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Hey all,

 

I posted awhile back on liking a coworker (whom I rarely see because we work in different departments) and how I can go about showing my interest. We've chatted here and there and every time was very friendly and he was asking me questions. We went on the bus together one time and we talked for a while, I was kicking myself for not giving my number. We added each other on Instagram and he always likes my selfies, so not sure if that even means anything.

I remembered he got a tattoo last week so I messaged him on Saturday asking how it went. And we chatted a little on there then I mentioned how I found a 100$ bill on the ground and he replied with "Whoaa drinks on you!" And so I kinda took that as him suggesting we go out for drinks so I replied with "yeah for sure when!" he took a couple hours to respond and then came back with "Haha jk I don't even drink but maybe like a frappuccino or something!"

Idk to me that reply just seems safe and uninterested in more than friends. Should I even bother ? I haven't even replied because I don;'t know what to say. Thanks.

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Avoid the situation of coworkers. I made a donkey out of myself a few years ago and am still damaged deep within from it. You will live with PTSD if you do this like me.

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Since you rarely see this person due to working in different departments, why not send him a text saying something like...."soooo, when are we going to get that frappuccino?"

 

and see what his reply is.....

 

He could be gauging your interest as well.

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it's kinda hard to say. my gut says that he just wants to be friends because he would've asked for you number by now if he was interested - especially when two rode the bus together. that was his chance to ask and he didn't.

 

i've known co-workers who dated before but it only worked if they were in different departments and didn't interact ALL the time at work. so, i do think it IS possible for co-workers to date but i don't think this guy is gonna be that guy for you. onto the next! you deserve a guy who's super into you and wants to buy YOU a frappucino!

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it's kinda hard to say. my gut says that he just wants to be friends because he would've asked for you number by now if he was interested - especially when two rode the bus together. that was his chance to ask and he didn't.

 

i've known co-workers who dated before but it only worked if they were in different departments and didn't interact ALL the time at work. so, i do think it IS possible for co-workers to date but i don't think this guy is gonna be that guy for you. onto the next! you deserve a guy who's super into you and wants to buy YOU a frappucino!

 

Yeah me too, I'm so sad about it as I like everything about him, he's like my ideal guy. So frustrating! :( I'm just gonna reply with "let me know if you wanna go" or something

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