Drcquill Posted August 6, 2017 Posted August 6, 2017 I'm 31 and have been out of the dating game for a long time. I finally met someone who I think is wonderful we quickly hit it off and have gradually been spending more and more time together and frequently texting throughout the day. We have officially been dating for 4 weeks but have technically been seeing eachother for 6. He often tells me he likes me a lot and misses me when I am not around, he is always kind and polite and has even told me to leave a toothbrush at his house. He has recently met my family and my children (as my friend) he even suggested meeting them this wasn't me pushing it. We also talk a lot about our future. On the other hand he did mention me having.to meet his friends but I haven't, he often texts me hours after checking Facebook in the morning. He has brought me to his parents house while they are away but hasn't even made mention of me. I don't even think they know I exist. He does bring me out on dates in public we hold hands and kiss in public. I'm confused. Do I have something to worry about or am I just reading into it too much.
d0nnivain Posted August 6, 2017 Posted August 6, 2017 You are over-reading this. Calm down before your anxiety blows this for you. 1
preraph Posted August 6, 2017 Posted August 6, 2017 You're expecting too much too soon. Geez, it's only been a month. It's not TIME for commitment. You can't know each other well enough yet. Stop fretting and try to just enjoy the dates. 1
BC1980 Posted August 6, 2017 Posted August 6, 2017 It's only been a month. As a general rule (for myself), I give it three months to establish exclusivity. After that, I'm not wasting anymore time. However, I would not allow a man to meet my family and children (if I had any) at this point unless we were exclusive. I also would not leave a toothbrush at his house if you're not exclusive. Are you his girlfriend? Are you exclusive? I get the feeling you are moving at a different rate than him. You say his parents might not even know you exist, but he's met your parents and you're leaving a toothbrush at his house. That's lopsided, so I'm not surprised you are anxious.
Author Drcquill Posted August 7, 2017 Author Posted August 7, 2017 We are exclusive and this was him asking me to be his girlfriend.
d0nnivain Posted August 7, 2017 Posted August 7, 2017 The good stuff is good. What you see as the bad stuff, isn't bad. It's you over reading this. It doesn't matter that he checks FB before texting you. If you want to meet his friends, say hey lets do something with your friends next week. How hard is that?
BC1980 Posted August 7, 2017 Posted August 7, 2017 We are exclusive and this was him asking me to be his girlfriend. Then I think you are probably fine.
Author Drcquill Posted August 9, 2017 Author Posted August 9, 2017 Yup this was me just being nuts! He mentioned today that he talked about me to his parents and that a comment I made I would have to tell his parents about. I haven't dated in nearly 10 years so a lot of this dating thing seems to be guess work
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