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Is he doing the slow fade?


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I was dating a man for approximately 8 weeks and we saw each other on average once a week. After our last date (last weekend) he suddenly started texting much less, though he did call a couple times. I missed the calls. He simply said hope you had a great day, just wanted to say hi. I sensed he was distant, but I did end up responding via text saying I was sorry I missed his call and hope he had a good day also. We had plans to get together this past Thursday, and he has ALWAYS been the one to reconfirm, always asked, can we make time to see each other this week, etc. Nothing, I got nothing all week. He never brought it up so I mentioned something that day about it and said I needed to reschedule the date, that the week had caught up to me, etc. I apologized. To all this I got "OK". I've heard nothing more from him. I do feel he was starting to fade, however I was starting to like this guy. He started talking about doing this or that in the near future. And now he's fallen off the radar. I want to ask what happened. Not sure I should do that. Do I just let him go? Thanks in advance for your advise!!

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OP, do you initiate contact and dates as well? Or just wait for him to do so?

 

Perhaps he's not sure what your interest level is. Is there a reason you texted instead of calling him back after you'd missed his calls?

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Once a week is weak interest in itself. More than likely he's multi dating.

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I see it the other way.

Once a week in 8 weeks is probable dating.

This is how I read your post...

Stopped texting starting calling..good thing, he is moving in right direction

He initiating, he initiating, he initiating, he initiating...oh I missed calls, sorry

 

He got tired of chasing you.

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I can say as a guy that's been around the block a few times, the cat and mouse games during the courtship phase gets old. I don't mind pursuing, but a little effort and initiative from the other person is nice. Maybe he met someone who appreciates his efforts more? If you really like this guy OP, show some initiative. Reach out to him and in no uncertain terms tell him you'd like to see him sometime and make plans

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Thanks for the replays. I did reach out to him and he agreed to meet again. He also called today. Also, though, I see he is back on 3 dating sites ( that I found anyway) so I'm no really sure what to think. Day by day.

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