Robratory Posted August 24, 2017 Posted August 24, 2017 I don't see what you did wrong? Even making out. Sorry, but it's time people realize that just because someone kisses you or even has sex with you doesn't mean that they are obligated It's not about "obligation." It's just a rude, thoughtless thing to do. We should be mindful about other people's feelings. 2
Ruby Slippers Posted August 24, 2017 Posted August 24, 2017 Tell her politely you're not feeling it and offer to pay via PayPal. That's what I'd do in your situation. 1
Miss Spider Posted August 24, 2017 Posted August 24, 2017 Don't give the standard nebulous woman response. This sounds good to females because they will use it. She may take this as not right now but maybe later. Just say you don't want to continue. At least be firm. I agree. People who are interested will take any little scrap and run with it." Oh he said 'right now' , and he kissed me, so he's probably just confused because we took it too fast. Plus he wants to take me out again and pay, so I'll just hang back until he asks me out again " Seriously, op, tell her you're not interested in clear, plain terms. If you feel that guilty about the money she spent, offer to PayPal her something for the drinks. Don't keep stringing her along because you forgot your walletX 1
mortensorchid Posted August 24, 2017 Posted August 24, 2017 Well this was a very bad situation you have gotten yourself into. I admit I do not know what one does or does not do in said situation, but considering that it's happened ... Text her back at least. Do her the courtesy of telling her thanks for paying and sorry about leaving your wallet in the car. That being said, tell her that you made a mistake in making out with her and you would rather not see her again, thank you. It will hurt but it's best for the situation at hand.
Miss Spider Posted August 24, 2017 Posted August 24, 2017 (edited) It's not about "obligation." It's just a rude, thoughtless thing to do. We should be mindful about other people's feelings. its changing your mind/interest in someone. It's not about rude or thoughtless at all imo. Maybe if he knew when he kissed her, but we don't know her feelings Edited August 24, 2017 by Cookiesandough
alphamale Posted August 24, 2017 Posted August 24, 2017 I agree that kissing indicates interest what about sucking on some girls tit? 1
Author CryForNoOne Posted August 25, 2017 Author Posted August 25, 2017 So I texted her back. I was polite and thanked her for dinner but did not discuss a second date. I will text her tomorrow ending any doubt and offering to pay my half. I just got back from another first date that had instant chemistry. I'm smitten and so is she. We're seeing each other next week and both of us can't wait. The other one is a done deal for sure.
joseb Posted August 25, 2017 Posted August 25, 2017 I've had a few first dates where I paid and there wasn't a second date. I haven't head from any of the dates offering to pay me half, and if I did I would find it a bit weird.
Miss Spider Posted August 25, 2017 Posted August 25, 2017 (edited) This reminds me of this time I went out with a recently divorced, friend of a friend. As we're leaving the venue, he asks me if I wanna grab a bite, and I said sure. He looks around and asks our group if anyone wants to come and they all give a knowing look and say, "nah, we're good. We're tired." So I find myself on basically a date with this guy. At first I was sort of confused, but when he orders wine and chocolate covered strawberries all doubt is erased. So I make it clear we're friends and what an awesome friend he is. I say I want to pay my half and he says "no, no, I got it, it's what friends do." He gets increasingly drunker, and as I'm contemplating my escape, he puts his hand on my knee and says asks me if I want kids soon and if I'm good with kids. I remove his hand and tell him we are just friends. The guy does the whole "I have enough friends" slur thing and I'm like "Yeah, me too. But this is not date and I am not interested in dating you, sorry. I have to leave now." When I got home, I got his email and paypaled him money to cover my half (probably got his too). Sorry that was so anticlimatic and vaguely relevant, but I still get shivers thinking about it. Edited August 25, 2017 by Cookiesandough
bachdude Posted August 25, 2017 Posted August 25, 2017 So I texted her back. I was polite and thanked her for dinner but did not discuss a second date. I will text her tomorrow ending any doubt and offering to pay my half. I just got back from another first date that had instant chemistry. I'm smitten and so is she. We're seeing each other next week and both of us can't wait. The other one is a done deal for sure. Procrastination
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