Moslem Posted August 8, 2017 Posted August 8, 2017 Will be going on my 7th date with this girl I've known now for a little over a month. We got along great at first, but it seems as though the "spark" has gone a little bit from her end. I really do like this woman. So, after the 6th date I told her that I was interested in her romantically, not just as friends. She came clean that she was having trouble committing to anyone now because she had been raped last year and was just not ready to commit to anyone. So she knows where I stand on that. She and I then didn't see each other because I had to go away for a week for business. So, I'm back now and she has agreed to meet me after work. We're going to a nice place. So, despite her knowing my feelings for her and her not reciprocating necessarily, she is agreeing to come with me again. Odd I think. I'm not sure what to do with this. I'm not interested in being "just friends" with her because I just don't have that interest. We've never kissed, held hands, etc. NOTHING. It's reaching a point now its either going to happen or its not. What would you do? I'm confused as whether to cancel this and move on, go tonight and then just stop, or what to do...
PegNosePete Posted August 8, 2017 Posted August 8, 2017 I don't think it's going anywhere. She told you she is not ready for a relationship. If you want a relationship then you need to find someone who is ready.
elaine567 Posted August 8, 2017 Posted August 8, 2017 She came clean that she was having trouble committing to anyone now because she had been raped last year and was just not ready to commit to anyone... She has told you exactly where she stands, so you should not feel that you can somehow convince her otherwise. As you have agreed to go out with her again then she will assume that you are OK being friends. This is not just some girl saying she is "unsure" about whether she want to be in a relationship with you and with a bit of wining and dining and having fun, you can persuade her to be your gf - this is a girl who has been raped and that is very serious. IF you want a romantic relationship then you need to walk away from this girl. 2
smackie9 Posted August 8, 2017 Posted August 8, 2017 Tell her you can't be friends and you are doing this to find a relationship...so if the relationship is out so are you. End it and move on. Rape, and moving on with your life from something so tragic is difficult to do. I doubt she will be ready any time soon.
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