Amazin Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 Obviously you can do that through action as well but I'm thinking of just tell her. This will allow me to find out for sure and iron out any uncertainties. Don't want to make it dramatic or anything because it shouldn't be a big deal. I've know her for 6 months and we been hanging out together quite a few times now but I've got a feeling she's still confused. I really want to know what she's really thinking. There's a good chance she won't reciprocate the feeling. How would you do it if you were in my position?
Robratory Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 Yes, just tell her. Next time you're hanging out, tell her, "I really like you."
preraph Posted August 6, 2017 Posted August 6, 2017 I wouldn't tell her. I'd show her by asking her if she wants to go on a real date. That should open the subject if she feels she and you are just friends. 4
The411 Posted August 6, 2017 Posted August 6, 2017 Obviously you can do that through action as well but I'm thinking of just tell her. This will allow me to find out for sure and iron out any uncertainties. Don't want to make it dramatic or anything because it shouldn't be a big deal. I've know her for 6 months and we been hanging out together quite a few times now but I've got a feeling she's still confused. I really want to know what she's really thinking. There's a good chance she won't reciprocate the feeling. How would you do it if you were in my position? Step 1. Ask her out Step 2. Kiss her Step 3. Have sex Step 4. Profit Never tell a girl you like her. Nothing kills attraction like telling a girl you like her. She knows you are into her when you ask her out. Make sure to kiss her and escalate to sex.
Erik30 Posted August 6, 2017 Posted August 6, 2017 You don't tell her you like her... ask her out and make clear it's intended to be a date, not just friends hanging out. 2
coolheadal Posted August 6, 2017 Posted August 6, 2017 Obviously you can do that through action as well but I'm thinking of just tell her. This will allow me to find out for sure and iron out any uncertainties. Don't want to make it dramatic or anything because it shouldn't be a big deal. I've know her for 6 months and we been hanging out together quite a few times now but I've got a feeling she's still confused. I really want to know what she's really thinking. There's a good chance she won't reciprocate the feeling. How would you do it if you were in my position? Before you do anything just make sure she's really into 100%. 1. Does she smile a lot at you? 2. Does she get really excited your around her away's? 3. Does she stare at you when you sit down to eat? 4. Does she text or call you a lot of cell? 5. Does she really seem to be really into you? If you say yes to all above then, start to make sure she's not seeing anyone else. That you know or don't know about? Now do this.. 1. Ask her what are you plans for this weekend? 2. Beside me is their anyone else you are hanging out with? 3. What type of flowers do you like, and what color is your favorite one? 4. What do you really like doing right now? 5. What do you really like to eat for dinner, what type of desert do you like? 6. Do you like to hold hands, do you like cuddle, snuggle on the couch? 7. What is your dream guy all about, what attracts you? You got to ask her these 7 questions above.. If everything looks good on paper she's not seeing anyone or into anyone else. She might say to number 7 she's really into you. Then okay you have ace this. Now find place to eat since you know what she likes to have dinner and desert you can do either one. I would reach over and hold her hands at this point. Then when the moment is right give her a kiss on the lips. Never say to her that you like or care about her. Let her be the first to say that to you. The big magical words that is "I love you", I am so much in love with you" this one I love you (your name goes here). Wait for her to say these words are better coming from her. When you get this point then you can go to the next level. Just make sure it's the right move if you want a long term dating partner you need make sure they're really into you 100%. Good luck!
smackie9 Posted August 6, 2017 Posted August 6, 2017 Don't hang out for months with a girl you like, that's your first mistake. If you like a girl you ask her out on a date right away...that tells her you are interested in her romantically without any pressure. And being up front right from the start shows you have confidence and have ballz, which girls find attractive. Just blurting out "I really like you" will put her in an awkward position and make her run. 4
SevenCity Posted August 6, 2017 Posted August 6, 2017 Before you do anything just make sure she's really into 100%. 1. Does she smile a lot at you? 2. Does she get really excited your around her away's? 3. Does she stare at you when you sit down to eat? 4. Does she text or call you a lot of cell? 5. Does she really seem to be really into you? If you say yes to all above then, start to make sure she's not seeing anyone else. That you know or don't know about? Now do this.. 1. Ask her what are you plans for this weekend? 2. Beside me is their anyone else you are hanging out with? 3. What type of flowers do you like, and what color is your favorite one? 4. What do you really like doing right now? 5. What do you really like to eat for dinner, what type of desert do you like? 6. Do you like to hold hands, do you like cuddle, snuggle on the couch? 7. What is your dream guy all about, what attracts you? You got to ask her these 7 questions above.. If everything looks good on paper she's not seeing anyone or into anyone else. She might say to number 7 she's really into you. Then okay you have ace this. Now find place to eat since you know what she likes to have dinner and desert you can do either one. I would reach over and hold her hands at this point. Then when the moment is right give her a kiss on the lips. Never say to her that you like or care about her. Let her be the first to say that to you. The big magical words that is "I love you", I am so much in love with you" this one I love you (your name goes here). Wait for her to say these words are better coming from her. When you get this point then you can go to the next level. Just make sure it's the right move if you want a long term dating partner you need make sure they're really into you 100%. Good luck! Make sure you also sever your nut sack and present your balls in a gift wrapped box. But not just any box! Make sure you ask her what type she likes! Being a man is going for what you want and not asking permission. You don't need her obvious reciprocation. Ask her out on a date and be clear it's not as friends. If she's not interested it's her loss and you move onto the next. Be a man. You'll get farther with women. 5
5x5 Posted August 8, 2017 Posted August 8, 2017 Before you do anything just make sure she's really into 100%. 1. Does she smile a lot at you? 2. Does she get really excited your around her away's? 3. Does she stare at you when you sit down to eat? 4. Does she text or call you a lot of cell? 5. Does she really seem to be really into you? If you say yes to all above then, start to make sure she's not seeing anyone else. That you know or don't know about? If a man waits for everything to be perfect before they act, they will frequently find that the moment has already passed. If he gets on with her and they both feel that tingling in the air and all the rest they can then act on that. Absent that tingling there's nothing sexually/chemically that is worth pursuing romantically. Now do this.. 1. Ask her what are you plans for this weekend? 2. Beside me is their anyone else you are hanging out with? 3. What type of flowers do you like, and what color is your favorite one? 4. What do you really like doing right now? 5. What do you really like to eat for dinner, what type of desert do you like? 6. Do you like to hold hands, do you like cuddle, snuggle on the couch? 7. What is your dream guy all about, what attracts you? You got to ask her these 7 questions above.. Perhaps not. If one is determined to limit themselves to platonic relationships the approach recommended above would certainly help to achieve that. 1. Ask her what are you plans for this weekend? That's rather passive, it shouldn't matter what her plans are and nor should he care what they are. If he wants to spend time with her on the weekend he should just ask her out regardless of her plans, if she is interested in spending time with him she'll make time to do exactly that. 2. Beside me is their anyone else you are hanging out with? Filler, she's fair game. If she isn't fair game she'll probably let him know if she turns him down. Then if he is turned down he can stop wasting his time and get on with pursuing others. There are also lots of long term sexual relationships, that started with one of those involved already in a sexual relationship with someone else. If she has a boyfriend or friends with benefits and or six month orbiters like Amazin, he shouldn't care if he wants her and she wants him just the same. That said waiting six months and not striking while the iron is hot has probably regulated him to the friend zone. 3. What type of flowers do you like, and what color is your favorite one? Sure such questions are useful in that they answer a specific question, yet they are superfluous for determining if a woman is interested in you. Plus knowing what flowers someone likes so that you can get said flowers, does not make someone sexually attractive to the other. 4. What do you really like doing right now? Filler so thick with a dose of "really" extra emphasis, you need a giant spatula to move it around! 5. What do you really like to eat for dinner, what type of desert do you like? More filler, not that it's a bad question it's just that it's not a question one has got to ask. That said the emphasis on really is not necessary it's okay to be low key, "what's your favourite food?" is sufficient and then you share your favourites etc. One doesn't need to take notes, one of the nice things about dating and starting new sexual relationships is you share your interests, try new things and have your partners do the same. That said this basic conversation stuff shouldn't require a script or planning. Conversation should come naturally, if it doesn't it's fair to say he would be barking up the wrong tree. 6. Do you like to hold hands, do you like cuddle, snuggle on the couch? Not an important question, this is filler if one doesn't have the wherewithal to actually found this out through action the question is moot just as it is also superfluous. 7. What is your dream guy all about, what attracts you? What's the point of asking that? He shouldn't be interested in who she lusts after. If the woman finds him attractive he ought to know. If he doesn't know he could ask (which is passive) or he could just get to the point and demonstrate some confidence and get on with it. If the point is to determine what kind of man does it for her, so that he can then adjust himself accordingly. He will be wasting his time asking, since the wheels are bound to fall off at some point when pretending to be something he isn't. Likewise if the point is to determine if he meets that ideal, he does himself no favours by being passive through asking. If one wants to know if a woman is attracted to them and that woman hasn't made it clear, all they have to do is ask them out on a date and act accordingly and or tell her they want to have sex with her in whatever approach fits the situation best. If everything looks good on paper she's not seeing anyone or into anyone else. She might say to number 7 she's really into you. Then okay you have ace this. Now find place to eat since you know what she likes to have dinner and desert you can do either one. I would reach over and hold her hands at this point. Then when the moment is right give her a kiss on the lips. Uh huh... how to bore a woman to no end. Instead of something fresh and different for her, you are recommending doing things that she already does AKA boring her. Removing her from her comfort zone in pleasant ways can be fun and titillating. If she says "she's really into you" not a likely response by the way to that question, he will have lost points on being passive. There's better activities to do than dinner. Plus dining at a table is not conducive to holding hands or kissing, since it can be awkward when attempted across a barrier like a table. Unless of course one is willing to clear the table of it's obstacles and have at it, which is not recommended when dining near others. Never say to her that you like or care about her. Let her be the first to say that to you. The big magical words that is "I love you", I am so much in love with you" this one I love you (your name goes here). Wait for her to say these words are better coming from her. When you get this point then you can go to the next level. Nonsense if he feels that way and he judges the timing well based upon her own behaviour and responses he can say all those words if and when they apply. That said overemphasis like using "so much" and "really" a lot" is a bit too saccharine for many. If you end up feeling you love someone, it is enough to say "I love you" without embellishment. Of course this is tempered with know your audience. So if one is with a woman who resembles a princess in a Disney film, going full cringe might work well. What's the next level? The only reason why I am asking this is because I don't know what you mean. At the very least I figure it isn't sex (although I could be wrong). Since through 28 years of having sex with plenty of women, plus having three long term sexual relationships that include 2 marriages. One of which has happily lasted 18+ years thus far, sex always came a long time before I love you's were exchanged. If one wants to have a great long term sexual relationship, personality and intellectual compatibility on their own is not enough just as lust and high sexual attraction on their own aren't enough, one needs it all to work well. Just make sure it's the right move if you want a long term dating partner you need make sure they're really into you 100%. When it comes to sexual relationships long term and otherwise, one would be better off being bold early, rather than waiting interminably in order to make sure someone is into you with 100% certainty. Sexual attraction is known early, if it isn't there at the beginning one is wasting their time going forward. This approach where one thinks that it is best to ask what a woman finds attractive in the hopes that they will say it is the asker. Is insipid and does not inspire confidence, nor always remove ambiguity. It is a passive and cowardly approach, when talking to women. If one wants to establish a sexual relationships with a woman they ought to pursue it with some confidence. Good luck! Indeed. A more confident and assertive approach is far more attractive than a passive and anxious one. Particular word usage is largely superfluous, and waiting interminably before acting is inertia that kills attraction. Be bold! 1
normal person Posted August 8, 2017 Posted August 8, 2017 I can't "like" that post above enough. Very well said. I've know her for 6 months and we been hanging out together quite a few times now but I've got a feeling she's still confused. Don't make the mistake of assuming you know how she's feeling, if she's feeling anything at all just because it would help narrative of the story you tell yourself. I see young guys do this a lot, they'll tell themselves "I like this girl, but the only reason we're not together is because she's probably just X, so I'll have to do is change X and we can be together." Sure, you could be right, but odds are you aren't and you're not together for some other reason entirely, like, maybe she's not interested in you because as humans we just aren't interested in most other people. You're imagining this scenario in your head, just don't discount the very real possibility that she simply just might not think of you that way. You're not a mind reader, don't assume she's "confused," "hurt," or "shy," anything else. You don't know, and that attitude might lead you to shoot yourself in the foot and ruin a friendship if you misread it. I really want to know what she's really thinking. There's a good chance she won't reciprocate the feeling. Well, I'm glad you realize that. If she's giving you any kind of hint, why don't you just go for it? There's no other way besides taking the reigns yourself and just making a move. I once became really great friends with a girl who had a boyfriend. When they broke up, there was a gigantic sexual tension between us and it was pretty obvious that there was only one way to break it, and it was basically her giving a green light and me acting on it. Is she giving you any green lights, and if so, what are you waiting for? If she's seemingly ambivalent towards you, maybe you should check your interpretation of the situation again. How would you do it if you were in my position? I'd read the context of the situation, try to form an unbiased opinion of it, and take appropriate action, if any.
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