clynn Posted August 11, 2005 Posted August 11, 2005 Been dating this guy a couple months. Can't say its totally serious, but he is travelling on a trip through a remote area where my dad lives and so he is going to stay there for a few days. I am going to meet him there. My dad will show us around. I am arriving by plane, he by boat to an area 2 hours from where my dad lives. My dad of course wants to pick him up and may even have other things plan. My guy though doesn't want my dad to go out of his way and wants me to let my dad know this. Of course my dad insists on picking him up. First, I hate being in the middle. Second, my guy is away right now in the middle of the ocean without email or phone access so I can't even tell him this. I'm kind of nervous enough about the whole encounter already nevermind adding this stuff into the mix.
HokeyReligions Posted August 11, 2005 Posted August 11, 2005 Your dad is not out of contact thought -- call him (don't email, he should hear it direct from you) and explain that your bf doesn't want him to go to any trouble and that you don't want him to either. Tell your dad that if and when the relationship reaches a serious point, you will let your dad go all out! Hearing it from you in a calm, even light-hearted manner, is much better than reading it in an email. I'm sure your dad is anxious to meet the guy, but he will in time. Let your dad know that you appreciate his help, but to hold back a little.
Author clynn Posted August 11, 2005 Author Posted August 11, 2005 That's a great suggestion. HOWEVER, where my dad lives there isn't actually a way to get there very easily. There isn't a public bus system or train. He would have to hire a taxi for a drive about 100 miles. Or, hitchhike. (course the man in him I think is up for the challenge) However, also...I think my dad has in mind that after we pick him up we will go on a mini-trip to a place that is on the opposite side from where we're picking him up to where my dad lives. So, in fact, it is more convenient and makes our trip to pick him up entirely worthwhile. Yikes. I do appreciate you comments, though, as it is interesting to hear from someone how my dad holding back is a wise idea as perhaps you think / understand that my dad's generosity might be perceived as some pressure, etc. Also, I think a little bit that it take away from the opportunity of teh guy to sort of show, hey, I had to climb mountains and fight trolls just to get here to see you guys! ha ha!
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