Forever Searching Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 I have been thinking about posting to get some advice and support for a couple days now. I think I was waiting it out to see how I handled my emotions given some more time. I think I need some help. Sunday my boyfriend left for Iraq. We haven't been together that long and it was agreed that we would keep in touch during his time there (7 months) and then see where things went when he got back. I thought I'd be ok. I have a little experience in dealing with the Iraq thing since I have other loved ones and friends there right now also. Well, I had a really hard time Sunday. I was full of anxiety and panic. I have so many thoughts racing through my head like, I didn't realize I cared about him so much, what if he doesn't care about me the same way and was just using me. What if he is upset because he doesn't know I care. It's driving me insane. I can barley funciton day to day and I know I have to be stronger than this for me if no one else. I sent him an email and explained that I did care about him and just how much. I didn't let on about what I was going through, just told him everything I felt about him. He told me before he left that communication was very key to making this work. Well I'm just dying waiting to hear from him. I know it may take awhile till things get settled in for them just arriving and all, but trying to stay positive during this time until I hear from him the first time is tearing me up inside. I keep thinking what if I never hear from him again. Deep down my instincts tell me everything will be ok. But, then I have the little voice on my shoulder saying I'm an idiot and I'm putting myself through this for nothing. Please tell me this will all pass and what I'm going through is for a good reason regardless of whatever the outcome may be.
she_9325 Posted August 12, 2005 Posted August 12, 2005 hi.... how long have you been together with him? "what if he doesn't care about me the same way and was just using me. " are these just your random thoughts or do you have a reason that you truly think he was just using you? "Please tell me this will all pass and what I'm going through is for a good reason regardless of whatever the outcome may be". of course it will be fine regardless of the outcome. even/especially if it ends badly. you don't discover how strong you truly are until you're faced with the most difficult situations in life.
Author Forever Searching Posted August 12, 2005 Author Posted August 12, 2005 Originally posted by she_9325 hi.... how long have you been together with him? are these just your random thoughts or do you have a reason that you truly think he was just using you? of course it will be fine regardless of the outcome. even/especially if it ends badly. you don't discover how strong you truly are until you're faced with the most difficult situations in life. Thank you for the reply. I didn't think anyone actually was going to. Guess it's a hard topic at the moment. I did hear from him and he's been in touch in some way every day since then so I was worried over nothing really. We were only together like a months so that's why it's such a difficult situation. So far we both seem to be on the same page as far as where the relationship is at the moment and where we would like it to be.
she_9325 Posted August 15, 2005 Posted August 15, 2005 girl, i hear ya. lemme ask you if you feel it in your heart though, if you know he cares about you, and of course he does or else he wouldn't have said this: "He told me before he left that communication was very key to making this work." when i'm away from my honey or i have too much quiet time, i tend to overthink and overanalyse everything. it tends to drive me crazy. i think this might just be a case of that here for u.... no matter what happens, just ride it out..... like i said you never know how strong you can be until you're placed in the most difficult of situations. either way u win girl. keep yer chin up :-)
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