yhwh90 Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I'll make this short and to the point. My ex and I got back in touch after 2.5 years apart or so, she reached out in July, and we met had dinner and sex afterward (I know I know, probably not a good idea, but it happened). We hung out maybe 3 more times (had sex only once more, the other times I had other things to do), but then after about a month of this we stopped and we kept in touch via text and Instagram, but not much at all. I actually think we're both reluctant in a way to hurt each other again, that kind of thing. I told her last week (on Wednesday) that we should meet up that week and she said after the weekend (Monday/Tuesday) works for her. Now I remember when we dated years ago she had this problem with being flaky, so I didn't tell her no, nor did I say yes, I just told her we'll play it by ear. I don't want to play games but I also don't want to seem desperate, as I'm not. I'm just wondering if it's best I don't reach out and leave it at that, to show that I can do the same, or if I should still reach out. It seems to me that if a girl doesn't respect your time and you respect hers it'll lead to problems, has to be mutual, so idk. That said, I'm not sure if I want a relationship again with her. If it happens, then great, if not, then great, but I won't stick my neck out too far for any girl. She's got amazing qualities about her but also big flaws, but we've both matured so I don't want to judge her 100% on my previous experience with her. Kinda rushed this writing so sorry if my thoughts are pretty scattered, lol. What do you guys think?
Moslem Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I'd go for it if I was you! I don't know the whole relationship but I think it's worth a shot. How did you reconnect by the way?
SammySammy Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I tend to avoid dating exes, but if I were to do it I'd have to raise my standards. Raise what I expect from the relationship. Expect to be treated better than I was the first time around. Less tolerant of unacceptable behavior. If we can't treat each other better, I'd pull the plug quickly. No sense in going back to an ex if the situation doesn't improve. For me, it would have to be substantially better.
Miss Spider Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I would just keep it fun and light, basically the opposite of why you guys broke up. If the pile on the expectations you guys are just going to wind up hating each other again. Also, one of you has to have made some changes for this to really work 1
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