throwaway211 Posted August 19, 2017 Posted August 19, 2017 Sorry for long post but after reading some posts on here people seem to like detailed situations rather than a few lines... As the title says I am in a very confusing spot right now as me and the previous lady friend did not work. I meet this girl over social media as she went to the same high school as me but is about 4 years younger as she is only 20. We had many common interests together such as outdoors, music, some video games, and both had a chill personality. Unfortunately she lived two hours away due to college but we still managed to see each other about every other week as I told her the drive did not bother me because I really wanted to see her. The dates we went on felt like they went really smooth as many of them ended up spending the night at each others houses and physical connection was involved. Just this past week she started school and I knew we wouldn't have much time to talk so the communication went down drastically (texted her the first day of school and said i hope it goes great and she said thank you but after that no texts, no snapchatting each other). Just last night I texted asking if there was anything I did wrong for her to not communicate or did she think the distance was to great to maintain a relationship. Her reply back was along the lines of "Im going to honest I felt like you didnt have interest in me" and went on to say that when she had a headache or a bad day that all I did was say sorry". (which inst true because i am very caring person and told her to go lay down and text me back when you feel better to the headache remark). This is the ONLY example she could give that said I wasn't interested(???). Briefly after that text message I gave her a call to tell her that this has to be a misunderstanding and that I cared deeply for her as the emotions I felt for her were real and went on to explain that the times spent together were great and that I enjoyed her company. However during the phone call she only gave me one word answers like yeah, okay, and "i really dont know what to say" as shes told me before shes not the best communicator. So in this situation I am very confused as a majority of the time I was one to initiate whether it be through texting, phone calling, snapchat, etc.. Times were I said lets talk on the phone and told her to call me whenever she had a chance (she never called). Always the one who made the plans when she would come over to my place or hers (which she only came to my place once as I told her Id rather to drive to her place so she doesn't have to make the commute), asking i could come early to spend an extra night, bought every dinner that we went out to (which never once did she say thank you), movie tickets, drinks, and even a few small gifts that I even wrote encouraging words in that i hope she does well at her new college and her future goals. I really wanted to be the chill person that hanged out and had a great time with her as she mentioned she was in a toxic relationship earlier this year and I just wanted to be the guy who wanted to prove to her that there is still great times to be had. So that I understand was I in the wrong here? Or was I just being played a fool? Do I go ahead and remove her from my social media and move on? Thank you for reading my story and any constructive criticism would be greatly appreciated.
preraph Posted August 19, 2017 Posted August 19, 2017 Dating is for finding out enough a person to see if you might be interested in them. She spent enough time with you to know you were not the one for her. It could be any number of reasons and not just the one mentioned. You just weren't who she's looking for.
smackie9 Posted August 19, 2017 Posted August 19, 2017 She is diverting blame making you the one who is not showing their interest. What does that look like to you? She's just using you till something better comes a long. There is nothing you can do to make her be more receptive to your advances.....ditch the b(*&^
coolheadal Posted August 19, 2017 Posted August 19, 2017 Dude she's not interested in you. You can't force it on her to be that way. She's getting over prior toxic relationship and here you come into it. she's just 20 years old a young adult, not even out of the teenage state fully yet. So you going to have days like she acts right now until she grows and understand life and love. Once short answers means they're bore with your words. They want you to hurry up so they can end the call or text. You shouldn't waste anymore time with this chick. Do not call her again, see what she does next. If she was really into you she would contact you right away. If not move on...
smackie9 Posted August 19, 2017 Posted August 19, 2017 I really wanted to be the chill person that hanged out and had a great time with her as she mentioned she was in a toxic relationship earlier this year and ****I just wanted to be the guy who wanted to prove to her that there is still great times to be had. Don't be a fixer.....this is where you went wrong and set yourself up for being used. Don't date the broken.
Author throwaway211 Posted August 19, 2017 Author Posted August 19, 2017 Don't be a fixer.....this is where you went wrong and set yourself up for being used. Don't date the broken. Thank you, I should have known better to not get into that as she was still seeing him occasionally as they own a dog together and having to transfer him back and forth together.
smackie9 Posted August 19, 2017 Posted August 19, 2017 Thank you, I should have known better to not get into that as she was still seeing him occasionally as they own a dog together and having to transfer him back and forth together. And there it is....the key evidence.
d0nnivain Posted August 20, 2017 Posted August 20, 2017 She has unreasonable expectations. You showed proper interest & sympathy. She was digging for excuses. Really. It's not you. It's her. Next. . . 1
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