Author letmein Posted August 18, 2017 Author Posted August 18, 2017 (edited) Are you paying for these "friend outings"? If so she is flat out using you and you are allowing it to happen. You can go for the kiss and maybe something happens and you can escalate to sex. But, unless you're just looking to score, is this really someone you want in your life? I've met women like this (ordering food I'm allergic to) and banged them for several months. The entire time they were selfish. Selfish doesn't change and you don't want to get emotionally involved with someone who puts their needs above all else. Their selfishness was apparent in the way they acted, the sex, everything. It's a huge turn off that sex can't even make up for. No, we always split the bill. I hadn't really thought about that. She is being selfish to my feelings and I'm not sure sex would change that. I am very attracted to her so maybe I've been blinded by that. Maybe the best choice is to just stop contacting and hanging out with her. I don't know if I should say something like "If you get over the thing with your ex and want to date, hit me up" or to just remove myself without saying anything Edited August 18, 2017 by letmein
SevenCity Posted August 18, 2017 Posted August 18, 2017 No, we always split the bill. I hadn't really thought about that. She is being selfish to my feelings and I'm not sure sex would change that. I am very attracted to her so maybe I've been blinded by that. Maybe the best choice is to just stop contacting and hanging out with her. I don't know if I should say something like "If you get over the thing with your ex and want to date, hit me up" or to just remove myself without saying anything If it were me I would just disappear and never talk to her again. She is selfish and disrespectful and it's easy to walk now rather than once you are further invested. If you feel compelled to leave the door open, just tell her you are not interested in being friends and to contact you if she is interested in something romantic. It's hard to see but if you get involved with her you will bring your self hurt and suffering. Best to avoid that.
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