trevjim Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 So ive had 6 dates with this girl (both late 20s) and its been going really well. However she told me she had been single for about 6 months. We have become facebook friends recently and i noticed that there are pics of her and he ex still together up until 8 weeks ago. I dont really care for the fact that she has only been single 8 weeks, im just concerned as to why she has lied about it. I know its a bit trival, but Ive been hurt in the past a couple of times where someone's ex came back into the picture and got left for him, so its got me a little worried. Seems a bit like a red flag Im reluctant to confront her about it as its only been 6 dates and may come across as a little needy and possessive.
d0nnivain Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I think you get to ask about inconsistencies. Don't pester. Don't accuse. Just say hey, "I was looking at your FB the other day. I thought you had been single for 6 months. What was up with the pictures of you & the "EX" two months ago?" If you use a neutral tone of voice, just see what she says.
bummer Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 are you sure? If you're right, what additional answers from her to justify the timeline would convince you to make it more exclusive with her? If you can't keep it casual, and you are right, she better have a good excuse.
Author trevjim Posted August 29, 2017 Author Posted August 29, 2017 are you sure? If you're right, what additional answers from her to justify the timeline would convince you to make it more exclusive with her? If you can't keep it casual, and you are right, she better have a good excuse. 100% right, there are multiple pictures from different events/settings with them together, with dates and time stamps. I guess if she said something like "we did break up 6 months ago but started dating again in june to see if we could give it another go but it didnt work out" Trouble is thats a reasonable answer and would leave me looking like a bit of a over bearing fool 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 As far as I'm concerned, if someone gives you the keys to their social media accounts you're entitled to snoop and ask whatever questions you feel are necessary. I agree with d0nnivain, don't be accusatory or hound her endlessly but bringing up the fact that you noticed something that was inconsistent with what she told you seems only fair even 6 dates in. Good luck. 1
Miss Spider Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 She probably didn't want to look like she was so fresh out of a relationship and jumping to the next one a.k.a. rebounding. Which in all probability is what it is 1
bummer Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 So, if she says they tried again and it failed, that is reasonable, but then the suspicion she's deep in rebound mode remains. If you can't stay casual, know this rebound will likely have a short duration. It's not overbearing or foolish to clarify the relationship IF you are moving out of casual dating territory. 2
Mike B. Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 You've each let each other into your respective Facebook worlds. That is usually a very sensitive area to deal with. I would be careful about going on an investigation at this point. She obviously has opened up a huge part of her private life to you just by allowing you to be a part of it. I'm sure she knew you would see many pictures. I am not sure if you want to make her regret opening up things like this to you. She may think twice about allowing you access to Instagram and all of the other social things you guys like to exchange. Many times, it really is alright to simply observe. Not all things need immediate action.
OnlyHonesty Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I dont really care for the fact that she has only been single 8 weeks That's probably the most important bit of information....
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