Gelli22 Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 So met this guy on tinder and talked about meeting but he never followed through. A month later he reaches out to me to say he had lost his phone and he was so sorry and was using his mum's phone. Obviously I thought this was just an excuse but agreed to go on a date with him. We ended up having an amazing date, conversation flowing, laughing, just an immediate connection. During the date he said 'is it too early to say I want to see you again?' and made all sorts of comments about things we should do in the future. He also genuinely had his mum's phone so he hadn't been lying! I even asked him at the end of the date whether he meant that he wanted to see me again and he said yes and kissed me. He ended up coming back to mine as well but I have to say I was the one who pushed it. Now during the date he mentioned that his grandad wasn't very well and he was driving down to see him at the weekend. A few days later I texted just to say I had a nice time. He ended up telling me that his grandad had passed away. A few days later we ended up matching on bumble. He texted me to say that he didn't even remember he had bumble. We chatted for a bit and I told him I was about to go to a specific club that night and he said he'd never been but always wanted to go. I of course asked if he wanted to come. He said he'd love to but he was feeling really down about his grandad still. We chatted more and I basically said 'ask me out again' (this wasn't so bad in the context of the conversation). He replied 'I'm sure I will, but it's just bad timing with everything at the moment'. I replied 'Of course! I'm just saying I'm keen' - yes I completely regret that. In the UK I promise it sounds a lot more casual. This was a week ago. So is it wrong of me to think that if a guy was interested then he would still make time to see me? Or am I just being a bad person and not being to able to respect the fact that he's obviously grieving?
d0nnivain Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 It's probably a little bit of both. Many people immediately turn to sex in the face of death; it's life affirming. Other that that, in the midst of acute grief it's hard to feel much or concentrate on the things you have to do, let alone start a new relationship. I'd chalk it up to bad timing but not hold my breath for this guy to come around. 1
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