lovinfun22 Posted August 9, 2005 Posted August 9, 2005 I met this guy over the weekend and it seemed like we hit it off, dancing and talking. I was getting all sorts of signs he was into me, but at the end of each night he would only kiss me on the cheeks. Am I reading too much into this or is he just not interested in me? I would love to get to know him better but don't want to scare him off either. Is it too early to call him? I don't want to seem desperate.
thegoodhubbie Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Sounds to me like he is a bit shy and is just trying to be respectful. I only kissed my wife on the cheek on our first date. I just thought it was the gentlemanly thing to do. Maybe he is the same.
alphamale Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Originally posted by thegoodhubbie Sounds to me like he is a bit shy and is just trying to be respectful. the above is most likely the case in this situation....
country gal Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 just something else to ponder .... i dont know how much you know about this guy, and i dont mean to dampen the air here or anything b/c its most likely a respectfulness (which is very cute, by the way) but i would just be sure he isnt already with someone. on a positive note, people dont touch the faces of someone they arent very connected to in some way - and being that you just met, attraction is a pretty definate factor. did he give you his number or vice versa?
iamwalrus Posted August 10, 2005 Posted August 10, 2005 Originally posted by lovinfun22 Is it too early to call him? I don't want to seem desperate. why the hell do girls worry about that so much? GUYS DONT CARE!!! if a girl that i didnt even know called me and came on to me over the phone, id be like "yeah, sure i suppose we could get a bite to eat sometime" where as a guy calls a girl that he knows and asks her out and she plays the "call me back next week sometime.. as to not sound desperate. that makes no sense. its like showing up at a party. everyone comes at least an hour late as to seem "cool" or "not desperate." i hate that. i dont judge people by how "non desperate" they are, i judge them by how nice they are. but i try not to judge at all, its against my beliefs.
Author lovinfun22 Posted August 10, 2005 Author Posted August 10, 2005 He did not give me his number, but his email address, only because I asked for it? I gave him my number though, but he hasn't called yet, although it's only been a few days since he kissed me goodbye on the cheek. I'm so confused because all of the signs he was giving me were pointing towards something good...and my hope is that he was just being respectful. So if that is the case, should I try to call him, or just wait? If he is really shy, will he still call me? One thing is though, his friend he was with I know to be a player. I am hoping he isn't like that. He is from another country originally and kissing on the cheeks is part of saying hello and goodbye, so maybe he was just being nice?? Although he didn't do that to my other girlfriends that were with me?
Author lovinfun22 Posted August 10, 2005 Author Posted August 10, 2005 why the hell do girls worry about that so much? GUYS DONT CARE!!! Thanks for your input! I didn't think it was a big deal either until I started to think about the possibility that he wasn't into me and whether he may have another girl. I guess I'll never know what could be until I try!
kitkat826 Posted August 11, 2005 Posted August 11, 2005 One thing is though, his friend he was with I know to be a player. I am hoping he isn't like that. He is from another country originally and kissing on the cheeks is part of saying hello and goodbye, so maybe he was just being nice?? Although he didn't do that to my other girlfriends that were with me? Im not sure what ethnicity you are talking about here, but Ive basically dated latino guys my whole life. In many Latin American cultures it is customary to kiss once on the cheek hello, even among family and platonic friends. In fact I got myself in trouble once by doing it not thinking to a Chinese guy I had just met; he called 14 times that weekend thinking that it was a sign that I liked him, when really it was just habit. It may be then that he isnt really interested and is doing it just out of cusom and respect. In this case he wouldnt do it to your girlfriends because he doesnt know them, and even in his culture you dont kiss EVERYONE hello and goodbye, just those you are closest too, because that would take too much time. Or, he could indeed have feelings for you and is just taking it slow. I would hang out with him again and see if I could get him to kiss me on the lips. Also, about being scared to call him again, as long as you feel and act secure about then theres really nothing to fear. Know that you are a great person and will find other people regardless.
kitkat826 Posted August 11, 2005 Posted August 11, 2005 He is from another country originally and kissing on the cheeks is part of saying hello and goodbye, so maybe he was just being nice?? Although he didn't do that to my other girlfriends that were with me? Im not sure what ethnicity you are talking about here, but Ive basically dated latino guys my whole life and have lived in Latin America. In many Latin American cultures it is customary to kiss once on the cheek hello, even among family and platonic friends. In fact I got myself in trouble once by doing it not thinking to a Chinese guy I had just met; he called me 14 times that weekend thinking that it was a sign that I liked him, when really it was just habit. It may be then that he isnt really interested and is doing it just out of cusom and respect. In this case he wouldnt do it to your girlfriends because he doesnt know them, and even in his culture you dont kiss EVERYONE hello and goodbye, just those you are closest too, because that would take too much time. Or, he could indeed have feelings for you and is just taking it slow. I would hang out with him again and see if I could get him to kiss me on the lips. Also, about being scared to call him again, as long as you feel and act secure about then theres really nothing to fear. Know that you are a great person and will find other people regardless.
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