What did she mean by that?

[the_lost_1]

Couple months ago or so, when I told this girl that I never dated, she texted me back saying "oh boy". What does this mean? Was she being rude and arrogant? Should I have not told her this? Should I have kept this to myself?

 

Thanks people

[SevenCity]

That means you're gonna be trouble or not worth her time.

 

 

Yes, keep it to yourself. Women want guys with experience. Go get some.

[the_lost_1]

I always tell them that I have no experience so I doubt I'm going to be any trouble. Why would I be?

 

In my situation, it's impossible to get any experience so I've been dealt a bad card and I have to live with it.

[SevenCity]

I always tell them that I have no experience so I doubt I'm going to be any trouble. Why would I be?

 

In my situation, it's impossible to get any experience so I've been dealt a bad card and I have to live with it.

 

I don't know your back story but basically a woman doesn't want to have to teach you.

 

And if you are always telling them and it is always failing why do you continue to do so?

[Robratory]

Should I have kept this to myself?

 

Yes.

 

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[CryForNoOne]

Couple months ago or so, when I told this girl that I never dated, she texted me back saying "oh boy". What does this mean? Was she being rude and arrogant? Should I have not told her this? Should I have kept this to myself?

 

Thanks people

 

"oh boy..."

[GemmaUK]

I think you should be upfront about being deaf (if I recall correctly you suffer from deafness? Apologies if I have that incorrectly) but there's no need to say you haven't dated.

[mortensorchid]

I always tell them that I have no experience so I doubt I'm going to be any trouble. Why would I be?

 

In my situation, it's impossible to get any experience so I've been dealt a bad card and I have to live with it.

 

Guy, how old are you? You sound like you are a young guy, as in either a teenager or a guy in his early/mid twenties. She responded the way she did because she does not want to be with a man who has no experience. And then you realize that you have no experience because no one will give you any. What to do? BECAUSE they don't want to break you in. So ... What you should do is NOT TELL OTHERS THAT YOU HAVE NO EXPERIENCE IN ORDER TO GET EXPERIENCE WITH OTHER WOMEN.

 

I have met a few guys (that I know of) who didn't have sex until they were in the mid twenties, one was almost 30 (and he has trouble getting it up once he's in the act, but that's another story). They never say this to others = except me. Why? I don't know. It's what it is. But don't tell on it, especially if you have just met.

[Miss Spider]

Yes I think it's arrogant. Seriously, why do some act like this. Just move along, no need to make snide comments. Not cute.

 

You don't need to state you haven't dated before until it comes up. And if someone judges you for that, next them. We all start somewhere

Edited August 13, 2017 by Cookiesandough

[coolheadal]

Couple months ago or so, when I told this girl that I never dated, she texted me back saying "oh boy". What does this mean? Was she being rude and arrogant? Should I have not told her this? Should I have kept this to myself?

 

Thanks people

 

Good GOD man, why do you spill the beans on your own personal life on women. STOP IT! You show weakness on your part when you do that. Your the leader not the loser. Go watch some self-help about how to date a woman. You can find those for free on Youtube. But it should come natural to you.

 

1. Do not spend a lot of on woman that is not into you. If her eyes wonder then you call for the check and tell her you will take her home because her eyes wasn't on you it was on other men. You don't need that crap.

 

2. Just be yourself on a date you work too much into it and never say you don't have experience. The date will not turn out right. Women tend to a lot of dates so you do the same thing.

 

3. Always pay for the meals never let them pay for it..

 

4. End the date with a kiss or hug

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

I always tell them that I have no experience so I doubt I'm going to be any trouble. Why would I be?

 

In my situation, it's impossible to get any experience so I've been dealt a bad card and I have to live with it.

 

Oh boy. This is the real issue, not the lack of experience.

 

Stop wallowing in self pity and your life will change. There are plenty of people with a hearing impairment who have found love. You're hiding behind your disability.

[smackie9]

I don't know your back story but basically a woman doesn't want to have to teach you.

 

And if you are always telling them and it is always failing why do you continue to do so?

This is my question too. Why not do or don't do something that will play in your favor? You see the results now do the opposite. Not telling them is not lying. If they have some interest in you, then you are already ahead of the game....telling them you have never touched a boob or whatever, all you are doing is C*&%^ blocking your own damn self!

[diddilybop]

yeah, i suggest looking at a dating tips on youtube, i've heard Matthew Hussey is a good channel.

 

in the meantime, stop wallowing in a deep puddle of self-pity (it's not attractive. also, plenty of people have had found love even with their own health conditions, including myself) and here's some dating advice grandma gave me when i was younger, "less history, more mystery". it might help you find more success.

Edited August 14, 2017 by diddilybop

[normal person]

Couple months ago or so, when I told this girl that I never dated, she texted me back saying "oh boy". What does this mean?

 

It probably means she wasn't expecting that.

 

Was she being rude and arrogant?

 

Rude, maybe. But probably caught off guard and probably not malicious. If she was being arrogant about something like that, you're better off without her. If not, let's give her the benefit of the doubt for now.

 

Should I have not told her this? Should I have kept this to myself?

 

Here's where I'm probably going to differ from some people: if she asked you this question directly, I don't see much sense in lying to her and I applaud your honesty if this is how it went down. Well done. She'd figure out the truth eventually and would probably resent you for lying to her, which would be understandable. But at the end of the day, if she wants to go out with a guy with some experience, that's her right, even if she might be rude about it. The silver lining is that you probably wouldn't enjoy your time with someone who's seemingly that critical anyways, so maybe it's for the best.

 

I think it'd be better to focus your attention on people who might be more understanding. And all that being said, you're under no obligation to disclose your dating history to someone unless they ask. So if I were you I wouldn't jump the gun and just blurt it out unprompted. Give someone a chance to appreciate you and realize that there's more to you than who you've seen, what you've done, etc. You seem like a good guy, best of luck.

[the_lost_1]

Well it definitely seems that she didn't want to be my first everything, so I thought she should know that. I think that everytime I tell them this, I hit two birds with one stone. First, it shows their intention. Second, it shows their true color or personality. Basically, a test perhaps?

 

But if a girl had no experience either and I think it would work well for us. Hopefully I find that girl somehow maybe.

[the_lost_1]

Guy, how old are you? You sound like you are a young guy, as in either a teenager or a guy in his early/mid twenties. She responded the way she did because she does not want to be with a man who has no experience. And then you realize that you have no experience because no one will give you any. What to do? BECAUSE they don't want to break you in. So ... What you should do is NOT TELL OTHERS THAT YOU HAVE NO EXPERIENCE IN ORDER TO GET EXPERIENCE WITH OTHER WOMEN.

 

I have met a few guys (that I know of) who didn't have sex until they were in the mid twenties, one was almost 30 (and he has trouble getting it up once he's in the act, but that's another story). They never say this to others = except me. Why? I don't know. It's what it is. But don't tell on it, especially if you have just met.

 

I'm 29 and I think I have to tell them regardless. I think that it's part of my gut and test, basically. Two birds with one stone, ya know?

[alphamale]

Should I have kept this to myself?

yes, you should have kept it to yourself

[the_lost_1]

I'll be honest, I think she was being insecure about herself. She's likely an insecure lady 'cause she was on my facebook friends list and then she unfriends me. But oh well, thanks for replies guys.