SherlackChromes Posted August 21, 2017 Posted August 21, 2017 (edited) hello! So when my ex and I were together it was absolutely amazing. Even though he told me he was deeply in love with me only after 11 days. Told me i was "the one". Now he seems pretty quiet so he isnt the douche bag type. One day he suspected I cheated because my neighbor would always call me and bug me to use my vacuum (stupid, very) but this got to my ex when we were dating. He apparently broke up with me (which i never picked up on!) we had a talk and asked of we were ended and all he would say is "i just cant worry about this rn" (he was studying for his bar). anways 3 weeks following this we spent a day with his parents. he held my hand and said he loved me and even nudged my knee when someone was talking about having kids (i knew what was up). i would have never guessed we were broken up. however weeks later he asked if i was mad and i said of course not. he said "ok good, friends?" i was sad then but carried on. one night after his test we texted a bit and he became super mean saying things such as asking for pictures of me and saying "if you admit you cheated ill take you back". this was not the boy i met. after a few arguments he told me that it was really that he lost feelings and that him thinking i cheated validated it. mind you literally the day before the break up he would always tell me how excited he was to spend his life with me and have a familty. after HE picked a fight mid-conversation I told him he didnt deserve my friendship after such rude words. well i broke NC after 2 weeks, all i said was "i hope all is well and that work is going well". no response. figured. i just miss the guy i fell in love with. its been 2 months since his definition of breakup and i have tried to date but i cant. his friend even thinks he is acting weird. i blame myself but they assure me that something may be wrong. a part of me is saying walk away, another part wants me to solve this mystery. i just miss him so badly Edited August 22, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Soulful_Hero Posted August 21, 2017 Posted August 21, 2017 11 days is a real short amount of time for anyone to feel love, it's not even two weeks in. The "love" that he is trying to portray has no substances behind it and you can tell by how he is flip flopping between "I love you" to " I want to break up". He is showing you what you are going to be dealing with in the future if you choose to get back with hiim. 1
Author SherlackChromes Posted August 22, 2017 Author Posted August 22, 2017 you just made me feel 100 times better youre right! i just think with my heart too much. 1
Hurtingguy Posted August 22, 2017 Posted August 22, 2017 Yes 11 days way too fast to feel love it's lust not love . You barely even know someone after 11 days no matter how much you talk and see each other. Your gonna have that feeling again fine day just remember it's not love that early and it's just lust you will be fine don't worry just go meet someone new and have some fun
ExpatInItaly Posted August 22, 2017 Posted August 22, 2017 OP, if some stranger is telling you he's "deeply in love" 11 days after meeting you and then breaks up with you without informing you - you're not in a very good relationship. He sounds like a loon. The above is not the normal behaviour of a well-balanced, healthy, mature adult. Red flag number #1 should have been "I love you" after 11 days, followed by you having no idea he'd broken up with you. Do not see how crazy that sounds? This guy isn't a good person. He's manipulative and knew exactly what to say to get you to fall for it, and then to kick you out of his life. He kept you around until he didn't need you anymore, than manufactured your "affair" as a reason for him to leave and blame it all on you. My ex was like this - and believe me, those are warning signs of worse to come. Delete his number and be glad you didn't get any more invested in this person.
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