lorenzo19 Posted August 23, 2017 Posted August 23, 2017 (edited) Hello all! I will try my best to keep this short and concise as possible. My live-in girlfriend just broke up with me via email just 5 days ago while I was on a business trip after being together for about 2 years and 10 months. I was her first boyfriend and serious relationship. She found explicit email correspondence with another woman which where very sporadic, but they started back on December 1, 2015. We had been going through our fair share of struggles in the area of intimacy for 1 1/2 or so, which involved countless arguments and have gone to therapy a few times together. Regardless of the reasons/excuses, I was very wrong for what I did and I feel horrible for how the deceit, lies and betrayal hurt her deeply. She had moved everything of hers out by the time I got home from my business trip. Before she left for Denver yesterday, she agreed to meet up one last time to allow me possibly get closure on the matter. When we met, we embraced one another tightly and cried profusely about the ending of our almost 3 year relationship. She confessed how deeply she loves me she, but she just feels "defeated". She stated all of the arguments that we have had had taken a toll on her and the emails she found was the last straw. She feels that we both need time and space apart to work on ourselves, but she never indicates that she never wants to see me again, but does say that she didn't want me to contact her until around December/January. Her exact words were "I don't want to give you false hope though". Her and her family have already removed me as a "friend" on Facebook and other social networks. She is the only one that hasn't blocked me. She is seeing a therapist weekly for her struggles in the area we often fought about and I have put in calls to schedule an appointment with a therapist as well to take advantage of this time apart to work on making me the best version of me that I can be. With all of that being said, what are your thoughts? What do feel are our odds of reconciling? Do you feel I should give up on that prospect and move on? Thanks in advance! Edited August 23, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
d0nnivain Posted August 23, 2017 Posted August 23, 2017 Your odds of reconciling are slim to none. She thinks you are a cheater. She's never going to get past that. Don't expect her to. I'm appalled that she broke up with you -- the man she lives with -- through e-mail. How immature & cowardly! Why would you want somebody like that back? Adults talk face to face. By next year you will both have moved on & it wouldn't surprise me that one of you is in a new relationship. Do whatever work you want to do on yourself for you, not her but assume she's never coming back. 1
BluesPower Posted August 23, 2017 Posted August 23, 2017 If you are going to do the crime... Be prepared to do the time. Whether or not you were actually having an emotional affair or had slept with her or not, it does not matter. It has happened to me where and Ex would continue to contact me and it has really pissed some girls off. My advice, if you are really into a girl, do not even have the appearance of possible cheating. It is just better that way. Sorry bud... 3
Author lorenzo19 Posted August 23, 2017 Author Posted August 23, 2017 I appreciate the candid feedback.
Been Posted August 23, 2017 Posted August 23, 2017 I think you should leave her alone truthfully. You already violated her trust in you and the time for fixing the relationship already sailed. Instead of trying to fix the relationship you went behind her back- she won't ever get past that. 1
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