Cb1008 Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 Fast recap... My boyfriend's x split with him after 16 years. I met him and we got serious quickly at his 6 month mark. He moved in almost immediately. After one year I had a heartbreaking nagging suspicion. I checked his phone. He was looking up spells to bring her back. He purchased the things needed and asked me to stay out of my garage. Angry, I confronted him. He claims I'm the one who can't be trusted for checking his phone. He does not feel he did anything wrong. He left for 3 months out of state to start new. It failed for him. Needless to say, once he returned he was right back. I am in love with him. But last week, which is now almost 2 1/2 yrs of us, I saw him put in his debit card code. Not usual. He is very private. The code I believe is their anniversary. I believe she's a virgo so I'm guessing it's that. It hurt my feelings badly. I told him. He said he would take care of it. The next night, I was drinking and went on to say that I don't want to be second best and I thought it was best we figure something else out. But it all got swept under a rug. You can't push him. Bottom line, he didn't change the code. Am I going crazy for feeling that this is the bottom line? A code? I just feel it means so much more than he is willing to admit.
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 You two moved too fast. You were a rebound. You also know an awful lot about his prior relationship. I would have no idea what my BF's anniversary date with his prior GF was let alone be able to recognize the pattern as he typed it into his phone. I also couldn't date a grown man who believes a "love spell" will solve his problems. Clearly you are second best. He's working to get her back. Why are you continuing to let that go on? You loving him doesn't change the fact that he loves her. Love yourself enough to get rid of this relationship before it turns 3. You can't keep wasting your time. 4
ExpatInItaly Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 You two moved too fast. You were a rebound. You also know an awful lot about his prior relationship. I would have no idea what my BF's anniversary date with his prior GF was let alone be able to recognize the pattern as he typed it into his phone. I also couldn't date a grown man who believes a "love spell" will solve his problems. Clearly you are second best. He's working to get her back. Why are you continuing to let that go on? You loving him doesn't change the fact that he loves her. Love yourself enough to get rid of this relationship before it turns 3. You can't keep wasting your time. This. I wouldn't be able to partner with up with someone who is casting magic spells in his dang garage, let alone as a means of getting his ex back. The PIN code is just a symbol for the deeper problem in your relationship. Why spend any more time trying to make this guy love you the way he loved/loves his ex?
amaysngrace Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 You should put a spell on him to make you be more desirable in his eyes than she is. 3
SevenCity Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 This. I wouldn't be able to partner with up with someone who is casting magic spells in his dang garage, let alone as a means of getting his ex back. The PIN code is just a symbol for the deeper problem in your relationship. Why spend any more time trying to make this guy love you the way he loved/loves his ex? Although I don't believe in spells or supernatural stuff, pleanty of people are willing to base their lives around a premise that some guy died for their sins and magically came back to life three days later. Oh and that his mother got pregnant without intercourse. And he could turn water into wine. They even celebrate holidays around it. Him wanting her back is the problem. Tolerant posters seem too quick to find his beliefs immature.
Gaeta Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 It was a life lesson waiting to be learn. Next time a man freshly out of arelationship gives you a bit of attention say : Thank you but NO thanks! You invested 2,5 year in learning that lesson it's not too bad could have been 5 or more. Time to free yoursel from that spell and send him on his way. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 Although I don't believe in spells or supernatural stuff, pleanty of people are willing to base their lives around a premise that some guy died for their sins and magically came back to life three days later. Oh and that his mother got pregnant without intercourse. And he could turn water into wine. They even celebrate holidays around it. Him wanting her back is the problem. Tolerant posters seem too quick to find his beliefs immature. If his spell casting in the garage was the only issue, yes, tolerance would be appropriate. This guy was never in love with the OP. She was his rebound, the safe place to land & get a good roof over his head when his LTR ended. As you said that is the real problem. There are too many reasons that this relationship needs to end. Their belief systems are simply one more bit of incompatibility 1
KBob Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 You should put a spell on him to make you be more desirable in his eyes than she is. Or a spell to forget you ever dated a man that believed in spells. 1
mortensorchid Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 You started off as a rebound relationship on his part. Rebounds are bad things for all parties - how to tell? I don't know anything about you before you came into the picture, but it sounds like he jumped into the situation very quickly. And he's casting spells to do things to the ex gf? You mean he's really mixing potions and things? Are you sure he's not making meth? Ha ha ha ... I'd get out of this ASAP before you waste more time with him. He sounds like a nutjob.
smackie9 Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 Ok enough with this hokus pokus hoky poky stuff. This guy is USING the F*&^ out of YOU. If anything he has a spell on you to give him accommodations while he puts his plan into play. Sorry but open your damn eyes....you have let a psychopath into your life that you need to eradicate asap. Get rid of him....he's bad news, he's bad for you. Egad what does your family and friends think?
Author Cb1008 Posted August 12, 2017 Author Posted August 12, 2017 I thought that the situation was reversed and in the past. I know it's very screwed up. I hung in there and thought things were better. They felt better. The bs stopped. But then I saw his code last week. I just don't feel like im over reacting considering the history. I guess I just feel hurt because I thought he was letting go. I said the spell bit to show how serious he was and yes, I think it's crazy. Thanks for all the input
Author Cb1008 Posted August 12, 2017 Author Posted August 12, 2017 I don't share with my family and friends. I'm embarrassed. We don't have each other's passwords. That means nothing. I saw his debit card pin code. And that's what hurt my feeling s
diddilybop Posted August 12, 2017 Posted August 12, 2017 (edited) i love astrology and all, but COME ON. he may be finished with casting a spell to win his ex back but the real deal is that he's put a toxic spell on YOU. he's manipulating you and using you to get his selfish wants/needs met and you're worried about his debit card code? dump him immediately before you lose sense of your self-worth. Edited August 12, 2017 by diddilybop 1
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