Mike B. Posted August 28, 2017 Posted August 28, 2017 Has anyone ever told you that you're too good to be true? How did you interpret or react to this? What is your experience with telling someone this or someone telling you this? Is it offensive to you or do you take it as a compliment?
LivingWaterPlease Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I haven't been told this but someone I knew was told this when going through the process of interviewing for a job. He did get the job.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I haven't been told this but someone I knew was told this when going through the process of interviewing for a job. He did get the job. I've been told this before by a woman....I ended up marrying her and proved I was the real deal....she later effed up and lost it all. I take it as a compliment b/c it is an indicator of how much value that person places on the characteristics/attributes I have to offer AND that they truly reflect who I am.
preraph Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I have not been told that. But I will just offer that when statements of this general ilk have been made in the past, it usually portended the relationship wasn't going to last. I guess because it's usually tied to the person who said it's self-esteem or if they're feeling right about you. Like someone I loved said "You're smarter than me" and "you're good with words" and what he really meant was he wasn't comfortable with this. 2
cp30 Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 My ex would always tell my best friend that I was "too good for him." Turns out, I was. 1
Author Mike B. Posted August 29, 2017 Author Posted August 29, 2017 I have not been told that. But I will just offer that when statements of this general ilk have been made in the past, it usually portended the relationship wasn't going to last. I guess because it's usually tied to the person who said it's self-esteem or if they're feeling right about you. Like someone I loved said "You're smarter than me" and "you're good with words" and what he really meant was he wasn't comfortable with this. I agree that it usually is a sign of impending doom when it comes to a relationship/dating. 1
basil67 Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I've never had it said to me, but if I did, I would almost certainly answer with "well that just proves you don't know me well". I did much the same when I received a drunken confession of love from a guy I'd been dating for three weeks. I instinctively responded "No you don't. You don't know me well enough yet" Possibly a bit harsh, but I was rather shocked at the time. 1
mortensorchid Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I have been told this. And it's usually followed by "you're out of my league". Which I was/am to the one who was saying this to me, and I either never heard from him again or he ends up dumping me for a woman he deserves. Which is a sub par woman. And I mean REALLY sub par. Not a good sign if and when they say that.
NexttP Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 From reading all the replies, technically a romantic relationship = partnership right? and partnership in this case usually have the implication of equality. So if one is [way] better than the other, that's not equal. Unconscious inferiority complex starts... and the rest is history. To answer the OP, like the others who been told such, she ended up leaving for someone else.
Fishforbreakfast Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 (edited) My ex said it too me after we had been together a month. Then slowly started to say I was too good for him and he has not much to offer me then got super insecure and assumed I would cheat on him with a better guy and it blew up and he went crazy! The sad part was I would of done anything for him he was the apple of my eye Edited August 29, 2017 by Fishforbreakfast
amaysngrace Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 I said it to my narcosstic ex husband when we first got together and it turns out I was exactly right. But I wish he was who he pretended to be
smackie9 Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 My experience, it wasn't a line, it was from the heart.
Chilli Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 Yeah same . it's not in a bad way usually, they've just had a bad run with others. 1
central Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 In the early days of dating my wife, she told me this, because I was such a fantastic match for her, that she wondered if she was missing seeing my dark side, or something. Obviously, she was wrong - I AM that good! So we stayed together and eventually got married. Now, I'm even better - and so is she.
kendahke Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 Has anyone ever told you that you're too good to be true? How did you interpret or react to this? What is your experience with telling someone this or someone telling you this? Is it offensive to you or do you take it as a compliment? I just start singing the second line in a really cheezy lounge lizardy fashion... No, I don't consider this offensive. In their life experiences, I probably am too good to be true considering what they've dealt with that brings them to that sort of conclusion. I do remind them that I have a not so good side, too--all life is balance.
Author Mike B. Posted August 29, 2017 Author Posted August 29, 2017 I've never had it said to me, but if I did, I would almost certainly answer with "well that just proves you don't know me well". I think that would be an excellent response.
JuneJulySeptember Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 Has anyone ever told you that you're too good to be true? How did you interpret or react to this? What is your experience with telling someone this or someone telling you this? Is it offensive to you or do you take it as a compliment? It would be cheesy to me. Like one of those things couples say to each other who post on Facebook all the time and say how handsome and beautiful each other are, and how awesome each other are.
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