She cheated after 4-year relationship and now she regrets and wants me back.. Me [33M

[johnandi]

Hi everyone, my so call girlfriend cheated me with some friend of hers. I thought we had a great 4 year relationship, we have fights like any other couple but at the end of the day we were happy. We were living together for over 6 mounts, and the relationship went down as we were together 24/7 and we develop a routine. We have a talk about her going home to spend some time apart and to rebuild our love. After the talk in about 1-2 days she came to my home and tell me that her friends had kiss her and she run away (supposedly).

 

It all started few mounts ago at some random friend’s party when she started flirting with a friend of hers in front of me and everybody. After confronting with her she said it was nothing going on, they are just friends and to stop been a paranoid guy. I believed her but still had some suspicions for her friend.

 

After the party she started going out with her friends (this guy was friends of her friends). I suggested that she have to go out with her friends more often to avoid the routine of spending days at home after work, watching movies and not doing anything else.

 

Few days later she was out with her friends and yes “her friend” was there. She supposedly was drunk and went to this guy home with her friends. He kissed her and she supposedly turns her head and ended the kiss. She told me that she was crying all night but still she slept over at his home. I was texting her that same night to check if she was ok ( and yes she said everything was ok…) she came back tomorrow and this guy give her a ride to my home… She admitted me after a day or two and I was devastated. I kicked out from home and the following days I started to write her sms telling she was a whore ets..

 

After a few weeks she came back to my home we had some talk and decided to continue our relationship from the beginning and to realty work on us. After all it was just a drunken kiss. The next 4 mounts were great we were falling in love again and I taught this was the right decision. A few days ago she tells me that after the kiss, and after i kick her out of my home and me sending some ugly sms and phone calls she went to the same guy and slept with him.

 

I can`t not f believed it. I can`t believe she do that after seeing me how devastated I was about a kiss. She sad that there were no emotion she does not know why she done that. She calls me now and that crying all the time, shaking and having panic attracts. She is telling me she had made a mistake and she will do anything to forgive her. I love her and she was my everything, but the image of them in bed is killing me. And the lies of 4 mounts that her excuse was she didn’t want me to hurt me….

 

I really don’t know what to do. I love her but this hurts a alot

[Marc878]

We're "just friends" is the biggest lie told

 

Do you like drama in your life?

 

If you do take her back again and you'll probably get a replay of this over and over.

 

Why?

[kendahke]

When you kicked her out of the house and were calling her names, did you consider yourselves as broken up? There is no such thing as "a break".

[elaine567]

How old is she?

She sounds young.

[BluesPower]

Do not take her back for any reason...

 

She has screwed him more than once probably the night of the drunken kiss if not before.

 

She did it because she wanted to, bottom line.

 

What she was doing is testing the waters and after she screwed him a few times and got to know him, HE probably does not want to be with him so she is back to plan B which is you.

 

Dump her and move on...

Edited August 28, 2017 by BluesPower

[Robratory]

I imagine it does hurt a lot because she means a lot to you.

 

But love isn't supposed to be like this. I'm positive that staying with this woman will only bring you more pain. She'll do this over and over.

[OnlyHonesty]

You actually believed the first time was just a kiss? You have a lot to learn. Look at the pattern. Don't take her back.

 

However, you seem to, on some level, perhaps subconscious, enjoy drama so even if you don't, you will likely end up with an almost identical girl anyway.