RocktheCasbah Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 Hello everyone! I am a 14 year old boy. I am in desperate need of what to do. I managed to ask a girl out with me to the county fair this Saturday. She said yes (obviously lol). Now I don't know what to do. Should I buy wristbands so we can ride all the rides? (They're kind of expensive) Or should I just buy tickets? Also how should I deal with the pushy carnies? I have been researching how to win some different games so I can show her I'm not a loser haha and so she can get something. What do we talk about? How do I make it not awkward? My mom, older sister, and I are picking her up at her house. Should my mom come up with me? I was thinking of wearing a polo shirt with cargo shorts so she knows that I'm serious. This is my first real "date" so I don't know what to do, how to act, or what to say. I know it won't be any near as hard as I think it will be, but I could still use tips. Thanks guys and please don't be perverts. 1
Ami1uwant Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 Remember to breathe and relax..... Have the money with you and ask what she wants to do. Maybe she's not one to go on rides or only wants to do just one ride lime s ferris wheel Sre you meeting friends there ???
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 I'm a mom to a 14 year old boy so I feel like I can answer with some authority . Don't have your mom walk up to the door with you, but expect her mother or father might want to go out to your car to meet your mother. Maybe not, though, so be prepared to be charming in small talk with one or both of her parents. (Bonus points for you if you ask them a question about themselves, such as, "are you having a good summer?") I probably would just advise tickets instead of a wrist band because I suspect you'll do a lot of just walking around and talking, eating, and playing games, so it might be a waste of money to buy a ticket if you don't go on enough rides. As far as the games, just have a good attitude and don't get upset if you don't win. Those games are designed so you do NOT win and they make money! The fun is in the trying. She won't think you're a "loser" if she doesn't get an ugly pink dinosaur to take home . Finally, here are some good conversation starters. Memorize them or put them into your smart phone! 1. Did you go on vacation this summer? (Ask her where, if so, and what it was like there) (Or, if you know she did, ask her what the best part of it was, if all that family time got on her nerves (joke about this, don't be serious), ask who took care of their pets while they were gone if they have them). 2. Compliment something about her outfit/the way she looks. Like her cute shoes? Tell her. Think her braided hair looks nice? Tell her. 3. Ask her what her favorite ride at the fair is. Go on it. 4. Ask her what her favorite snack is at the fair. Get it for her. 5. Ask her if she's been staying in contact with school friends over the summer. Has she seen any of her friends? What fun things have they done? 6. "Do you think 8th/9th grade is going to be hard? Do you think so-and-so teacher will be easy or hard? What subject are you most worried about or looking forward to?" 7. What do you think of that new Emoji movie? I can't decide if it looks funny or dumb! What's your favorite emoji? 8. Will she be playing any fall sports at school? Did practice start yet? Or maybe marching band? This is something good to ask about too. I'm sure other adults can add some suggestions. Just go and have fun . Your outfit sounds perfect! 2
basil67 Posted August 4, 2017 Posted August 4, 2017 Regarding the cost: it wasn't too long ago that my daughter was your age and going on her first dates. At this age, it's completely normal to go dutch. You're a student and if she has an ounce of commonsense, she will know that you don't have disposable income. My daughter is now 18 and it's still completely normal to share costs. 1
Steve51 Posted August 5, 2017 Posted August 5, 2017 I went to a few State Fairs when I was your age. I just bought tickets to whatever rides she wanted to go one. I liked the rides where we had to be close to each other. A lot of girls do not like rides so don't spring for a wrist band. I always won something for my date but not at those rigged carnie games. At the wheel of fortune or the one where you squirt to move a car to the finish line first. There are plenty of games that will give yo u a $3 prize if you spend 5-10$ trying. My dad worked the games at Fairs and told me how all the games look easy but have things that makes them much harder than they appear. He said that he could spin a wheel and get it to stop on a number that no one bet on or few bet on. No tricks, just lots of practice. Always had a good time just walking around holding hands. In any spook houses or tunnel of love, try giving her a kiss if she seems receptive.
Author RocktheCasbah Posted August 5, 2017 Author Posted August 5, 2017 I went to a few State Fairs when I was your age. I just bought tickets to whatever rides she wanted to go one. I liked the rides where we had to be close to each other. A lot of girls do not like rides so don't spring for a wrist band. I always won something for my date but not at those rigged carnie games. At the wheel of fortune or the one where you squirt to move a car to the finish line first. There are plenty of games that will give yo u a $3 prize if you spend 5-10$ trying. My dad worked the games at Fairs and told me how all the games look easy but have things that makes them much harder than they appear. He said that he could spin a wheel and get it to stop on a number that no one bet on or few bet on. No tricks, just lots of practice. Always had a good time just walking around holding hands. In any spook houses or tunnel of love, try giving her a kiss if she seems receptive. Thank you I just worry that I won't just go with the flow. I made another post with more details. Thanks!
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