JS17 Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Just want to hear your stories. Anyone else who's ex fell in love with another man/woman.
Dean3922 Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 I really can't talk about my ex yet because the hurt is to fresh but I think it takes as long to erase them from you heart as it did to know them. My ex just left me after 2 years with no explanation and acts toward me as if I'm dead. It is really hard to fathom how someone you cared about so much can just shut you out of their life, like closing a door. I wish you luck in recovery of your ex and I hope I can offer some insights for people here in this forum.
Author JS17 Posted August 11, 2005 Author Posted August 11, 2005 ok, let me try this. how did you get past the betrayal and anger?
Just Visiting Posted August 11, 2005 Posted August 11, 2005 It took me well over a year to get over my cheating ex. He just got up one day and left. I later found out he was reconciling with another ex. I never had that happen to me before. I felt that I treated him well within the relationship. But apparently what I had to offer wasn't good enough for him anymore. I cringe when I think of those first few months trying to get over it. That was sooo hard. At the same time, I am proud that I was able to kick him out of my life once I found out of his cheating ways. I did everything I could to recover. Counselling, prayer, self-help books...everything. I have learned alot from that whole experience. Now I am with a man who treats me with so much better than my ex did.
caring guy Posted August 12, 2005 Posted August 12, 2005 Today my babe told me it's over. We both 30, she has 2 kids 10 & 6 i love to bits. I suffer anxiety & am on meds & used to drink to self medicate! I stopped drink, but too late! Recently she wanted space & she wasn't getting anything done. Bull, she'd met someone else 10 years younger & in this 'space', she was seeing us both to see who she wanted! I found out from an open email she accidentally left! (made me hurl) She just returned from family holiday & told me she's chosen him as we've no future because of my baggage! Hurt, i've cried all day, at the moment, i think this will never go away! I miss her like crazy, as i love her so much!
lostinmymind Posted August 12, 2005 Posted August 12, 2005 It's really hard. I think the most important thing to tell yourself is that this person was not meant for you and that if they can do something like this they aren't worth time and energy. Put that energy into something else important to you. It takes about a year from what I understand. Maybe longer depending on how long in the future you had hopes for your relationship or plans together. My ex didn't cheat on me. She left me because she didn't want our relationship any longer. She wasn't ready to commit like I was and said she didn't trust herself. I deeply respect that she was able to tell me these things before she found someone else or started exploring with other people. Unfortunately she kept me around until she met someone new, so I feel almost as if I was cheated on. It was still very hard when she did meet someone though. A lot of the same feelings and questions: rejection, why am I not good enough?, didn't I make you happy?, how can you just end something with someone you care about? The only thing I am lacking is anger. I was very angry, but I don't have a real reason to be. She did the right thing by telling me her feelings before acting on them. It almost makes it worse because her doing that makes me realize that she did respect me and care about me. In a way I can sympathize with a lot of the things everyone who has been cheated on have gone though. Some aspects though I guess I can't possibly understand. Good luck to everyone trying to recover.
phoenixgurl101 Posted December 24, 2005 Posted December 24, 2005 I have just recently broken up with my ex of over a year and a half. He was my first and you know how it is. I got emotionally attached, then as the days went by I accidently stumbled upon an open email saying he was feeling guilty that he slept with this one girl repeatedly on spring break. Then when I went out later that week with one of my friends he got extremely angry with me. Since I have just graduated high school i moved to a bigger town for better schools and opportunities and he moved with me because i guess it was convenient at the time. I was lonely and didn't know many people and the only time i could hang out with my friends is late at night. Well he said he blamed me for opening her email and making him do what he did. I asked him about it, and he said he did no such thing, but why does she call him constantly and him her, and then as a cruel joke he keeps sending me emails she sent to him. They should be r-rated and so should those pictures she sends him. He is trying his very best to break my resolve to keep the separation permanent. He said he would try giving up talking to her cold turkey, but he lied. He called her when i wasn't around and emails constantly. It bothers me because she is a cutter and has slept with a ton of men, and that worries me. I know it shouldn't but it does. So as to move on i started hanging out with the sweetest guy in the world. *Tod* was so nice to me. It took him a few months of wooing for me to even give him a hug. Now we are boyfriend and girlfriend, but the hitch is i still live with my cheating ex, and the lease on the apt is for another year yet. What should i do? I feel trapt and my grades are sleeping because of his constant berating. He said the only reason why i have friends is because i have a big rack. That i'm a selfish and controlling hoar. Yet he still calls me over 10 times a night when i'm out with friends and pushes me around. He wants to know my every move i make. Should i try to get out of my rent right now? and his constant presence makes my new relatonship hard.
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