kendahke Posted August 17, 2017 Posted August 17, 2017 kendahke What about Nope. Not playing the deflection game with you. This is the issue: in my mind if he REALLY really wanted to be with me he would't agree to date my friend this is like a guy saying "if you loved me, you'd (do whatever it was that you didn't want to do)", which is one of the most manipulative things a person can say. Him not taking you out on a date is non sequitur to you rejecting him when he was in the process of showing you that he wanted to be with you. Him moving on to hang with your bestie isn't revenge: it's him moving on when he's recognized a lost cause. You decided after the fact to change your tack when you decided to develop feelings for him and now that they're stinging, you're trying to assign blame to everyone but the one who set this in motion by freaking out. 1
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2017 Posted August 18, 2017 smackie9 Yes, totally. Thanks for this. Seriously if he had real romantic interest he would ask me out as I just mentioned in another post. He never asked me out until now and our understanding was that we were having out as friends! I am hundred % sure there was no miscommunication about that. We weren't out on a date and what happened appeared to be one of those experiences we tend to regret the morning after. My expectation would be that we would speak about this in person next time we hang out. Instead he texts me to ask if he can date my friend. Before that he wouldn't go out with her. So in light of what you are saying he was probably trying his luck with me first but it didn't work out and instead of clarifying things with me he just proceeded to the next available option. Now is is telling me he loves me? And he is soon believable. I caught myself fantasizing about him several times He doesn't love you, he just wants sex. You want to get slammed then by all means enjoy yourself, but I bet money on it he will give you some song and dance that he isn't ready for a relationship and chase after someone else. I already told you he is telling you what you want to hear to get your guard so he can get into your pants. I have been on this plant for a long time know and have my fair share of experience.....Tip: guys will do and say anything to get sex.
Author Coldfire Posted August 20, 2017 Author Posted August 20, 2017 He doesn't love you, he just wants sex. You want to get slammed then by all means enjoy yourself, but I bet money on it he will give you some song and dance that he isn't ready for a relationship and chase after someone else. I already told you he is telling you what you want to hear to get your guard so he can get into your pants. I have been on this plant for a long time know and have my fair share of experience.....Tip: guys will do and say anything to get sex. He doesn't love you, he just wants sex. You want to get slammed then by all means enjoy yourself, but I bet money on it he will give you some song and dance that he isn't ready for a relationship and chase after someone else. I already told you hi e is telling you what you want to hear to get your guard so he can get into your pants. I have been on this plant for a long time know and have my fair share of experience.....Tip: guys will do and say anything to get sex. Thanks smackie9, I think you are right. Im glad I didn't do anything with him....would have felt like such a fool. Will take a step back now and see what happened
Author Coldfire Posted August 29, 2017 Author Posted August 29, 2017 (edited) UPDATE: So I went out with him 2 more times and followed the great advice I got here...took things slowly and carefully observed his behavior. He tried to sleep with me both times and I could tell that he wasn't happy that I didn't want to go there the 2nd time. I made sure he knows I am very attracted to him but I need more time to decide (because of his dating/sex with my friend). I may be criticized by some members here here but this is how I feel and he needs to earn my trust. Here is the weird part : he seems to be changing his mind a lot. After the 2nd date he told me that perhaps he actually isn't ready to date (!) because he has issues and that perhaps we should be just friends. Then he went back to telling me how much he loves me. In another weird exchange he also said that given our mutual attraction we probably can't be "just friends" going forward. Just minutes ago he told me on the phone that he has never met a woman like me and he misses me oh so much. He texts all the time and expects me to always answer his calls right away. Yet, he went to a concert and didn't text for a day and a half.... I don't like this. So right now I don't know what to think. I think he is really confused or perhaps just a player. The lack of consistency is a big turn off.... this is definitely not the man I thought he was.... Edited August 29, 2017 by Coldfire
sandylee1 Posted August 29, 2017 Posted August 29, 2017 If he really liked you he should have stayed away from your friend, with the knowledge it could affect a future relationship. If I liked a guy and we didn't get together I would steer clear of dating his friends. ..but that's me. OP .... is there a shortage of guys where you are? Surely you can avoid this. 1
Author Coldfire Posted August 29, 2017 Author Posted August 29, 2017 He doesn't love you, he just wants sex. You want to get slammed then by all means enjoy yourself, but I bet money on it he will give you some song and dance that he isn't ready for a relationship and chase after someone else. I already told you he is telling you what you want to hear to get your guard so he can get into your pants. I have been on this plant for a long time know and have my fair share of experience.....Tip: guys will do and say anything to get sex. Hey smackie9 I think you were right about this guy . See update .
Author Coldfire Posted August 29, 2017 Author Posted August 29, 2017 If he really liked you he should have stayed away from your friend, with the knowledge it could affect a future relationship. If I liked a guy and we didn't get together I would steer clear of dating his friends. ..but that's me. OP .... is there a shortage of guys where you are? Surely you can avoid this. Hi sandylee1 I agree with you. But thought I should give it some more time....Some people here suggested that I rejected him etc. and I thought that I should at least make sure he understands how I feel:)
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