phoenix1 Posted August 20, 2017 Posted August 20, 2017 Went on a date that went better than any in quite some time. I felt like we both hit it off, we talked about getting together again, had a lot in common, etc. Was surprised to not get a "it was great meeting you" type text after though because it seems like that is what every guy does, without fail. We are both going on trips so we talked about doing something a little later but I feel like there should be some communication. Do I just sit and wait like an old fashioned girl, or send him one text, and see what happens? In the mean time I've got 2-3 other guys texting me constantly, that just don't seem to get that it's not happening. So frustrating.
d0nnivain Posted August 20, 2017 Posted August 20, 2017 Did you send the conventional "thanks for the date" text the next day? If not, send that. If you already did but he's not reaching out, I would pay more attention to the guys who are communicating with you.
Author phoenix1 Posted August 20, 2017 Author Posted August 20, 2017 No, I did not, because it has been my experience that after every other date I have been on I get a text like that from the guy. Unfortunately I have not really been feeling it with any of them.. I might send one text but yeah then that would be absolutely it. If someone wants to see me they know how to find me. I was just wondering I should even bother with the one text and wouldn't even be wasting time thinking about this except that the last 7-8 dates I have been on have been so bad, I was almost going to give up.
Miss Spider Posted August 20, 2017 Posted August 20, 2017 I thank the guy for dinner/drinks(if he paid) and the great date while we are together, say goodbye, then always let the guy follow up after the first date. Always 2
Miss Spider Posted August 20, 2017 Posted August 20, 2017 No, I did not, because it has been my experience that after every other date I have been on I get a text like that from the guy. Unfortunately I have not really been feeling it with any of them.. I might send one text but yeah then that would be absolutely it. If someone wants to see me they know how to find me. I was just wondering I should even bother with the one text and wouldn't even be wasting time thinking about this except that the last 7-8 dates I have been on have been so bad, I was almost going to give up. Did you already thank him on the date? If not, I think that's fine. I just developed this new policy because I feel like guys generally know their 'role' in the dating game, and if they think the date was as awesome as you, nothing will stop them from reaching out, even if they are shy/anxious type. That's been my experience. He could be the rare gender role abolisher and feel that you are just as obligated to text him, but I'm guessing that's not the case.
d0nnivain Posted August 20, 2017 Posted August 20, 2017 Men are not mind readers. Moreover it takes a great deal of courage to be the one asking / pursuing. Men have feelings too & they don't want to reach out only to be shot down. Many take silence on the woman's part as a lack of interest. At the very least you need to do something to indicate continued interest. A quick, thanks for the date text, is the bare minimum. Adding let's do it again some time would be better & more reassuring. The 1950s are over & sitting there demurely waiting for the guy to call you is out of style. Yes, there are men that will still pursue no matter what you do or even if you beg off but do you really want such a man? 1
Miss Spider Posted August 20, 2017 Posted August 20, 2017 Nooo I don't want a man I can't beg off, but likewise don't want a man who is too scared to be shot down to send a follow up after a first date. That's like the bare minimum sign of interest a woman can ask for from a guy if she thanked him on the date and didn't show any obvious signs of disinterest. Saying thanks again in texts seems too eager and redundant
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