kitkat826 Posted August 11, 2005 Posted August 11, 2005 OK everyone, Im a new poster and want some advice from you all; I've just initiated my first "booty call"/"friends with benefits" relationship with a guy I dated for six months and with whom I had a mutually agreeable break up llast week. The sex was great but its obvious that long term we are not compatible. I'm 23 and have never had this type of purely casual sex relationship before. Anybody have any advice? We plan on going back to using condoms, being respectful and caring as the friends we are, and stopping once one or both has found someone they want to be in a relationship with. Is this all a fantasy? How long should I expect it to last? Will the sex change? Will it be impossible to separate to the feelings/relationship of the past? I, for one, never saw him as a candidate for a long term partner, he was always very much a "Mr. Right Now" for things other than sex as well...so in a way this is the relationship I always wanted with him, and now I don't have the guilt of knowing deep down its not going to last... Any advice would be much appreciated!
TUDOR Posted August 11, 2005 Posted August 11, 2005 The only way it works is to keep it all out in front of both of you by talking and staying honest about where you head and heart are. Sex breads emotion and even though you broke up it is very easy for one of you if not both to get emotional involved because of the sex. I would also make some ground rules about sleeping with anyone else during this time....you need to know how many people are in the picture and FWB doesn't always get the need to know information they should about what all is going on in the other's life sex wise. Proceed with caution.
clynn Posted August 11, 2005 Posted August 11, 2005 You sound like a girl that can separate sex from love, so I think you're okay. I can never do that. I wouldn't have even dated someone for a full 6 months if I didn't see him being someone I was interested in more long term. And I also can't have sex with someone unless I think there is a chance of something lasting. (that isn't to say I might not be up for a one nite roll in the hay - but not with someone I already have friendship with). But that's me. You clearly are different. Sounds like it'll work for you! ALl the best! Have fuN!
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