I love my fwb

[Griesfootball]

First post in two years, going to be as clear and short as possible.

 

Hi, I am 22 yr. male. Met a 20 yr. old girl in a group tinder in January. We hooked up first time we met. We would meet once a month. In April we went on a few dates. From May to June we would hang out 3-4 times a week, going to the beach, going to the gym, even kayaking and concerts.

 

Late June I asked her to be my girlfriend and 3 weeks in she broke it off citing that she doesn't want to be tied up. After that we went back to whatever we were before. This seems to be a cycle. We see each other 4 times a week, we start to get close, and then she goes cold for a few days before it all starts over again.

 

Do I keep riding this out bc I have so much fun with this girl, or do I kill the whole thing unless she wants to date full on? Why doesn't she date me by now? At the same time why has she kept me around this long?

[Blanco]

Oops, you did it wrong.

[Miss Spider]

She's not that into you, only just enough to sleep with occasionally . That's what FWB is.

[preraph]

She either doesn't want a keeper or she doesn't see you as a keeper. If you are looking for a real girlfriend, don't go in for the FWB arrangements. Find a girlfriend.

[diddilybop]

she's keeping you around because it's convenient, easy and fun without having to deal with the commitment and responsibilities of a real relationship. if you want a girlfriend, i'd end this FWB and move on.

Edited August 11, 2017 by diddilybop

[central]

At her age, why would she want anything that could be permanent? She'd most likely regret it - and you probably would too.

 

 

Find a gf who wants an exclusive, conventional relationship, if you want love. I wish I'd had a FWB and stuck with that arrangement a while, when I was your age!

[coolheadal]

Late June I asked her to be my girlfriend and 3 weeks in she broke it off citing that she doesn't want to be tied up.

 

That's excuse woman say when they're not into you as much as you are. She's just a friend with some extra's be happen you have that with her. Sure you want more than that. But listen, not every woman going to be so much into you. She's telling you this in an excuse. Read what she tells you and you will understand what she wants. Nothing to tie her down, (I do not want you like that)

[Griesfootball]

That's excuse woman say when they're not into you as much as you are. She's just a friend with some extra's be happen you have that with her. Sure you want more than that. But listen, not every woman going to be so much into you. She's telling you this in an excuse. Read what she tells you and you will understand what she wants. Nothing to tie her down, (I do not want you like that)

 

And what do I do about upcoming trips we have planned? Going to a Yankees game next week and a concert the week after?

[preraph]

You divvy up the tickets. Give her the two tickets to one event and you keep the two tickets to another so you're not both there.

[diddilybop]

And what do I do about upcoming trips we have planned? Going to a Yankees game next week and a concert the week after?

 

i like preraph's suggestion. divide the tickets up or if you paid for them, keep them for yourself and take a good friend.

[Bastile]

Hanging around with her for 3 or 4 days a week is far too much.

 

Dial that back to 2 days each week. Which is an easy way to keep a steady plate spinning.

 

One mid-week date for social fun. And the weekend full of sex.

 

Spend more time cultivating other options, and getting some side pieces. Eventually your balls will lead you elsewhere naturally.

[amaysngrace]

I'd completely disappear if I were you. I'm sure you have someone else to go to a concert or baseball game with.

 

This chick likes games so play along and ghost her. Her interest level will probably spike about 1000%