stixx Posted August 7, 2017 Posted August 7, 2017 The gal and myself where on the verge of self destruction a few years ago. I just was getting that feeling for personal reasons I wont discuss here. I thought she was it for me and I told her "If we ever break apart I will never be with another woman. Period. Case Closed." Its been about a year now. We still talk at times on the phone but not together. I think I got to comfortable after a decade when I said that, and due to our age we never discussed marriage since we like our space apart. She sits home as a spinster and it don't bother her one bit, but good Lord I should have never spoke those words. How the heck do middle age people meet today that may have anything in common? Online cant work out well. Im not on the pity pot poor me yet but Im getting there fairly fast. How can a gal say "the hell with you and guys?",,but it messes a guy up like he was hit by a Mack Truck? 2
Maldives Posted August 7, 2017 Posted August 7, 2017 (edited) The gal and myself where on the verge of self destruction a few years ago. I just was getting that feeling for personal reasons I wont discuss here. I thought she was it for me and I told her "If we ever break apart I will never be with another woman. Period. Case Closed." Its been about a year now. We still talk at times on the phone but not together. I think I got to comfortable after a decade when I said that, and due to our age we never discussed marriage since we like our space apart. She sits home as a spinster and it don't bother her one bit, but good Lord I should have never spoke those words. How the heck do middle age people meet today that may have anything in common? Online cant work out well. Im not on the pity pot poor me yet but Im getting there fairly fast. How can a gal say "the hell with you and guys?",,but it messes a guy up like he was hit by a Mack Truck? I heard someone say once they had a dream they had a vagina, no one should ever have that much power Edited August 7, 2017 by Goodguy05 1
d0nnivain Posted August 7, 2017 Posted August 7, 2017 I dated again at 35. It was much harder then when I was younger but it is possible. You have to make the effort. Try a combination of the following: 1. On line well because it's 2017 & you have to 2. Singles events. There are lots. I went to 1 where I could take my dog. I was in the process of signing up for one where I could be matched to play golf with somebody. They have wine or beer tasting. Hiking clubs. Ski clubs. Find something that piques your interest 3. Join a coed sports team 4. Go to a bar 5. Volunteer somewhere doing something you care about: rescue dogs; politics, the Elks, the Masons, the Moose, Rotary, Habitat for Humanity etc. 6. Take or teach an adult education class. Nothing for credit but the stuff at the local high school. 7. Tell friends & family you are open to being fixed up. 8. Look around at work. Not your employer per se but in the building, where you get your morning coffee, etc. 9. Go to industry events & networking events. 10. See who is at church 11. Go to alumni events for your high school, college, military service. 2
Author stixx Posted August 8, 2017 Author Posted August 8, 2017 I dated again at 35. It was much harder then when I was younger but it is possible. You have to make the effort. Try a combination of the following: 1. On line well because it's 2017 & you have to 2. Singles events. There are lots. I went to 1 where I could take my dog. I was in the process of signing up for one where I could be matched to play golf with somebody. They have wine or beer tasting. Hiking clubs. Ski clubs. Find something that piques your interest 3. Join a coed sports team 4. Go to a bar 5. Volunteer somewhere doing something you care about: rescue dogs; politics, the Elks, the Masons, the Moose, Rotary, Habitat for Humanity etc. 6. Take or teach an adult education class. Nothing for credit but the stuff at the local high school. 7. Tell friends & family you are open to being fixed up. 8. Look around at work. Not your employer per se but in the building, where you get your morning coffee, etc. 9. Go to industry events & networking events. 10. See who is at church 11. Go to alumni events for your high school, college, military service. Great response list but most of it does not apply I am sorry to say, but Its appreciated. I do like your Bar suggestion. I dont go to bars and dont think thats my thing. Happy hour thing was always a turn off to me and bars are a bit expensive. Dropping 100$ at a bar to even hang with buddies is not my thing. Thats the price of an Upper Deck ticket at a baseball game. I'll take the game. Dunno if I can handle the online thing overall. That seems like it involves a lot. How do you get to know someone in emails and when your phone is going - bla-bing every few minutes. Jeez...I got a buddy who knows this makes me mad and likes to mess with me. He loves to text and email for some reason. Im not a big txt/email guy overall. Church thing is great, but thats tough. My church attendance level was so low it closed and had to switch. There may be hope in this area, but when I go to church all I see is nothing but a sea of blue hair. What do you mean by military service? 1
bummer Posted August 8, 2017 Posted August 8, 2017 You're full of ultimatums and non-starters for a guy looking to start something. Bars are awful unless youre into awful people. Online dating was #1 for a reason, it's your best odds of trolling large swaths of single people in your area. #2 for meetup groups and such also require internet capable individuals but again, large herds of age/activity/religious/political subsets to get started. Military service meaning base socials, outings, etc or local VFW or service member organizations who have events. Dabble in church services at neighboring churches and troll for non-blue haired maidens.
Author stixx Posted August 8, 2017 Author Posted August 8, 2017 You're full of ultimatums and non-starters for a guy looking to start something. Bars are awful unless youre into awful people. Online dating was #1 for a reason, it's your best odds of trolling large swaths of single people in your area. #2 for meetup groups and such also require internet capable individuals but again, large herds of age/activity/religious/political subsets to get started. Military service meaning base socials, outings, etc or local VFW or service member organizations who have events. Dabble in church services at neighboring churches and troll for non-blue haired maidens. Bars are horrible I do agree. Sooo,,, trolling online I might get a stable woman? Thanks but I cant see how that wont bring baggage. Could be wrong but I read just about every post on Graigslist for women looking for men. Good gosh I think its connection for prostitution. I found one gal that seemed honest on CL out of them all... She posts "I only want a companion and not head games. I have to be honest and I am a larger shaped woman so dont mail me with insults. Will travel if you can work with me for basic companionship". CL seems goofy, but I will actually give anyone my number not because I am a desperate dude. If your not in my contacts you go nowhere. I dont even know where it goes but it dont get to me. Ppl get 100% pure nada from me. You get a double beep if you call and it hangs up. LOL. Gotta love Verizon and an app or two.
umirano Posted August 8, 2017 Posted August 8, 2017 Why are sport clubs or meet ups a no go? Everyone has their no-gos. I couldn't do church. Online dating should be okcupid, POF or tinder, not craigslist, in my opinion.
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