2017 Posted August 30, 2017 Been with my girlfriend for just over a month (5 weeks) and everything is going great. She initiates a lot, we see each other twice a week as I work a lot and we have a holiday planned in Italy in late October. She's been away for a family holiday in Spain for the last 5 days but we have kept in contact, but not as much as I've been working hellish hours and of course she has been enjoying her holiday. Anyway, I ordered her flowers to be sent to her house today, on the day she got back. Her flight was delayed but she got home this evening and said "Thanks so much for the flowers they're beautiful you're definitely a keeper ;)" then she said she's helping her sister move into her new flat and asked if I was free later for her to give me a ring? I replied "You're welcome, glad you like them Yeah that's alright, I'll be asleep earlier tonight as I'm up at 6 but give me a ring when you're free", Then she said "My parents were embarrassing me about them though haha. Right okay might end up just seeing you tomorrow and not ringing then". Her last sentence seems annoyed, don't know if that's just me thinking it. I replied back saying "Phone me at around half 10 if you're back by then, if not then yeah I'll see you tomorrow". I feel like she wanted to talk to me, but I seemed to prioritise sleep for work over her? I am up very early and I am seeing her tomorrow anyway, but wanted second thoughts, thanks!
alphamale Posted August 30, 2017 Posted August 30, 2017 whooa, back off man. she's your girlfriend after 35 days? you both already have an international trip planned? wtf?!? you better take it A LOT slower or she'll soon be your ex-gf 2
ExpatInItaly Posted August 30, 2017 Posted August 30, 2017 I don't see how you think she was annoyed. You're over-thinking this one. Relax, my friend. 2
Imajerk17 Posted August 30, 2017 Posted August 30, 2017 Sounds fine to me. You sent her flowers and will see her the next day. If you are going to see your girlfriend/girl you're currently seeing within 24 hours and you just got her flowers, it is quite OK to need to go to sleep by a certain time because you have to be at work extra early the next day.
Author amazonrambo Posted August 30, 2017 Author Posted August 30, 2017 whooa, back off man. she's your girlfriend after 35 days? you both already have an international trip planned? wtf?!? you better take it A LOT slower or she'll soon be your ex-gf We starting dating/talking since mid-june. She's been officially my girlfriend for 5 weeks. 1
Author amazonrambo Posted August 30, 2017 Author Posted August 30, 2017 Ah yeah I was overthinking as she tagged me on Facebook just a minute ago with a picture of the flowers with a message thanking me
Redhead14 Posted August 30, 2017 Posted August 30, 2017 Been with my girlfriend for just over a month (5 weeks) and everything is going great. She initiates a lot, we see each other twice a week as I work a lot and we have a holiday planned in Italy in late October. She's been away for a family holiday in Spain for the last 5 days but we have kept in contact, but not as much as I've been working hellish hours and of course she has been enjoying her holiday. Anyway, I ordered her flowers to be sent to her house today, on the day she got back. Her flight was delayed but she got home this evening and said "Thanks so much for the flowers they're beautiful you're definitely a keeper ;)" then she said she's helping her sister move into her new flat and asked if I was free later for her to give me a ring? I replied "You're welcome, glad you like them Yeah that's alright, I'll be asleep earlier tonight as I'm up at 6 but give me a ring when you're free", Then she said "My parents were embarrassing me about them though haha. Right okay might end up just seeing you tomorrow and not ringing then". Her last sentence seems annoyed, don't know if that's just me thinking it. I replied back saying "Phone me at around half 10 if you're back by then, if not then yeah I'll see you tomorrow". I feel like she wanted to talk to me, but I seemed to prioritise sleep for work over her? I am up very early and I am seeing her tomorrow anyway, but wanted second thoughts, thanks! All she did was respect your request and need for rest. How does that come off negatively in any way, shape or form especially when not two minutes before, she told you you were a keeper! Frankly, she should have called you to thank you for the flowers -- not texted. But this is the way of the world these days.
act00 Posted August 31, 2017 Posted August 31, 2017 She might have been disappointed, but of course she understands your work schedule and need for sleep. Furthermore, she was respecting your needs and wishes by stating she won't call but will expect to see you the next day. Disappointed? Yes. Understanding? Also yes. Honestly, if she turned your need to get a good night's rest for work into some major drama, then you have trouble. Letting you know she won't ring you is merely because she knows you'll be sleeping I would think it was to be sure you either don't stay up waiting for a call when you need to sleep, or don't wake up in the morning disappointed that she didn't call and then wonder why. We can certainly turn the tables and expect her to prioritize you rather than help out her sister. I mean, she has been away for a week now, right?<--sarcasm. While you probably very much wanted to see her, she had a priority in helping her sister move, and it's all good. I'm sure you were disappointed as well. Don't sweat the small stuff. You can't be joined at the hip at all times and sometimes other life events take priority. When you see her, you can tell her how badly you wanted to blow off the world and see her and talk to her, but there's this pesky thing called responsibility and a paycheck that always gets in the way. Ask how the move went. Ask about the trip...hugs and kisses, etc. I'm so jealous of the flowers.
BaileyB Posted August 31, 2017 Posted August 31, 2017 Yup! You are overthinking it... Seems to me she was being respectful of the fact that you said you wanted to get to sleep early. Just talk to her tomorrow...
Author amazonrambo Posted August 31, 2017 Author Posted August 31, 2017 She might have been disappointed, but of course she understands your work schedule and need for sleep. Furthermore, she was respecting your needs and wishes by stating she won't call but will expect to see you the next day. Disappointed? Yes. Understanding? Also yes. Honestly, if she turned your need to get a good night's rest for work into some major drama, then you have trouble. Letting you know she won't ring you is merely because she knows you'll be sleeping I would think it was to be sure you either don't stay up waiting for a call when you need to sleep, or don't wake up in the morning disappointed that she didn't call and then wonder why. We can certainly turn the tables and expect her to prioritize you rather than help out her sister. I mean, she has been away for a week now, right?<--sarcasm. While you probably very much wanted to see her, she had a priority in helping her sister move, and it's all good. I'm sure you were disappointed as well. Don't sweat the small stuff. You can't be joined at the hip at all times and sometimes other life events take priority. When you see her, you can tell her how badly you wanted to blow off the world and see her and talk to her, but there's this pesky thing called responsibility and a paycheck that always gets in the way. Ask how the move went. Ask about the trip...hugs and kisses, etc. I'm so jealous of the flowers. An hour later she dud turn the tables and said she thinks she'll leave the phone call as she has a migraine and would rather be in a better mood when she first speaks to me after her holiday. We're seeing each other today though so it's all good.
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