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August 30, 2017

Don't be hard on yourself , it's a very powerful thing and can easy get caught up in a moment and overwhelm.

lf he loves ya back it's not gonna change anything and it'll be great that it's out in the open in the end,

lf he talked about the future like that well,that'd be a pretty stupid thing to do if he didn't even love ya so hang in there , see what he comes back with. hopefully he's just one of those that have a bit of trouble with that stuff.

August 30, 2017

Don't be hard on yourself , it's a very powerful thing and can easy get caught up in a moment and overwhelm.
lf he loves ya back it's not gonna change anything and it'll be great that it's out in the open in the end,
lf he talked about the future like that well,that'd be a pretty stupid thing to do if he didn't even love ya so hang in there , see what he comes back with. hopefully he's just one of those that have a bit of trouble with that stuff.

Thank you so much. You're right I shouldn't be embarrassed, there's nothing embarrassing about saying I love you to someone who has been very important to me in those last 5 months, he also deserves this love, he should know it.

He has mentioned before how he can't express his feelings that well, it bothers me but really he has other wonderful traits to him that I feel like it's so small.

We haven't talked at all today, which happens sometimes if we are both busy, still, it's not making my wait any easier when he's still so silent.

August 31, 2017

Thank you so much. You're right I shouldn't be embarrassed, there's nothing embarrassing about saying I love you to someone who has been very important to me in those last 5 months, he also deserves this love, he should know it.

He has mentioned before how he can't express his feelings that well, it bothers me but really he has other wonderful traits to him that I feel like it's so small.

We haven't talked at all today, which happens sometimes if we are both busy, still, it's not making my wait any easier when he's still so silent.

He isn't silent - you said he texted you but you didn't reply. I understand it was a causal text message, but what do you expect when he communicates and you say...nothing?

Sound familiar?

I don't get why you didn't reply to him to at least keep the conversation going.

August 31, 2017

Hi.

When you say "I love you" for the first time, you're showing courage and enterprise. It's sexy and attractive, so why are you retreating your forces back?

Next time you talk to him (Or you can wait to face to face meeting if you prefer, it's soon) tell him directly "Did you hear what I said?" and if he plays dumb, remind him that he didn't respond yet you the "I love you".

Don't let his disabilities (in showing feelings) or his stupidity to ruin things. He is probably not so brave and not so talented in this field, so you should be the leader on that.. But it's important to know where you stand. You want to know, he should tell you. Ignoring is rudness. Save him from his stupidity.

August 31, 2017

He isn't silent - you said he texted you but you didn't reply. I understand it was a causal text message, but what do you expect when he communicates and you say...nothing?

Sound familiar?

I don't get why you didn't reply to him to at least keep the conversation going.

I was just feeling sad about it honestly so I didn't want to keep "cold talk" you know? I didn't want to just text meaningless texts. Plus honestly you want to know what his text said?

Him: "Are you outside in the hammock?"

Me: "Yea, but it's really humid"

Him: "Haha, oh I like it humid."

Like, what to say to that? He was being really weird:P

August 31, 2017

Hi.

When you say "I love you" for the first time, you're showing courage and enterprise. It's sexy and attractive, so why are you retreating your forces back?

Next time you talk to him (Or you can wait to face to face meeting if you prefer, it's soon) tell him directly "Did you hear what I said?" and if he plays dumb, remind him that he didn't respond yet you the "I love you".

Don't let his disabilities (in showing feelings) or his stupidity to ruin things. He is probably not so brave and not so talented in this field, so you should be the leader on that.. But it's important to know where you stand. You want to know, he should tell you. Ignoring is rudness. Save him from his stupidity.

You know what? I really love your style! It's definitely an emotional disability. He's an engineer and he's been very closed off from the world and just in the past year he's started getting out of his shell. I think the relationship between his mom and dad, and his relationship with them has always been cold. He said he feels no connection to them.

Thinking back he told my his ex left him because he didn't treat her right, and when he elaborated on it he said she wanted big romantic gestures, like flowers and things like that, which I'm not into whatsoever anyway. I asked him if he could be expressive verbally and he said yes that's not a problem.

August 31, 2017

A mater a fact you don't really have much choice here. You must talk to him about it the next time you talk (of meet). You cannot let him get away. What might happen?

Well, the worst is if he replies with "I don't love you the way you love me". But as sad as it is, if this is how he feels, you certainly want to know about it, right? It's not that you dated only a week... It's been a few month already...

August 31, 2017

A mater a fact you don't really have much choice here. You must talk to him about it the next time you talk (of meet). You cannot let him get away. What might happen?

Well, the worst is if he replies with "I don't love you the way you love me". But as sad as it is, if this is how he feels, you certainly want to know about it, right? It's not that you dated only a week... It's been a few month already...

You're right. He's been taking his sweet time and honestly that was okay cause I understood, but I do want to know what's next, where is this going? All his future talk, was it serious or not? I want to know where I stand with him. Was I not supposed to say I love him? Does he think I crossed a line or it's too soon?

He sent me a text an hour ago, "Hey, how are you?" but I haven't replied yet because I had so much other things to do and I wasnt ready to deal with him I think, mostly that I don't know what to actually say now. Act aloof?

August 31, 2017

You're right. He's been taking his sweet time and honestly that was okay cause I understood, but I do want to know what's next, where is this going? All his future talk, was it serious or not? I want to know where I stand with him. Was I not supposed to say I love him? Does he think I crossed a line or it's too soon?

He sent me a text an hour ago, "Hey, how are you?" but I haven't replied yet because I had so much other things to do and I wasnt ready to deal with him I think, mostly that I don't know what to actually say now. Act aloof?

Honestly, just let it be business as usual. He reached out. That is a positive, no?! I'm in an LDR right now and this morning received the first phone call since Friday. I was happy to hear his voice for a change not upset that he hasn't called. I think by letting yourself "go cold" you are making the situation way worse than it actually is. He asked how you are. Tell him!

August 31, 2017

Honestly, just let it be business as usual. He reached out. That is a positive, no?! I'm in an LDR right now and this morning received the first phone call since Friday. I was happy to hear his voice for a change not upset that he hasn't called. I think by letting yourself "go cold" you are making the situation way worse than it actually is. He asked how you are. Tell him!

Yeah after two days of silence I think it's good, maybe he's ready to talk? I don't understand why it's hard to express his feelings. The most romantic thing he's said to me was "You mean a lot to me, I really care about you, you know that"

Oh about 2 months ago we almost broke up and he said one thing that tugged at my heart, that he felt like his stomach is hurting and telling him that he's losing the opportunity of his life. That's when I thought he could be in love maybe.

I'm glad your guy called! I completely get that relief after silence! Was it a sweet call? Do you initiate the calls too?

August 31, 2017

That's not really like our relationship though, he's not a jerk. He's talked about the future with me, having kids, buying a house, where we would live, etc. I don't think he was just playing or just flirting. He has always been honest in that regard, we've always said if things ended it would be mutual, neither of us would be blindsided I mean. I wouldn't have said such a thing if I wasn't confident in what we have.

I could have read it all wrong though, I can't read minds, I just go off by my gut feeling. Maybe he's not in love and that is okay, it doesn't mean my love for him would stop. I just hope he will address it though, instead of ignore it cause I feel like that would be immature of him.

Well if your confident to say "I love you" Then you have to be confident to ask him how he felt when you said the words directly to his face. Look at eyes if they roll that means not interested in what you say and move on already. You know him better than me. I read minds, he might not be ready for what youw want with him even though he said what you said above.

August 31, 2017

Well if your confident to say "I love you" Then you have to be confident to ask him how he felt when you said the words directly to his face. Look at eyes if they roll that means not interested in what you say and move on already. You know him better than me. I read minds, he might not be ready for what youw want with him even though he said what you said above.

Yea of course that's very possible too, he could have said something when he was feeling happy or excited but actions may not always follow through, I guess cause he's always been really consistent and reliable that I always took him at his words, he has promised me before that he would never lie to me, even if it'll hurt he'll be truthful.

I'm not sure when we'll see each other, he's got a family trip coming up...

September 1, 2017

Yea of course that's very possible too, he could have said something when he was feeling happy or excited but actions may not always follow through, I guess cause he's always been really consistent and reliable that I always took him at his words, he has promised me before that he would never lie to me, even if it'll hurt he'll be truthful.

I'm not sure when we'll see each other, he's got a family trip coming up...

Is that a family reunion by chance? Perfect time for you to be invited and go, but that's his call though. Family trip isn't he single like you? Bummer you have to wait that long to find out the truth after the trip?

September 1, 2017

Is that a family reunion by chance? Perfect time for you to be invited and go, but that's his call though. Family trip isn't he single like you? Bummer you have to wait that long to find out the truth after the trip?

No, going isn't really an option for me. Plus inviting myself on a family trip after he clearly ignored my love confession? If that didn't make him run, this would

Yes he is, this is with his parents and sister.

September 1, 2017

He called me today. I don't know why but I felt there was a friction, mostly from me? I wasn't as "sweet" as I usually am but I'm not doing it on purpose, I'm just still confused and curious to what he wants to say. He hasn't even mentioned it though.

He's being somewhat salty too? Not sure why, but could be in reply to my tone. He sent me a picture of him after shaving which I'm not a fan of, I prefer him with a beard and I said well it's still better than your older pictures when you had a mustache (honestly.. it's not the 70es!) and I said well what were you thinking back then? He said I don't know, you'll have to ask my ex!

That was really awkward. No thanks.

September 1, 2017

So he definitely heard you, and it was too fast for him.

Let it settle a bit. No big deal: you told your truth, it didn't match with his.

Now - step back. In few weeks things will be back to normal, and if not - there is more than the premature 'ILY'

He called me today. I don't know why but I felt there was a friction, mostly from me? I wasn't as "sweet" as I usually am but I'm not doing it on purpose, I'm just still confused and curious to what he wants to say. He hasn't even mentioned it though.

He's being somewhat salty too? Not sure why, but could be in reply to my tone. He sent me a picture of him after shaving which I'm not a fan of, I prefer him with a beard and I said well it's still better than your older pictures when you had a mustache (honestly.. it's not the 70es!) and I said well what were you thinking back then? He said I don't know, you'll have to ask my ex!

That was really awkward. No thanks.

September 1, 2017

So he definitely heard you, and it was too fast for him.

Let it settle a bit. No big deal: you told your truth, it didn't match with his.

Now - step back. In few weeks things will be back to normal, and if not - there is more than the premature 'ILY'

Yeah I really think he did hear me, so when he called today pretending like nothing happened at all? He said how he's missed me... he said he'll call me again on his way to that family trip, it's a 6 hour drive, maybe he wanted to bring it up then.

September 1, 2017

He called me today. I don't know why but I felt there was a friction, mostly from me? I wasn't as "sweet" as I usually am but I'm not doing it on purpose, I'm just still confused and curious to what he wants to say. He hasn't even mentioned it though.

He's being somewhat salty too? Not sure why, but could be in reply to my tone. He sent me a picture of him after shaving which I'm not a fan of, I prefer him with a beard and I said well it's still better than your older pictures when you had a mustache (honestly.. it's not the 70es!) and I said well what were you thinking back then? He said I don't know, you'll have to ask my ex!

That was really awkward. No thanks.

Lol ok, well, he called. Another positive in my book. I actually think this is a good opportunity to let him know how you feel about this situation before it realllllly gets bad. You recognize that you are being off towards him and you know exactly why you are being that way. Rather than stew in these emotions until after a trip save yourself a few more bad days and YOU bring it up to him. Men are NOT wired the same way as women and for all you know he hasn't even given what you said a second thought. I'd rather have a reaction, good OR bad, then NO reaction to make you wonder what's up.

September 1, 2017

He sent me a text an hour ago, "Hey, how are you?" but I haven't replied yet because I had so much other things to do and I wasnt ready to deal with him I think, mostly that I don't know what to actually say now. Act aloof?

Honestly I would just carry on as usual. You said it, he knows it now. Don't act pissed and hurt because he hasn't yet said it back to you. Give him time. If you act angry or hurt at this point it will be a turn off because you can't make people feel a certain way about you. Just relax and carry on with him as usual.

September 1, 2017

IMHO he's just not ready to reciprocate. And he's respectively avoiding the topic. If I were you I'd not bring it up - just let him straighten up his feelings, at least for moth or so.

Yeah I really think he did hear me, so when he called today pretending like nothing happened at all? He said how he's missed me... he said he'll call me again on his way to that family trip, it's a 6 hour drive, maybe he wanted to bring it up then.

September 1, 2017

IMHO he's just not ready to reciprocate. And he's respectively avoiding the topic. If I were you I'd not bring it up - just let him straighten up his feelings, at least for moth or so.

While I agree that he may need time, she also has to take a step back from feeling the way she is after him not reacting. Not sure she can do that without her not letting him know. Communication is key and everyone communicates differently.

September 1, 2017

He's not going to bring it up. Guys aren't like that in general. You're going to get more and more upset as time goes on and he doesn't mention it. I think you need to ask him how he felt about you expressing your feelings the other day. Something has to be said...

September 1, 2017

Yeah I really think he did hear me, so when he called today pretending like nothing happened at all? He said how he's missed me... he said he'll call me again on his way to that family trip, it's a 6 hour drive, maybe he wanted to bring it up then.

Why are you letting this continue, going to drag out without that I love you back you're waiting to hear? Hmm?

September 1, 2017

While I agree that he may need time, she also has to take a step back from feeling the way she is after him not reacting. Not sure she can do that without her not letting him know. Communication is key and everyone communicates differently.

Ok, if he's not ready to say it, what are the possible responses:

a) Silence (what he did)

b) I love you too (a lie to shut her up if he's not there yet)

c) Thank you (super awkward)

d) Thank you, I like you a lot but I need time to process my feelings (the likely truth but it is a weird thing to say - overly formal)

She was truthful about the way she feels. Love statements are what they are: reciprocation is not necessary/required.

September 1, 2017

Okay so he called again and I'm starting to think maybe he didn't hear it after all, although I can't be sure. He mentioned his friend and his gf who have been having problems cause the girl confessed she loves him and he said he doesn't, he wants to end it in fact, so he told me well when someone says I love you and you get silence that's not good, means the discussion has to come up somehow...

I almost died, lol.. okay? So if he in fact thinks that, then he couldn't have heard me!? God now I really don't know what to think. I was hoping we talk more cause he had a long drive ahead of him but his engine started to shake! He's heading back home.

What to do you guys!?

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