Logo Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 Do online dating websites that require payment have a higher success rate than the slew of websites that offer anyone access to a catalog of potential suitors? I have been using an unpaid website for several months and to say that I'm disappointed would be an understatement.
Mrin Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 Do online dating websites that require payment have a higher success rate than the slew of websites that offer anyone access to a catalog of potential suitors? I have been using an unpaid website for several months and to say that I'm disappointed would be an understatement. I always had the best luck on Match - which is paid. I met a lot of women on OKCupid but none of them turned into anything.
SevenCity Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 Short answer, no. Long answer - people feel that those who are on paid sites are more "serious" than non paid. It's not true. If you go on for a while you'll start to see the same people on both. Free sites have more people because they are free but it all boils down to how attractive the person finds you. Proximity is also a big factor - I get tons more matches when in a city than in the burbs. I've had similar success with all sites but bumble is my favorite due to the better quality of women. EHarmony has been a waste of time. "Success" is relative though. I have gotten sex from all sites but yet to find a LTR. Your best bet is to concentrate on your pics as that is what will get people to respond. 1
Gaeta Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 No matter what site you are using, time and patience will be your best friend. I met my bf on badoo. You can get on there for free but I usually paid the short-term membership because I wanted to be able to use more services. To meet him it was worth the little money they asked.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 I get many more sexual and harassing messages on free sites. Payed sites are a waste of time where I live because there is barely anyone on there.
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 I've done both including eHarmony and the results have been interesting to say the least. I've tried pretty much all the major sites at different points in my life. Match seemed to be better than most (although I was matched up with my cousin a few years ago which was...well...awkward). eHarmony, for me, was the worst of them all despite all the hoopla. I've already spoken about this in previous posts but I ended up on a couple of dates with married and the few prospects I was matched with and who I considered were with men I felt weren't even close to my 'type' :/ The problem I've found with free sites is the quality of prospects. I mean, you get what you pay for. And the problem with sites where people opt out of purchasing memberships means you're limiting yourself in terms of how and with whom you communicate which could be frustrating. If you're serious about dating then pick a site and invest, even just a month, and see what comes of it. I agree with Gaeta that time and patience is definitely required. As well as a healthy perspective. Good luck!
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 I've had the most lasting relationships with those from EH. It does a very good job of selecting based on education and income and those two considerations are very important to me. I married my ex from it, a physician and all of the women have been amazingly attractive. My only grip with it is that you don't control over whom you are matched and sometimes the matches seem way off. Even now, I have had good matches and will be meeting two ladies later this week. OKC and POF seem to be cyclical. Sometimes hot and sometime really cold. Tried Match once and it didn't do much for me at all except for one great date. Never went back to it.
coolheadal Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 Do online dating websites that require payment have a higher success rate than the slew of websites that offer anyone access to a catalog of potential suitors? I have been using an unpaid website for several months and to say that I'm disappointed would be an understatement. Don't pay for love it.. In the past I use to be on radio dating shows, I use to hire someone paid $300 but I did get my money back, because they broken the law. Long story. I see no purpose to pay for anything when it comes to dating. E-H - nope Match.com - nope they own OKC (Okcupid) OKC - nope but they remove the visitor list and that sucks. Set your location beacon to anywhere because do not set it to local. They all want your money for love, I am not giving them my money for false promises to lure you into thinking you be on the top list. Just change your picture or change your profile on OKC it gets kick up. Sometimes it doesn't you have to create a new account to get push. Just way to much work. Finding a new love is not easy, Why did GOD make it so hard for us all. For me there are way to many mentally unstable women I really not into control substance abuse, I am far from it and these women are driving overboard. Where the heck are the good women to date. I think those are already happy and married long term with kids and everything going great. To me this is some sort of unbalance behavior. I waited for after I got my career going. Now tough knocking on virtual doors to meet some sort of women. All these dating sites about the same. Everyone playing some sort of games, those you take out on a date are no better than anyone else. Should we ask close friends to hook us up, or go to other places to run into someone. Those are the choices to find someone. Again we're all strangers just not easy. So my vote is no! Do not pay for love!
kendahke Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 Do online dating websites that require payment have a higher success rate than the slew of websites that offer anyone access to a catalog of potential suitors? I have been using an unpaid website for several months and to say that I'm disappointed would be an understatement. No. I usually pay so that I can have more control over my account/profile and it has no bearing on the number of actual men who contact me. Because of my age, I get hounded by scammers who think I'm as dumb as they are. Yes, I get likes and "would like to meet you" all the time, but those who are real and reach out and type something other than "hi pretty" are thin on the ground.
Gaeta Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 It's not paying for love It's paying to have full access to options that will allow you to communicate with a prospect, to view his extended profile, to see when he's read your message and a bunch of other things. You are paying to get yourself better tools to make a better choice. 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 Do online dating websites that require payment have a higher success rate than the slew of websites that offer anyone access to a catalog of potential suitors? I have been using an unpaid website for several months and to say that I'm disappointed would be an understatement. In my experience, I have had more dates from non-paying sites, but my best relationships have come from EH which is paid. I never pay full price and always wait for or purchase promotional periods of time at much discounted prices. I never pay otherwise. I think, for men, it's a waste of money.
coolheadal Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 In my experience, I have had more dates from non-paying sites, but my best relationships have come from EH which is paid. I never pay full price and always wait for or purchase promotional periods of time at much discounted prices. I never pay otherwise. I think, for men, it's a waste of money. I had tried EH didn't seem much of success rate than OKC had. Could be where you were living? Here there is 110K online on OKC. I see the same sort of women on their.
andie1969 Posted August 10, 2017 Posted August 10, 2017 I was on Match, OKC and POF (just briefly). Met 2 guys for one date each on OKC, nothing from POF and met my boyfriend of 2.5 years on Match. Match was the only one I paid for, only a few months, and it seemed to have the least amount of scmmers and bs on it.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 10, 2017 Posted August 10, 2017 I had tried EH didn't seem much of success rate than OKC had. Could be where you were living? Here there is 110K online on OKC. I see the same sort of women on their. Location, location, location! Yup. I somehow managed to spend most of my years in more conservative areas of the country where multicultural dating and open-minds is a bit of a challenge to do and discern.
Larryville Posted August 10, 2017 Posted August 10, 2017 The site you use is irrelevant. It is a matter of luck and timing. However the bigger question for anyone online is why would anyone want you? What make you worth picking? People bemoan online dating "failures" when we all have free will and choice. If you are a together, educated, good looking, reasonable, communicative person with a quality profile and positive disposition and a positive attitude you will get dates no matter what site you use. Whether it turns into a "relationship" is another thing but if it doesn't that is not necessarily a "failure" if you have a conversation or get a date that is all any website promises... an opportunity. If you keep failing no matter what the site, you need to look in the mirror. Money can't buy you love: woman sues elite dating agency after a string of disastrous matches Money can't buy you love: woman sues elite dating agency after a string of disastrous matches 3
coolheadal Posted August 10, 2017 Posted August 10, 2017 Location, location, location! Yup. I somehow managed to spend most of my years in more conservative areas of the country where multicultural dating and open-minds is a bit of a challenge to do and discern. Weekend over 110K on Weekday only 89K on.. I am in the prime area.. Today I was in the Walmart Neighborhood Market there was two girls/women in the produce department. One of them was in the cart driving into things including me ouch! I had thought this would be a good time to try something. She had an accent and I had know what country she was from. I got both of them talking both are sisters. I could have gotten their number and more. Both were smiling at me and more.. Why didn't ask of they had BF or such I could have got them to cook me an meal. At least I know it can happen when you least expect it.. That's how it should be for all of us!
t1772 Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 one to stay away fron is connectingsingles. that has a lot of scammers. i fell hard for one girl. it really sucked
CryForNoOne Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 Weekend over 110K on Weekday only 89K on.. I am in the prime area.. Today I was in the Walmart Neighborhood Market there was two girls/women in the produce department. One of them was in the cart driving into things including me ouch! I had thought this would be a good time to try something. She had an accent and I had know what country she was from. I got both of them talking both are sisters. I could have gotten their number and more. Both were smiling at me and more.. Why didn't ask of they had BF or such I could have got them to cook me an meal. At least I know it can happen when you least expect it.. That's how it should be for all of us! WTF!!! You didn't ask for their number??? They might have even done that on purpose. That's how girls hit on men!!! Also if you have a Walmart, you're not in a truly prime area. There isn't a Walmart within 1 hour of a metropolis like LA, NYC, or SF...
SwordofFlame Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 Paid sites skew older. If you're in your 20s to early 30s, stick to the free ones as you'll have much more people to choose from. 1
SevenCity Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 WTF!!! You didn't ask for their number??? They might have even done that on purpose. That's how girls hit on men!!! Also if you have a Walmart, you're not in a truly prime area. There isn't a Walmart within 1 hour of a metropolis like LA, NYC, or SF... Actually there is a Walmart in NYC right next to penn station. Coolhead has this hang up of asking girls if they have a bf before he asks them out. Ive never seen that obsession before.
CryForNoOne Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 Actually there is a Walmart in NYC right next to penn station. Coolhead has this hang up of asking girls if they have a bf before he asks them out. Ive never seen that obsession before. It's a K-mart dude. I travel to NYC for business and am at Penn Station all the time. You have to go to NJ to find a Walmart... https://www.yelp.com/search?find_desc=walmart&find_loc=new+york%2C+ny&ns=1
CryForNoOne Posted August 13, 2017 Posted August 13, 2017 Coolhead has this hang up of asking girls if they have a bf before he asks them out. Ive never seen that obsession before. It's called respect.
SevenCity Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 It's a K-mart dude. I travel to NYC for business and am at Penn Station all the time. You have to go to NJ to find a Walmart... https://www.yelp.com/search?find_desc=walmart&find_loc=new+york%2C+ny&ns=1 I stand corrected!
SevenCity Posted August 14, 2017 Posted August 14, 2017 It's called respect. Or missed opportunity...
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