Is he trying to get back at me by blocking me or just trying to focus on his problems

[Cdm15]

y ex and i had a bad breakup. Outside issues always seemed to break us down and cause us to take out our anger on eachother. We broke up a couple of times in the past but never like this last one in May. He blocked me on everything except for whatsapp so that we could have some contact after he moved to Ireland in June mostly on a whim to be with some of his family and to figure himself out. I think he thought a new scenery could help him and maybe it could. (He has admitted himself he has a drinking problem), but another part of me thinks he won't stay there for long. We had some contact prior to him officially leaving. He told me he would always love me and doesn't want to find anyone else. When he first left I didn't speak to him for a month after he left because I wanted to give him space after he left. He told me prior that he blocked me on other things because it would hurt too much to see me and he didn't want to deal with that. I finally texted him after the month because something I saw reminded me of him. He responded without anger and seemed like everything was fine. But then he blocked me on whatsapp shortly after. I'm very confused right now. I don't know why he did this. If it hurt too much to hear from me after a month? Since he didn't say leave me alone or anything but responded nicely makes me believe he cannot be angry. He didn't have to even respond at all. Now I kinda let it go. It's been another month and clearly we haven't spoken. My sister however recently posted videos of me on snap, and once he saw them he unfollowed her on snap(not on any other social media since this is the only site she posted me on) they don't have any issues so Can it be that it just hurts too much to see me?. People keep saying he will come back and contact me but I don't even know why I care so much if he does. He is not seeing anyone else. I know this for sure. he also told me before he moved he would be coming back to visit in September. I honestly just want an objective opinion. Did he block me to focus on himself and will he reach out when he is ready? Any advice or thoughts on the situation are appreciated.

[preraph]

I think he softened the blow by leaving whatsapp open but then blocked you entirely. I don't think he hates you, but I think he wants to move on without you. I wouldn't expect you to see him when he moves. If he has a drinking problem, he's probably just generally very unhappy. If you also drink, he would never be able to quit and be with you too. If you don't drink, he knows he can't be with you as long as he is drinking. So in short, he needs to address his drinking problem and then move ahead with his life and get away from his former triggers.

[bummer]

I read into it that he is working on himself and it isn't petty. Let him fix himself.

[ExpatInItaly]

It honestly just sounds as though he knows that you two don't belong together and he's trying to move on.

[d0nnivain]

He's an EX. He's out of your life. That means you two no longer interact on any platform. He cut you out because you are not part of his future.

 

Stop worrying about what he's doing or why. Focus on yourself. Heal. Move on.