Someoneee Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 Hello! So my ex bf broke up with me a little over a month ago and we've been in no contact from the beginning because it was a very bad break up. I've had a really hard time since then and i still cry occasionally. But the thing is that we live 10minutes apart and he still opens my Snapchat stories. So one day i was hanging with one guy at my place and put a story on Snapchat with him and later we went for a walk and i took another pic of the sunset here where i live (keep in mind that my ex knew where the pic was taken cuz he lives here too). So then one hour after that me and that guy were walking around a little more and where this guy had his car there was my ex standing and leaning on his own car and he saw us together. So the guy went home and i walked to my house (which is about 5min away from where my ex was) and while i was walking my ex went past me with his car (btw since the break up he hasn't been around where i live) so i was surprised and he had music very loud and after 1 minute he went past again but i took another path to go home but i heard the music from the car. And then the next day i saw my exes car parked like 100m away from my house- we used to hang there but I'm not sure he was in the car. But still.. what do you guys think? Was he waiting for me and this guy there the other day? Did he go past me on purpose? I don't know what to think because he is literally everything.
whatnot Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 Hello! So my ex bf broke up with me a little over a month ago and we've been in no contact from the beginning because it was a very bad break up. I've had a really hard time since then and i still cry occasionally. But the thing is that we live 10minutes apart and he still opens my Snapchat stories. So one day i was hanging with one guy at my place and put a story on Snapchat with him and later we went for a walk and i took another pic of the sunset here where i live (keep in mind that my ex knew where the pic was taken cuz he lives here too). So then one hour after that me and that guy were walking around a little more and where this guy had his car there was my ex standing and leaning on his own car and he saw us together. So the guy went home and i walked to my house (which is about 5min away from where my ex was) and while i was walking my ex went past me with his car (btw since the break up he hasn't been around where i live) so i was surprised and he had music very loud and after 1 minute he went past again but i took another path to go home but i heard the music from the car. And then the next day i saw my exes car parked like 100m away from my house- we used to hang there but I'm not sure he was in the car. But still.. what do you guys think? Was he waiting for me and this guy there the other day? Did he go past me on purpose? I don't know what to think because he is literally everything.sounds more like a break rather than an actual break up. I'm unsure you all are finished. time will tell
ExpatInItaly Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 I can't begin to guess why he was parked nearby or drove past you, but I will say if it was a way to get your attention, he's quite immature. How long were you together, and why did you break up? Did you post those things on social media hoping your ex would see?
Author Someoneee Posted August 5, 2017 Author Posted August 5, 2017 Amm he broke up with me for good I'm pretty sure. Cuz it was a very disfunkcional relationship and it was toxic. He would break up with me before but the most it would last a week. Now it's been almost two months
Author Someoneee Posted August 5, 2017 Author Posted August 5, 2017 And we were together for a year and a half.. but it was very toxic but I thought we loved eachother. And I wasn't sure he was gonna see my SC story, sometimes he doesn't.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 And we were together for a year and a half.. but it was very toxic but I thought we loved eachother. And I wasn't sure he was gonna see my SC story, sometimes he doesn't. Why not just block/delete him from social media and be done with him? 1
Author Someoneee Posted August 5, 2017 Author Posted August 5, 2017 Why not just block/delete him from social media and be done with him? Because i still care.. he wanted to break up, I didn't. I blocked him on fb and ig, and removed him from snapchat but didn't block hm. I wanted so bad for him to come back but he never did. And it made me happy that maybe he waited and went past me on purpose
ExpatInItaly Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 Because i still care.. he wanted to break up, I didn't. I blocked him on fb and ig, and removed him from snapchat but didn't block hm. I wanted so bad for him to come back but he never did. And it made me happy that maybe he waited and went past me on purpose Girl, you describe your relationship as toxic and dysfunctional. Relationships like that don't last, and you're only in for more pain if you wind up with him again. I speak from experience. How old are you both? Is this your first relationship?
Author Someoneee Posted August 5, 2017 Author Posted August 5, 2017 Girl, you describe your relationship as toxic and dysfunctional. Relationships like that don't last, and you're only in for more pain if you wind up with him again. I speak from experience. How old are you both? Is this your first relationship? I'm 17 and he's 19.. and yes it's for both of us first serious relationship. I mean, he was my first kiss and everything and we were eachothers everything. But we would fight a lot but always solve it and he would always tell me he loves me + we were together almost everyday and he always said that even tho we fight he never wanted to lose me. And then the day he broke up with me he was very rude, then ge would cry, and then be rude again and i just went home cuz I couldn't stay near him anymore and now after all we've been together we don't even look at each other. I mean if u wanna know more details there are 2 other threads started by me about it
d0nnivain Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 First of all your EX BF is not everything. He's just a guy. Get him off the pedestal. Second this was a 1st relationship for you both & you are both learning how to be broken up, just like you learned how to be together. In the olden days before social media, people did exactly what your EX did, drove or walk past the person's house after the break up. It doesn't mean your EX wants to get back together. It might mean that he's not over what he thinks is you getting over him. He saw your Snapchat post with this other guy as some indication that you moved on & it made him jealous or curious. Either way, those negative emotions are not a desire to reconcile. As much as you want him back, fully disconnecting on ALL social media by blocking is the best solution. You don't need to give him a window into your new life. Unless you two have addressed & fully resolved all of the issues that broke you apart, getting back together is not a solution. 1
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