questionable_love Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 I met this guy at a party through a friend. We hung out together as a group at parties a few times until one day he asked me out to watch a movie and have dinner. So the date went really well and we had such a great time together. He wanted to meet again next week. So by the time the 2nd date rolls around, he texted me that morning saying " Heyy I just woke up. Not feeling too well today =(. Can we reschedule for the next week?" and I replied back to him saying Yes of course and hoped that he felt better soon. So does anyone think this is a sign of him not interested and wanting to ghost away? He hasn't texted back after my last response.. How long should I wait to text him back asking if he is feeling better or should I wait until he texts back?
Miss Spider Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 Hard to say. He could really be sick. Give it a few days and ask him how he's feeling.
smackie9 Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 He could be sick, he could be more interested in hanging out with the guys instead, or he had a date planned with someone else. None of this is any of your business at this time because you have only been on one date. The ball is his court because he was the one who cancelled, so he is the one to reschedule a new date. If he doesn't contact you or comes up with a new excuse then you know he is not interested. This is what you do.....nothing. You go on with your life and not think about it. 1
dumbass2 Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 Like the other poster said, give it a few days if you don't hear from him, ask him how he's feeling and that's it. Make plans as if he's not going to contact you again and if he does with a date to out, then go have fun. 1
Versacehottie Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 Agree with the others. Your response was the right one. No need to flip out or be skeptical or go overboard about his excuse with kindness and worry. That said, I'm way into stats and people beg off dates or other occasions with much more sickness than actually ever could possibly go around so keep your heart a bit guarded when you do go out with him and move forward. He may not be as invested or ready as you. The reason could be to do with you OR equally as much to do with him. Maybe he's moody & had a bad day or had a zit, ran out of money, stuff like that and beyond. Needless to say, also keep your eye on the fact that this is how is might remove himself from obligations and promises he has made--come up with flimsy or partial truth excuses. Just some thoughts. Keep your mind positive and always be seeing if he measures up to the type of guy you would let in your life. Definitely let him make the next move--do not do it for him. Ball is in his court. Good luck 1
Robratory Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 I wouldn't text him back unless there was something really, really special about him. Wait for him to contact you. If he doesn't, it's not that he forgot. Sadly, you'll have to conclude he just wasn't that interested.
Author questionable_love Posted August 14, 2017 Author Posted August 14, 2017 Agree with the others. Your response was the right one. No need to flip out or be skeptical or go overboard about his excuse with kindness and worry. That said, I'm way into stats and people beg off dates or other occasions with much more sickness than actually ever could possibly go around so keep your heart a bit guarded when you do go out with him and move forward. He may not be as invested or ready as you. The reason could be to do with you OR equally as much to do with him. Maybe he's moody & had a bad day or had a zit, ran out of money, stuff like that and beyond. Needless to say, also keep your eye on the fact that this is how is might remove himself from obligations and promises he has made--come up with flimsy or partial truth excuses. Just some thoughts. Keep your mind positive and always be seeing if he measures up to the type of guy you would let in your life. Definitely let him make the next move--do not do it for him. Ball is in his court. Good luck Thank you for your response. He actually texted me that night and said he wanted to make it up to me and take me out on Wednesday. So everything looks good so far. 2
TopsyLove Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 I don't think it matters what the reason is that he broke up the date, he didn't want to go. Maybe he's in the hospital, maybe a really good movie was on. Shouldn't be too big of a deal for you, we've all felt that way. Maybe text in two days, but if he doesn't ask you out again and is short - leave it at that. Look for other love interest to distract you from this, if he comes around great, if he doesn't at least you'll have someone else in your eye sight. 1
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