caputo77 Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 I messaged a guy I work with on facebook to ask a question about something related to my shift later that day. He answered and we chatted briefly, which led to us agreeing that there was a movie we both wanted to see, and he asked me if I wanted to go together. I agreed and from there figured it was just a friendly thing since both of us had talked about wanting to see it. We picked a day and time, and then he suggested we go eat too. I said sure, so he picked a sit-down place to get dinner after. Nowhere super fancy but not a cheap diner or anything either. He then gave me his number and said I should text him instead of facebook message. We continued to make the plans, then texted for a bit longer about other stuff until we saw each other at work later in the day. I actually really like him and would be super happy if it turned out it was meant to be a date. I'm just not really sure at this point. We chat at work pretty frequently but up until this point I wouldn't call us anything more than casual work friends. It's taken him a while to ask me to do anything outside of work despite there being many opportunities so I had just kind of figured he wasn't interested. Would a guy ever suggest dinner and a movie with a girl he didn't already have an established friendship with if he meant it to just be a friendly hangout? Do you think he might be interested as more than a friend?
smackie9 Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 IMO a guy doesn't invest his time like that if he wasn't interested. When he asked if you would like to get together to go see a movie, right then you should have asked (in a flirty manner) if it was a date. You missed your window to define his intentions. I know it's confusing sometimes with guys that have very little confidence in themselves. Not every guy comes out and asks specifically for a date. Some ball-less bros will do the friendship route first thinking the girl needs to warm up to the idea of dating them. On your date, look good, smell good and be flirty and smile lots.
smackie9 Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 The best thing you can do is show YOUR interest in him. You like him, then show it.
coolheadal Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 I messaged a guy I work with on facebook to ask a question about something related to my shift later that day. He answered and we chatted briefly, which led to us agreeing that there was a movie we both wanted to see, and he asked me if I wanted to go together. I agreed and from there figured it was just a friendly thing since both of us had talked about wanting to see it. We picked a day and time, and then he suggested we go eat too. I said sure, so he picked a sit-down place to get dinner after. Nowhere super fancy but not a cheap diner or anything either. He then gave me his number and said I should text him instead of facebook message. We continued to make the plans, then texted for a bit longer about other stuff until we saw each other at work later in the day. I actually really like him and would be super happy if it turned out it was meant to be a date. I'm just not really sure at this point. We chat at work pretty frequently but up until this point I wouldn't call us anything more than casual work friends. It's taken him a while to ask me to do anything outside of work despite there being many opportunities so I had just kind of figured he wasn't interested. Would a guy ever suggest dinner and a movie with a girl he didn't already have an established friendship with if he meant it to just be a friendly hangout? Do you think he might be interested as more than a friend? Something is overlooked here? Facebook IM vs SMS Text. Why did he shift from that to SMS Text. Who does he live with or who else has access to his Facebook account. What do you know about this guy other than work. Does he have another woman he's seeing or does he have wife still? You haven't been to his home/apt/flat or townhouse/condo. Ask this guy from work are you living with someone? Do you have any kids from prior marriage or dated someone prior who you had kids with? Lets see what he tells you about that can worms. Before you get to deep in this. Not really a good idea to date any one who you work with at work. At my job with have OPA who was going to be OPM but can't now that he has brought in his GF to work with us. He lost the management position because she's there. I see he has to think about her and she about him. I see that there is also a married couple working with us two I would never knew that. I met the husband and he told that was his wife ouch. How does all this work out in the work place tense at best. I would never get involved with a woman from work just too much risk involved. Side comments would drive me to get away from it. Guys like to talk but then it might get out of hand.
SammySammy Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 I've gone to several places with women I have no romantic interest in. Usually it was somewhere I was going anyway and didn't mind this person coming along. Sounds a lot like this situation. I wouldn't assume anything. Just go and have fun. Who cares what you label it? What difference does it make? The two of you can (and will) determine what happens from that point regardless of what label you give it in your mind. 2
coolheadal Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 I've gone to several places with women I have no romantic interest in. Usually it was somewhere I was going anyway and didn't mind this person coming along. Sounds a lot like this situation. I wouldn't assume anything. Just go and have fun. Who cares what you label it? What difference does it make? The two of you can (and will) determine what happens from that point regardless of what label you give it in your mind. You sound like you just taken friend a long with you that's it. This is guy from work seems to be a different story. To much tv drama show gives you a hint into something else going on. The only way to ask this guy what his intentions are?
Author caputo77 Posted August 13, 2017 Author Posted August 13, 2017 Something is overlooked here? Facebook IM vs SMS Text. Why did he shift from that to SMS Text. Who does he live with or who else has access to his Facebook account. What do you know about this guy other than work. Does he have another woman he's seeing or does he have wife still? You haven't been to his home/apt/flat or townhouse/condo. Ask this guy from work are you living with someone? Do you have any kids from prior marriage or dated someone prior who you had kids with? Lets see what he tells you about that can worms. Before you get to deep in this. Not really a good idea to date any one who you work with at work. At my job with have OPA who was going to be OPM but can't now that he has brought in his GF to work with us. He lost the management position because she's there. I see he has to think about her and she about him. I see that there is also a married couple working with us two I would never knew that. I met the husband and he told that was his wife ouch. How does all this work out in the work place tense at best. I would never get involved with a woman from work just too much risk involved. Side comments would drive me to get away from it. Guys like to talk but then it might get out of hand. No I don't think anything sketchy is going on. I just figured he switched from facebook to texting because he wanted my number? But I don't know. We're in college so it's just a temporary college job, not a serious career or anything so it's not a super big deal. I actually won't even be working there anymore in a few weeks. And he lives at home with his parents and is definitely single. I'm not too worried about that.
GemmaUK Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 He is interested enough to want to get to know you a bit more. I would just take it as that at the moment, play it by ear. If you are interested then show it and flirt with him. I would switch from FB to a phone number because my phone does not like FB. I'm not one to be addicted to my phone either though so I wouldn't want to have to go to FB every time and have to go through all the stuff you need to before seeing a message. Text is quicker and easier.
shellybing Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 I messaged a guy I work with on facebook to ask a question about something related to my shift later that day. He answered and we chatted briefly, which led to us agreeing that there was a movie we both wanted to see, and he asked me if I wanted to go together. I agreed and from there figured it was just a friendly thing since both of us had talked about wanting to see it. We picked a day and time, and then he suggested we go eat too. I said sure, so he picked a sit-down place to get dinner after. Nowhere super fancy but not a cheap diner or anything either. He then gave me his number and said I should text him instead of facebook message. We continued to make the plans, then texted for a bit longer about other stuff until we saw each other at work later in the day. I actually really like him and would be super happy if it turned out it was meant to be a date. I'm just not really sure at this point. We chat at work pretty frequently but up until this point I wouldn't call us anything more than casual work friends. It's taken him a while to ask me to do anything outside of work despite there being many opportunities so I had just kind of figured he wasn't interested. Would a guy ever suggest dinner and a movie with a girl he didn't already have an established friendship with if he meant it to just be a friendly hangout? Do you think he might be interested as more than a friend? If you do not know what the intention is - ask. We are adults now. You can do that. "Is this a date?" If you are too shy to ask, you can just "hang out" and see what happens. You might know before the end of the night what the intention is without having to ask.
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 If you want it to be a date for your sake I hope it is, but because as of now it's ambiguous, I'd go in assuming it's a friendly co-worker hang out & nothing more. Be prepared to pay your own way for everything & that you might not even be sharing the popcorn. If it's a date, you will be happily surprised but if it's not you won't be too badly disappointed. At a minimum this man is a poor communicator so asking him directly will probably freak him out. Go to the movie & see how he behaves.
coolheadal Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 No I don't think anything sketchy is going on. I just figured he switched from facebook to texting because he wanted my number? But I don't know. We're in college so it's just a temporary college job, not a serious career or anything so it's not a super big deal. I actually won't even be working there anymore in a few weeks. And he lives at home with his parents and is definitely single. I'm not too worried about that. Oh okay that clears up that mystery. See what happens next with him? If I was like you don't push yourself on him. If he's interested he should come to you and not the other way around.
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 I missed the fact that he's a college boy. It may very well be a date because he may not have the maturity to point blank ask & call it a date so he hemmed & hawed his way into spending time with you. Still be prepared to pay for your movie ticket & dinner just in case. Be flirty & make it easy for him to hold your hand or put his arm around you in the theater. Those actions will tell you if it's a date.
fred123 Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 I missed the fact that he's a college boy. It may very well be a date because he may not have the maturity to point blank ask & call it a date so he hemmed & hawed his way into spending time with you. Still be prepared to pay for your movie ticket & dinner just in case. Be flirty & make it easy for him to hold your hand or put his arm around you in the theater. Those actions will tell you if it's a date. Isnt that too soon to hold hands etc? Quite big step?
d0nnivain Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 Isnt that too soon to hold hands etc? Quite big step? First dates are for holding hands & kissing. Some people even have sex on a first date As long as both people are happy with the level of physical interaction it's all good. 1
fred123 Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 First dates are for holding hands & kissing. Some people even have sex on a first date As long as both people are happy with the level of physical interaction it's all good. Some girls dont kiss on first dates or hold hands. So what does the guy do? Dump them Think OP should be careful
alphamale Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 Do you think he might be interested as more than a friend? he may be but you probably want to wait until he gets his drivers license before you two get serious
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