A possible future?

[RedRunner01]

Hi everyone,

I don't know where to post this, I feel this is the best place.

 

During my stay in a hostel in Lisbon, I met a lovely Australian girl 1 year old than myself that shared the same room as me, she is 25, I'm 24 from the UK.

 

We arranged to have dinner with the rest of the people at the the hostel, and after we headed back up as we planned to have a day trip out to a town north of Lisbon, and we ended up staying up for 2 hours talking about her maths teaching and the differences between the UK and Australia.

 

The next day we get up early and head out, we visited palaces, hidden beaches and went swimming in the Atlantic Ocean, we then arrived back into Lisbon and had dinner together in a fancy restaurant, and finished it off by going to a rooftop bar for a few drinks, by the time we returned to the hostel it was 18hours

[d0nnivain]

What's your Q? Is it the title of your thread -- do you have a future?

 

Unless you have a way to contact her again, how would you even go about asking her if she wants to stay in touch? What's the end game here? Before you met her, did you ever consider moving to Australia? If not, no you don't have a future. You can't base a possible future on the idea that she will move to you since you never spoke about it & if you didn't want to move before meeting her you can't emigrate to another country because of one woman. That's a bad life plan.

 

Why can she just be the cherished memory you have of your time in Lisbon? That is the more practical solution.

[RedRunner01]

Hey, it didn't let me mention the rest of the post which was:

 

Hi everyone,

I don't know where to post this, I feel this is the best place.

 

During my stay in a hostel in Lisbon, I met a lovely Australian girl 1 year old than myself that shared the same room as me, she is 25, I'm 24 from the UK.

 

We arranged to have dinner with the rest of the people at the the hostel, and after we headed back up as we planned to have a day trip out to a town north of Lisbon, and we ended up staying up for 2 hours talking about her maths teaching and the differences between the UK and Australia.

 

The next day we get up early and head out, we visited palaces, hidden beaches and went swimming in the Atlantic Ocean, we then arrived back into Lisbon and had dinner together in a fancy restaurant, and finished it off by going to a rooftop bar for a few drinks, by the time we returned to the hostel we had spent the last 18 hours awake together just us two.

It was a fantastic bonding experience, and we shared a lot personal stories that wouldn't be shared with many other people, as well as learning about each other, what we enjoy and what we have in common.

With all the bonding over such a short period of time, we became ever so close, and there's a lot of chemistry. Two of our roommates believed something was going on as they mentioned how much we hit it off.

 

She does have a boyfriend which she lives with, and I have no interest in wanting to become a home wrecker, but I saw something in her that I've not seen in any of my partners in the past, amd we clicked and had banter and bounced off each other There is a high chance we may never meet again due to the distance, but she is in the UK with one of her friends in October so I could offer to meet up/let them stay with me so they don't need to pay for accommodation.

 

Do you think there is anything there, anything to pursue?".

 

In reply to your message, We do have Facebook, and we have been chatting, she is still travelling Europe, now with a friend from Australia, till October. And now the more I read what I wrote, It seems even more silly and unrealistic, but can't help but feel she is a soulmate (if you believe in that) and we even spoke about soulmate and she hinted how strange it is that soulmate can be found instantly without knowing them much at all.

 

So yeah, the question is should I try to persue something (if there is anything) just because of how close we have been for less than 36 hours as a whole before we left to go separate ways.

[CptInsano]

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Do you think there is anything there, anything to pursue?".

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You'll always have Lisbon, but an LDR is hard to maintain under the best of circumstances. At the end you only have chemistry with a woman who has a boyfriend and who lives on another continent.

 

Just enjoy it for what it is.

[d0nnivain]

She does have a boyfriend which she lives with, and I have no interest in wanting to become a home wrecker, but I saw something in her that I've not seen in any of my partners in the past, amd we clicked and had banter and bounced off each other There is a high chance we may never meet again due to the distance, but she is in the UK with one of her friends in October so I could offer to meet up/let them stay with me so they don't need to pay for accommodation.

 

Do you think there is anything there, anything to pursue?"..

 

Unless she breaks up with the live-in BF in the next 36 hours, the minute she does anything with you other then spend time or eat, she's a cheater. Do you really want a cheater? Some smart aleck is going to tell you by spending time with you now. she's already having an EA. I don't think she is. I think you are just there & somewhat interesting. If the BF was on the trip, she'd barely acknowledge you other than not to physically stumble over you.

 

I suppose if she's dumped the BF by October when she comes to the UK, there could be a nice rebound vacation romance for you both but that's about it.

 

So No, there is nothing for you to pursue.

[RedRunner01]

I knew that answer was coming, as it's the only possible outcome, that or never talking again. I think I just got into believing wishful thinking a bit too much. It's just a case of me wanting something I can't have.

[BaileyB]

Indeed. You spent a nice day with a woman who has a boyfriend and lives a world away... enjoy the memory of Lisbon.

 

There is nothing to pursue, unless she breaks up with her boyfriend.

[smackie9]

That's why she has a BF....she's a catch, right?

[coolheadal]

Hey, it didn't let me mention the rest of the post which was:

 

Hi everyone,

I don't know where to post this, I feel this is the best place.

 

During my stay in a hostel in Lisbon, I met a lovely Australian girl 1 year old than myself that shared the same room as me, she is 25, I'm 24 from the UK.

 

We arranged to have dinner with the rest of the people at the the hostel, and after we headed back up as we planned to have a day trip out to a town north of Lisbon, and we ended up staying up for 2 hours talking about her maths teaching and the differences between the UK and Australia.

 

The next day we get up early and head out, we visited palaces, hidden beaches and went swimming in the Atlantic Ocean, we then arrived back into Lisbon and had dinner together in a fancy restaurant, and finished it off by going to a rooftop bar for a few drinks, by the time we returned to the hostel we had spent the last 18 hours awake together just us two.

It was a fantastic bonding experience, and we shared a lot personal stories that wouldn't be shared with many other people, as well as learning about each other, what we enjoy and what we have in common.

With all the bonding over such a short period of time, we became ever so close, and there's a lot of chemistry. Two of our roommates believed something was going on as they mentioned how much we hit it off.

 

She does have a boyfriend which she lives with, and I have no interest in wanting to become a home wrecker, but I saw something in her that I've not seen in any of my partners in the past, amd we clicked and had banter and bounced off each other There is a high chance we may never meet again due to the distance, but she is in the UK with one of her friends in October so I could offer to meet up/let them stay with me so they don't need to pay for accommodation.

 

Do you think there is anything there, anything to pursue?".

 

In reply to your message, We do have Facebook, and we have been chatting, she is still travelling Europe, now with a friend from Australia, till October. And now the more I read what I wrote, It seems even more silly and unrealistic, but can't help but feel she is a soulmate (if you believe in that) and we even spoke about soulmate and she hinted how strange it is that soulmate can be found instantly without knowing them much at all.

 

So yeah, the question is should I try to persue something (if there is anything) just because of how close we have been for less than 36 hours as a whole before we left to go separate ways.

 

Flirt, tease and fling you are having with her only, cheating on her BF to be with you a bit. You want such a woman in your life. How can you call her your soulmate you don't even know her enough to say that. She has BF, doesn't sound so loyal to the men she's with. You'll be just a number to her and nothing else until she gets back home to Merry Old England to be her true so called BF. Your nothing to her, and you should push this because she has a guy you need to find a woman who not playing mind games with you. Stop spending your time and money on her. What I can't understand why you doing this? Duh hint BF she has one, Duh you not listening because you want her also. My friend you barking up the wrong tree as we say her in America. Nothing with her no future either, unless she breaks off with the current BF for you. I doubt that unless your million plus gent?

[smackie9]

The reality is....you are wasting your time investing....there won't be any relationship or future with her and you know this. So why are you even here entertaining such a thing. You already know the answer.

[Robratory]

She does have a boyfriend which she lives with

 

Do you think there is anything there, anything to pursue?".

 

No. It's just not worth the hassle, the drama, the bad karma. There are so many other available girls.