Weekend first dates - women's thoughts

[spiderowl]

Well, I work full time during the week and I'm tired in the evenings. My preference would be to meet at the weekend. However, I would rather know he would be just as happy to meet during the week. If a guy only ever contacted me on Thursday for a weekend get-together, I'd assume he was only interested in sex. If he was truly interested in me, he'd be in touch daily at least, not just on Thursday!

[mortensorchid]

I don't think it's odd if someone schedules a weekend date in the middle of the week. If he asks to meet on a weekday I let him know of my schedule and we coordinate from there. Depends on the person's schedule. Punctuality is important, however. Don't be late, show when you're going to show, and confirm via text if and when.

[SevenCity]

Well, I work full time during the week and I'm tired in the evenings. My preference would be to meet at the weekend. However, I would rather know he would be just as happy to meet during the week. If a guy only ever contacted me on Thursday for a weekend get-together, I'd assume he was only interested in sex. If he was truly interested in me, he'd be in touch daily at least, not just on Thursday!

 

That's something I didn't even consider. Valuable info!

[SevenCity]

Know what I think it is? I don't have a steady girl. Not having a steady girl leads to tomfoolery.

 

I'm struggling to figure out what my routine should be, nowadays. I can't keep up what I used to do.

 

This is the reason many guys stay in less than ideal relationships. Further, why they tend to cling to women knowing what is in store in the dating market.

 

Perhaps I'm a homebody, but I've found women tend to want to go out A LOT more than guys do. If that's true, dating for them can be more fun than it can be for us as I would be perfectly happy sitting home and Netflix and Chilin'.

 

Last woman that I had on an earlyish Saturday first date told me weeks later that she thought I was going to see another woman further in the same evening (which I didn't). My thoughts don't just come out of the sky; they come from life experience.

 

And she went on to be a steady girl that occupied my weekends henceforth.

 

So Elsworth is thinking that Bastile is thinking what she's thinking. And she's wrong about that.

 

Nice to hear how good the ladies generally feel about Saturday first dates though

 

I had one earlyish date on a Saturday (her request was daytime - I negotiated to early evening). It was strange to get home at 9ish with nothing to do. I can see why she felt you may have had another date.

 

Keeping one woman happy is missions. Keeping three happy is enough to drive me around the bend.

 

From your posts I think you in in your 30s? (correct me if I'm wrong). Try adding 10 - 15 years to that and see how I feel! I'm no super stud but they seem to come in waves and I lose track of who I told what to just via text convos.

 

Then you have the escalation factor - where did I leave off with this one? What is completely offensive to one girl, may be completely appropriate to another one you are dating - depending on how long it has been.

 

I'm a smart guy but it can get confusing.

 

I think dating is supposed to be tiring for men, tbh. Eggs are expensive and sperm is cheap.

 

Perhaps. If women had the mindset of most guys no one would get married and we'd all be busy having sex all day.

 

I'll leave you with this though, it is worth it to find a girl you want to be with long term as, the older you get, the less options there are. That's my reason for multidating. I want to find one and stop dating all together.

 

'Taint easy to find a good one...

[jay1983]

I'm not inclined towards being flaked on, and having a crap weekend.

 

So, I'll be going to my watch my cousin's band if it falls through.

 

I know where you're coming from, it screws up plans and if you told people who asked you what you had plans, that you had a date, you end up looking silly. I found myself in that position more often than not. I just stopped making plans for dates and started making plans with friends and inviting. I would've told you go see your cousin play and invite her. Don't wait up on her, just go and tell her to meet you there. That way if she doesn't show won't put a whole in your day.

[Bastile]

She showed. (thought she would.... not sure what you lot were so worried about).

 

Girl was hotter than I remembered being on the street. Very nice. Difference between OLD where the girls are sometimes worse than the pictures. Or deceptively overweight, or whatever.

 

2 PM date, and first day of a three day bank-holiday weekend, so town was buzzing. Nice and social vibe to give her comfort. Not too much fear of the friendzone (I'm more likely to pull women into the twilight zone tbh).

 

Going easy because of a coming off a break, which probably has cost me some man points. Not at full confidence.

 

Had a wander. I know the place very well, and we ended at a nice spot that had a lake, swans, and a tranquil vibe. Would have been better, if it wasn't as crowded though. Got the first kiss there, and it was mission accomplished.

 

Chose to plan on seeing my cousin and his mates play later in the evening - being less dependent of outcome. And little point in being overlong when not even trying to have sex. Preferred to keep away from any sort of dinner time stuff, so it was either early or late in my mind. There was some social awkwardness and a dodgy vibe about that, which I sort of expected. I think it's good to just accept that unwavering sometimes. I did message her later to keep a rapport going somewhat, and that seemed to be nice (don't care if it made me look needy - I felt it was necessary after seeming offish).

 

Had a few drinks whilst out later, but didn't get wasted. Didn't stay out after. I'm quite proud of my restraint in general. Watched the Mcgregor/Mayweather fight.

 

Didn't message yesterday (she didn't either). I think (hope) it's probably the usual game of waiting on me, which is the dynamic I like anyway. Not going to "mug myself" anyway

 

 

Wait until later, then I think attempt to make another weekend date. This time in my area, and try to escalate it to sex (try, not necessarily do).

 

Main focus now needs to be on approaching some girls during the week, keep from being complacent (which I'm finding difficult), and trying to keep this going until next weekend for a more substantial date.

 

Some notes:

- Women like swans, apparantly. The introduction of cuddly animals can shave hours from a seduction

- Women seem to get a bit of the hump whenever you exclude them from your social circle. Better to not bring it up when possible, if I'm not going to invite them

- Saturdays are actually a bit crap for first dates.

 

My conclusion: women like weekend first dates. I'm the one that generally doesn't.

[Dis]

She showed. (thought she would.... not sure what you lot were so worried about).

 

Girl was hotter than I remembered being on the street. Very nice. Difference between OLD where the girls are sometimes worse than the pictures. Or deceptively overweight, or whatever.

 

2 PM date, and first day of a three day bank-holiday weekend, so town was buzzing. Nice and social vibe to give her comfort. Not too much fear of the friendzone (I'm more likely to pull women into the twilight zone tbh).

 

Going easy because of a coming off a break, which probably has cost me some man points. Not at full confidence.

 

Had a wander. I know the place very well, and we ended at a nice spot that had a lake, swans, and a tranquil vibe. Would have been better, if it wasn't as crowded though. Got the first kiss there, and it was mission accomplished.

 

Chose to plan on seeing my cousin and his mates play later in the evening - being less dependent of outcome. And little point in being overlong when not even trying to have sex. Preferred to keep away from any sort of dinner time stuff, so it was either early or late in my mind. There was some social awkwardness and a dodgy vibe about that, which I sort of expected. I think it's good to just accept that unwavering sometimes. I did message her later to keep a rapport going somewhat, and that seemed to be nice (don't care if it made me look needy - I felt it was necessary after seeming offish).

 

Had a few drinks whilst out later, but didn't get wasted. Didn't stay out after. I'm quite proud of my restraint in general. Watched the Mcgregor/Mayweather fight.

 

Didn't message yesterday (she didn't either). I think (hope) it's probably the usual game of waiting on me, which is the dynamic I like anyway. Not going to "mug myself" anyway

 

 

Wait until later, then I think attempt to make another weekend date. This time in my area, and try to escalate it to sex (try, not necessarily do).

 

Main focus now needs to be on approaching some girls during the week, keep from being complacent (which I'm finding difficult), and trying to keep this going until next weekend for a more substantial date.

 

Some notes:

- Women like swans, apparantly. The introduction of cuddly animals can shave hours from a seduction

- Women seem to get a bit of the hump whenever you exclude them from your social circle. Better to not bring it up when possible, if I'm not going to invite them

- Saturdays are actually a bit crap for first dates.

 

My conclusion: women like weekend first dates. I'm the one that generally doesn't.

 

So glad the date went well!!!

 

First dates can feel a little offish sometimes..I found that to be true with daytime dates

 

And yes, as a woman...I love weekend dates but if its a first date I try to schedule it asap... if it happens to be a week day date, I'm fine with that too

 

Great start getting back on the horse. You sound a bit musciad (Italian for down and dreary). I'm rusty with dating too. It can take a little while to to get back into the swing of things but I think you did better on the date than you think

[Bastile]

So glad the date went well!!!

 

First dates can feel a little offish sometimes..I found that to be true with daytime dates

 

And yes, as a woman...I love weekend dates but if its a first date I try to schedule it asap... if it happens to be a week day date, I'm fine with that too

 

Great start getting back on the horse. You sound a bit musciad (Italian for down and dreary). I'm rusty with dating too. It can take a little while to to get back into the swing of things but I think you did better on the date than you think

 

You're smart

 

I feel like I'm back at the bottom of a mountain looking up. Sort of.

 

Thank's for the encouragement, Dis.

[Dis]

 

I feel like I'm back at the bottom of a mountain looking up.

 

Very doubtful