Author Fishforbreakfast Posted August 27, 2017 Author Posted August 27, 2017 This is exactly it. He bombed you with compliments hoping you would let him come over and hopefully have sex with you. When it didn't happen within his time frame he moved on to another candidate. Yep I figured that. It's so hard to find someone "normal" who is not crazy or just after sex sighhh
ExpatInItaly Posted August 27, 2017 Posted August 27, 2017 It wasn't really cryptic he said "I'm missing something" to me when I go out i check I have my "keys wallet and phone" i wasn't trying to be cryptic just having a joke because I couldn't be bothered answering seriously because don't want him to have to feel like he has to explain himself, I honsestly didn't/don't think he will care too much, it's done now. I still have no idea what you were trying to say with this.
Author Fishforbreakfast Posted August 27, 2017 Author Posted August 27, 2017 I still have no idea what you were trying to say with this. He said "I'm missing something" as in he didn't know what reason I was upset for and I took it literally like when youleave the house and you feel like your forgetting something usually I say got your keys phone wallet. He prob didn't get it either but oh well!
ChatroomHero Posted August 27, 2017 Posted August 27, 2017 Well for one, every person that wants to date you wants to sleep with you at some point. It would be an assumption that just because he asked to see you at your place it automatically means he just wants sex. He asked you out a couple of times and complimented you. In return you told him to stop with the compliments because you assumed he was putting you on a pedestal. Your response was basically, "Stop complimenting me so much...also I am sick/not available". That's exactly what people do when they are doing the easy rejection, put the other person off until he takes the hint. "Sick and busy" are the two most common excuses because they are vague and don't require any proof or further explanation. So he likely assumed low interest. Likely he figured he'd slow down the responses so he didn't look too eager or only after sex. Then your response is to hold it against him for not responding to a text the same day and then be vague and rude in a response. The problem I see is you assumed a lot of stuff, sent a clear message to him to back off and that you were likely low interest, then you dropped him when it looks like he was respecting your wishes. To top it off, you had it in your mind somehow that he stalked you on a 15 minute dog walk and didn't like what he saw in a completely random situation you made it. Face it, you forced any chance with this guy to fail. No matter what he did, you were going to sabotage it. You would have found some problem with him no matter what he did. Based on what you wrote your mother said to you, I am guessing you sabotage potential relationships habitually. 1
Author Fishforbreakfast Posted August 27, 2017 Author Posted August 27, 2017 Well for one, every person that wants to date you wants to sleep with you at some point. It would be an assumption that just because he asked to see you at your place it automatically means he just wants sex. He asked you out a couple of times and complimented you. In return you told him to stop with the compliments because you assumed he was putting you on a pedestal. Your response was basically, "Stop complimenting me so much...also I am sick/not available". That's exactly what people do when they are doing the easy rejection, put the other person off until he takes the hint. "Sick and busy" are the two most common excuses because they are vague and don't require any proof or further explanation. So he likely assumed low interest. Likely he figured he'd slow down the responses so he didn't look too eager or only after sex. Then your response is to hold it against him for not responding to a text the same day and then be vague and rude in a response. The problem I see is you assumed a lot of stuff, sent a clear message to him to back off and that you were likely low interest, then you dropped him when it looks like he was respecting your wishes. To top it off, you had it in your mind somehow that he stalked you on a 15 minute dog walk and didn't like what he saw in a completely random situation you made it. Face it, you forced any chance with this guy to fail. No matter what he did, you were going to sabotage it. You would have found some problem with him no matter what he did. Based on what you wrote your mother said to you, I am guessing you sabotage potential relationships habitually. I can see why you think that but I feel like if he was truly interested in getting to know me he would of responded to my text the same day at least and not wait to the next morning- it just shows respect. In perspective I now think the odds of him seeing me on a walk are slim considering I go back streets and he was working that day and I wouldn't want someone that superficial anyway.
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