Author SevenCity Posted August 12, 2017 Author Posted August 12, 2017 Sevencity, is this the first woman you have felt disappointed with the date where you have traveled to meet her? No no the first. I've been dissapointed with local as well as travel dates (usually because I wasn't into them or they threw up serious fed flags). Where I am I have limited choices that fit my criteria so I expand the radius. Many have gone well and ended up into seeing each other but I've yet to find one I want long term.
Author SevenCity Posted August 12, 2017 Author Posted August 12, 2017 [/b] just because you can't envision doing what someone else does, doesn't mean it won't occur. People are different. Girls are conditioned from an early age, "not to rock the boat" and stay polite and "be good". So it totally makes sense that she would stay and "complete" the date. Happens all the time. I don't know a girl friend of mine who HASN'T done that. Also if there isn't a real life attraction initially, a lot of people can separate the fact that it doesn't mean you deserve to be humiliated (such as if she walked out or was abrupt with you). She also probably have mentally committed herself to spending her evening with you so whether it was 10 minutes or 2 hours might have not mattered to her. Lastly, she might have not felt an initial spark (physical chemistry) but was open to seeing if one developed via personalities over the evening. It totally make sense that what happened that night happened. Fair point. Two drinks sounds like a complete date though - one drink actually. If she wanted food she could have ordered sooner but I felt almost like she was trying to extend the date. I'm not a rude person and have hung around for a drink or two even if I wasn't interested but I dont extend longer than it has to be.
thefooloftheyear Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 Actually, having spoken to men who do the OLD thing, if they are to be believed, they often stay too. I've heard stories of them sitting through a date with women who grossly misrepresented their appearance because they were too kind to say anything. This..... I think it really takes a certain type of person that would ditch out on someone, because it "wasn't happening"... It doesn't seem unusual..She just was trying not to be aggressive and just did what she felt obligated to ...and no more.. TFY 1
Gaeta Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 Oh and I should mention she sent me a text thanking her for making the drive and hope I got home safe. Just a thought: I think you just could not read this woman. Staying late at a date and texting a man afterward aren't signs she is not interested. If she was not interested she would not have texted after. Especially she did not owe you a polite text she had paid her share. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 Just a thought: I think you just could not read this woman. Staying late at a date and texting a man afterward aren't signs she is not interested. If she was not interested she would not have texted after. Especially she did not owe you a polite text she had paid her share. I don't see how this isn't just normal and polite protocol for a date that didn't work out....It took all of 5 seconds to send a text, esp due to the fact that he traveled a distance..IMO, she was just being polite and non confrontational.. TFY 1
Miss Spider Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 Yeah. Especially considering he traveled (I'm guessing at least an hour) to see her, I can see myself doing the same out of courtesy 1
OatsAndHall Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 The last woman I dated was hot and cold when it came to dates. Sometimes we had a great time as she was relaxed but we had many bad dates where she was very anxious and quiet. I asked her about it and she said that she had always struggled with dating since her divorce. I told her that I didn't mind keeping in touch with her as she is a nice woman but that I would leave the "dating" portion up to her. I told her that I enjoyed her company (which I do) but that I understood that she was uncomfortable and would leave "date planning" to her. Long story short, we texted back and forth for awhile and she asked me out one weekend. We went on two dates and she was crawling out of her skin both times. I told her last week that I just didn't see us working out as a couple. We're still going to remain friends as we have nice phone conversations here and there but I won't be joining her on anymore awkward dates. A part of me feels bad as I know that she struggles with dating because of her abusive ex-husband but I won't keep putting myself through bad dates. And, I think it is best for her as I believe that she does want to date me but just isn't ready to do so at this point.
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