buzzie2 Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 I'm friends with a married man and he is always flirting with me. He winks at me and tells me I'm sexy. He gets jealous if other guys talk to me and is always complaining to me about his wife. I don't want to have an affair with him but I'm beginning to think that that is what he wants from me. I would only get involved with him if he divorced his wife but I don't think he has the balls to leave her. Should I tell him to take a hike?
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Originally posted by buzzie2 I would only get involved with him if he divorced his wife but I don't think he has the balls to leave her. You should tell him to take a hike .. It doesn't take balls to leave a wife for another woman.. It takes stupidity
Marshbear32 Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 And do it pronto before you really start to feel for him. You like his attention and you need to break it off or you will be the OW.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 End your 'friendship' because he'll just continue to wear you down, and tell him that you are sorry but you don't "do" married men - either as a friend or a lover. You'll have to be firm and end the friendship. I mean cutting off ALL non-business interaction. As long as you give this guy an inch in the form of 'friends' he will continue to keep trying for a mile. He'll probably try twice as hard as a single guy.
BoatingBabe Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 I am in your shoes, and have been for a long time...EA only, never turned physical, but trust me when I say, things will only get worse, and I am at the moment now of telling himto F off. It's all about games...let him go play his games with someone else.
Rosalind Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Originally posted by buzzie2 Should I tell him to take a hike? Oh gosh, YES!!!......I'm no stranger to married men hitting on me. If only they knew how it sickens me to my stomache. I DO NOT find it flattering, that's because it's pretty sad when you attract a man who lies and cheats on his wife. just my $0.02 Rosalind
whichwayisup Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Everybody has given you some really good advice. This guy is a control freak and wants you to play with him. Only way to end this is stop playing! You deserve a better man, somebody who will love JUST you and only you. Take care and keep posting!
erika2610 Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Originally posted by buzzie2 I'm friends with a married man and he is always flirting with me. He winks at me and tells me I'm sexy. He gets jealous if other guys talk to me and is always complaining to me about his wife. I don't want to have an affair with him but I'm beginning to think that that is what he wants from me. I would only get involved with him if he divorced his wife but I don't think he has the balls to leave her. Should I tell him to take a hike? Trust me. I used to date a MM.. you should end the friendship also. As time goes by, you'll probably get more attracted to him.. thhe more attention he pays you. Just leave him alone hun.
erika2610 Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Originally posted by Rosalind Oh gosh, YES!!!......I'm no stranger to married men hitting on me. If only they knew how it sickens me to my stomache. I DO NOT find it flattering, that's because it's pretty sad when you attract a man who lies and cheats on his wife. just my $0.02 Rosalind Hey hey hey I attracted a man like that And here I was, thinkin you were nice
jadeblossom Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Oh gosh, YES!!!......I'm no stranger to married men hitting on me. If only they knew how it sickens me to my stomache. A certain guy classmate of mine been asking me out for drinks and stuff and I kept turning him down. And then on Monday night he asked me out for dinner, and i agreed. In the course of the conversation I asked him where he stayed and with whom. He avoided the topic. I got suspicious. After the night was over, he asked me out for drinks and wouldn't take no for an answer. Day after that, I called another classmate and found out this guy was married.With a one year old kid. But apparently his wife goes to sleep at 9pm every night now with the baby. So after 9pm he gets up to his nonsense with other women. Guess how sickened to the stomach I felt. I know EXACTLY what you mean. All these stories make me feel so jaded about relationships and marriage. Buzzie2, tell him to get lost. He's a jerk by cheating on his wife and flirting with you.
newbby Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Hey hey hey I attracted a man like that me too! hey original poster, it is true they wear you down and they do try, not twice but thrice as hard as a single guy.
ww Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Should I tell him to take a hike? NO. Tell him to F*** off
lust4life Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Is this going on at work? you can take a hefty sum home with you if he doesn't stop and set yoruself up for the next good job. So, if it is at work tell him you are reporting him to HR and that he better be ready to be canned. You don't have to do it but it is a sure way to make him stop. If it isn't at work then you can't be led where you aren't willing to go. Don't even contemplate an affiar, just read on here all of the heart ache.
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