Dmarls84 Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 Hi all, this is a really strange scenario...and its bothering me, so I wanted to ask some advice on how to deal with it. My Ex and I recently split after a 6 yr relationship, it was amicable, there has been no drama. We had the conversation and I made plans to move from our shared home. It was looking good, we were getting on fine and I thought after some initial space of a few months, we would be able to get on and hang out with our joint friends with no issues. I moved out at the end of last week, while she was away on holiday with her friends. I popped back to feet our pets and pick up a few last bits, then left the keys and went for good. When my Ex gets back, she messages me saying that all the flower heads on the flowers in the back yard have been pulled off, particularly the sunflower heads (they were beautiful). She said she was upset, she was clearly being accusation-al. When I was at the house, I didn't even go outside, and I would never do such a thing. It is just not me at all. Now she's being stone cold with me, and is going around telling everyone what a psycho I am. It feels totally unfair, I don't know what to do. This is meant to be a time when were not in contact, but I fell like I need to make it clear that it wasn't me and that I don't know what happened. (Talk about bad timing and a hell of a coincidence). I feel like this is going to really dent any chance of friendship in the future and potentially people I know think I'm a crazy Ex! (which I'm not!) What should I do in this situation?
basil67 Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 How do you know that she's telling everyone? Who is reporting this to you?
Author Dmarls84 Posted August 9, 2017 Author Posted August 9, 2017 we share two friendship groups, it has come in conversation in both, and I definitely feel a few people were being a bit off with me. I didn't make a big deal out of it, I just let it go.
d0nnivain Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 I would say something like After 6 years I can't believe you think so little of me that you think I would stoop to being so petty. I did not destroy the flowers. You need to stop telling people that I did If you don't, I reserve the right to take legal action including suing you for defamation of character. Take care to be guided accordingly. If that doesn't shut her up, I would write a message like that & have it sent to her certified mail.
Author Dmarls84 Posted August 9, 2017 Author Posted August 9, 2017 haha Im not taking legal action over flowers. I am a little upset that she can think I would do that. Im more interested in whether I should just leave it and carry on NC or I should fight my corner a little. Im also kind of thinking that maybe it makes it a bit easier for her to hate me a little, as I havnt given her any opportunity to do so. Maybe she expected me to fight or beg? Maybe this makes it a bit easier for her to move on?
d0nnivain Posted August 9, 2017 Posted August 9, 2017 At the very least you need to tell your friends you didn't do it but take no other actions. You don't know who is hearing these tall tales. What if your boss hears her lies & fires you thinking you are unstable? You really need her to shut up.
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